stm+ question (especially if you are a sahm or work p/t or shifts)

SallyAnneS

My poor child... He is 3 and very high energy.  I am so tired and moody and cranky and just feeling so blah. I am finding it really hard to keep up with him and not over react to his outbursts. But it really isn't easy. And we are also potty training this week which is taking up a lot of extra energy being so completely focus on him during the day to catch and accidents.

How are you coping and handling your symptoms and being a "good" parent?

(Bit more info, I am home all day with him and work evenings 5 days a week so going to be early isn't even really an option *yawn*)  

thegoodpotato

There's no secret.  Sometimes you're crazy, and you just have to hold it in.

I've got a three year old and an 11mo baby.  It's hard, but you adjust to doing everything at the same time eventually.  Try to get DH to help a little more in the morning - this is what keeps my sanity.  DH gets up and gets the coffee and breakfast on the go.  Changes the baby's diaper, feeds her a bottle, and has the toddler pee.

The fact that I can chill a little in the morning really, really helps.

cannolioh

I am a mostly* stay at home mom also, so I can commiserate. I haven't started feeling sick yet, but I am definitely exhausted.

I don't have any great advice, but I understand where you are coming from. I think it is ok to not always be a perfect parent. Sometimes you will be too tired or too grumpy and overact, it is normal, try not to be so hard on yourself and just do the best you can.

LilTiger15

my DH helps a lot--the only way I am managing.  I am waiting for 2nd trimester when I know I'll feel better and have more energy to potty train my 2.5 year old.  Is there a reason you have to potty train right now? 

SallyAnneS

I am really lucky that my dh is a huge help. I have been taking progesterone so I have to lay down for a bit in the morning to let it soak in, or at least that is what I tell myself, so he gets ds ready in the morning. 

Ds needs to be potty trained for preschool in September. We tried to PT him in the winter but it didn't work out. Today he told me he didn't want to put a new diaper on so I just went with it. It has to work this time. 

ForeverAmberNicole

I have no help or advice just wanted to say Good luck with potty training him.

krispy83

I feel you!  I have a 28 month old and the exhaustion is killing me.  We potty trained a few weeks ago right as the exhaustion was kicking in.  Right now, I'm trying to take him to the park in the mornings so he can run around and burn off some energy without me necessarily having to chase him every second.  We have a sandbox in the backyard that he loves playing in, so he'll dig happily in that and I can sit outside with him.  I also find myself napping during his naptime, instead of cleaning or laundry or whatever else I would normally do.  That stuff can wait until later.  Do you have friends nearby with kids that you can set up playdates or park dates?  Then the kids can play together and tire each other out

sgautschi

My daughter is almost 9 months. I'm a SAHM and I still BF. It's tough. I don't have any secrets, except maybe trying to get some "me time" when DH is home, even if you just lay on the bed and stare at the ceiling. I can relate though, I am so tired and I can barely keep up with my hunger.

jmcgra06

I've been trying to take walks during the morning - the fresh air seems to help DD unwind and get ready for naps, and it helps to energize me, even though it never seems like it's going to when I am lacing my shoes! I also let myself be lazy for certain periods of time. I find that if I try to be "on" all the time, I'm worse for long periods of time. When DD naps, I just relax and hang out, instead of running around trying to clean up. I think she has actually been happier lately because I have been giving her a little less time over all, but a lot more quality time.

bookworm982

Do you have anyone who can help? I've been sick with pneumonia, and when ladies at church found out about it, three separate women brought in meals and others have volunteered to babysit if needed. I'm normally an I can do it myself kind of person, but I decided being sick has been a blessing in disguise because I've had needed help without fessing up about the pregnancy.

kimb311

I have no words of wisdom. I'm right there with you. Except add to the fact that I'm old (41) my temper is short with her, my energy is low but the guilt is HIGH!
I too have let the house work go and have taken to napping with her....when she naps, that is. She picked a fine time to start dropping her nap. MOMMA needs that nap girl!

KateAida

I don't know if this is an option, but you could check if local churches had a Vacation Bible School that allow for ages 3 and up. I know a few churches in our area go that young, but they might need to be potty trained. Worth a shot!