Siblings with close birth dates

ImBlessed2011

How did your oldest feel about sharing a birthday month and party with their younger sibling?

martha919

DDs birthday is two weeks before her half-sister's (12), and SD loves it. However, the "parties" at our house are kind of extra because SS and SD have parties (family and friends separate) at their mom's first, so I don't know how she'd feel if they lived with us and we had one combined party for both girls. If that makes any sense whatsoever.

ImBlessed2011

Darbie914 said:

My brother and sister share a birthday month and it has always been a combined party, which I know was economical for my parents but kind o a bummer for them. I think if my parents tried to give them each their own celebration every few years, it would have made them feel more special.

That's something I considered. We each had our own birthday month growing up. I thought we could give each their own special day but do the parties together. This should be our last child, with two I don't know if one would feel left out. My daughter is extremely excited we told her about the party sharing and she seemed really happy but you know how that can change..

MissyC979

It's touch and go right now, as far as DS1 wanting to share his party. My due date was the day after his birthday and he decided the baby was his birthday present last year. They ended up being 10 days apart and we'll need to have joint parties because they are so close and there is so much going on in December. DS1 keeps saying he doesn't want to share his birthday party. I'm hoping to do something special for him and possibly a couple friends closer to his birthday, then have the family party be a joint thing. He just needs to get used to the joint party thing, especially given that they are both December birthdays.

KTdidit

My birthday is 11 days after my little bro's. We always had separate friend parties but one combined family party - cousins/aunts/uncles etc. And we had cake for mom/dad/me/him on our actual birthday. We never minded because we understood getting all the family together twice a month was unneccessary. 

FalconCrest

DH and his brother have birthdays 5 days apart.  They always had combined birthday parties and DH hated that. 

PeanutButterFox

My girls' birthdays are 10 days apart. It never occurred to me to combine their parties, maybe if they were closer in age I would. DD1 loves their birthdays being close because it means 2 weeks of cake.

Littledeer84

My sister and I were born 363 days apart. Always shared parties (stopped having them around 10 yrs old). But we enjoyed it, I dont remember feeling resentful. 

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Spin313

DS and DD have birthdays a week apart. They haven't had combined parties (yet), but they like having close birthdays. It's also good because neither gets jealous about presents/toys since they either just got gifts or will be getting gifts soon.

bumpuser260585

My brother's birthday is 3 days after mine. I hated sharing a party with him growing up, but as an adult i understand that it is easier for everyone.
I would suggest doing something special for each child on their actual birthday. My parents didn't do this but it would have been nice.

ToastieSimons

My boys birthdays are 2 days apart.  My oldest doesn't really get parties yet, but soon school parties will start and we will see.  For us we don't do big parties, just local close family and I think they would be willing to come twice if we needed.  I would just let the kids each have small friend parties before and after their birthdays to spread them out more and then have one big family party in between.

MrsT0514

This baby is due a few weeks after my DS's birthday (he's 17 mo). Our tentative plan is to have a combined party while they're too young to care and then when they get older, if they want to do separate, we'll do separate smaller parties for each and just space them out to help cushion the financial blow.

LoveActually4

DS2's birthday is 2 weeks before SS's which is 2 weeks before DS1's. Everybody gets their own party for now.

Wulfgar

My sister and I are Irish twins and are only 22 days apart.  When we were young and my parents had the neighborhood kids to the party we would have a combined party in the middle of our birth month.  I think this is one of the reasons that my sister treated me like crap my whole childhood.  Once we moved none of us had any huge birthday parties and never with friends invited.

theimpossibleastronaut

I'm a twin, so I always had a combined party. People asked if I minded when I was older, but honestly I never cared. It was just our norm at the time.

tattooedtragedy

My sister's birthday is the day before mine (two years apart) we always shared for family parties but my mom was good about making us each feel special.
I agree with PP about doing something just for them on their actual bday.