Hardly Showing!

BLE0210

OK, I am beginning to get frustrated! I cannot tell you how tired I am getting of people telling me that I do not look pregnant! I will be 22 weeks on Friday.  This is my third baby (2 living children, 2 early losses).  I could care less what people say, however, it is starting to get to me a little because I am beginning to worry.  I am comforted by a VERY active little girl who is constantly kicking and moving.  I was only 115 lbs when I started and I have a very long torso so I think things are just really spread out in there. Has anyone else had this issue?  I can still button some of my regular pants and shorts that were low rise in the morning.  After eating lunch, not so much Just looking for some opinions.

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Same boat here! 22 weeks today and I can fit into most of my pre-preg clothing. When I wake up in the morning I barely look pregnant, but by the mid-to-end of day you can tell I have a bump. People truly have no idea I'm pregnant unless I tell them so. I am a naturally tall, thin person with a long torso so I'm sure that has something to do with it. Instead of worrying, I'm enjoying being able to fit into my normal clothes for now

MuffinMom14

Well, just wait for it. People said the same to me around 20/21 weeks and BOOM. I'm huge. It literally felt like it happened overnight.

golfingdarwinfish

I'm tall with a long torso and rather than a nice round bump mine is coming in the length of my torso, which IMO makes it look like extra pounds rather than baby.  If I wear an a-line/wrap dress it looks like a bump, but otherwise I think it just looks odd.

lrobi13

My mom was really tiny when she was pregnant with me. The doctors kept telling her how small I was going to be and how they were probably going to have to keep me at the hospital. It turns out she has huge ribs and I was tucked up in there so her belly never got huge. I was almost 7lbs at birth and perfectly fine.

Maybe your lo has just found a good hiding spot. Never let other people get you down. The only person that you should hear concerns from is your healthcare provider.

mcclan03

Everyone is different. If your doc isn't worried and you're feeling lots of kicks, I'd say you shouldn't worry either. 

It is annoying when people say things like "you don't even look pregnant!" or "you're so small, you can't even tell!" Like you don't already know that, or like you can do anything about it. I just think most people are clueless -- they want to say something to connect with you about your pregnancy, but they pick the wrong thing to say.

I'll be 22 weeks on Friday, too  And I've only recently started to really show. My belly growth was very gradual, then I had kind of a mini "pop" this past week/weekend. My sister recently had a baby - she's small, too, and didn't really start showing where other people could tell until around 26 weeks.

BLE0210

It is a worry, not bc of what I look like, but the growth of my baby. There are many problems that can occur with growth restriction.

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golfingdarwinfish

BLE0210 said:

It is a worry, not bc of what I look like, but the growth of my baby. There are many problems that can occur with growth restriction.

Has your doctor mentioned IUGR, or are you just assuming that a small bump correlates to growth restriction or a small fetus?

pnwlover12

VCGolfNYC said:

I'm tall with a long torso and rather than a nice round bump mine is coming in the length of my torso, which IMO makes it look like extra pounds rather than baby.  If I wear an a-line/wrap dress it looks like a bump, but otherwise I think it just looks odd.

All of this. My stomach looks wider vs. rounder.

vrj0522

So if you are 22 weeks, I'm assuming you already had your A/S, no? If so, then you saw baby and I'm guessing you have no real reason to worry other than the fact that you are not really showing yet, which to be honest, I don't see how that could be a problem. Unless you are not giving us the full story. 

Runninggal28

I am 25 weeks with a short torso and I have only had one of my students ask me if I was pregnant (and not a single other teacher or adult). I am a sub but I work in the same school almost everyday and everyone knows who I am. If someone does find out I'm pregnant, they usually make a comment about me being small. At the A/S baby was measuring two weeks ahead so I am not worried. I think all women carry differently and sadly right now I think many of us are probably in the "did she gain weight or is she pregnant" stage still (usually I think it looks like I just gained a bunch of weight!)

IrishHoney123

VCGolfNYC said:

BLE0210 said:

It is a worry, not bc of what I look like, but the growth of my baby. There are many problems that can occur with growth restriction.

Has your doctor mentioned IUGR, or are you just assuming that a small bump correlates to growth restriction or a small fetus?

My question exactly. 

Comments on personal appearance are always annoying, but it doesn't bother me one bit that most can't tell I'm pregnant yet. Or they think I'm really small. Or they think I'm big. I wouldn't put much stock in others' inexpert opinion on the appearance of your bump.

bennikki

Bodies are going to handle pregnancy differently, so unless your A/S is showing reason for concern, it's just other people being assholes and you being insecure. 

I swear I looked pregnant the moment I saw that second line with this one, sure, it was bloating, but that's how my body responds to pregnancy.  With DS1, I was constantly asked if I was having twins, ( answer: "um...you're a dick, yes, I'm positive there's only one baby.")  I measured just fine, gained more than "recommended," but I was active and comfortable until my water broke, and I was back to pre-pregnancy shape at 10 weeks pp.  I know people who gain 15 pounds and struggle to get rid of the pregnancy weight months after giving birth, and I had 50 pounds to lose.  We're all different.  My sister co-hosted my baby shower when she was 7 months pregnant with her second and none of my friends even realized she was expecting until we made the comment that our kids were going to be 4 months apart. 

DaniGrace89

22 weeks 4 days. Haven't gained much weight at all. An old lady told me I am much too small to be due in October. Again....comforted by my wiggle bean kicker. I just wear tight shirts and rub my belly a lot. For extra emphasis, I throw an exaggerated preggo waddle in there.