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blondolphn

And alive. And heart broken. I still am producing a little, but Jo won't latch anymore, and I don't know how to comfort her anymore....

CLLDLL

Aww I'm sorry Blondie. Maybe if you try getting her to latch when she's really sleepy or distracted by something like a bath it will work??

Welcome back!

TJ1979

Welcome back blondie! I'm so sorry about Jo. I agree with CLLDLL about trying while she's sleepy. You will learn other ways to comfort her. Cuddling, rocking, even giving a bottle. Hugs.

zaraceligon

Welcome back, I second the bath with her too.also try sleeping with her when she is taking a nap.

Mandmeesh

Awww blondie . I third the bath recommendation. M always snuggles up and latches on even if he had just eaten

TJ1979

Am I the only one who has never taken a bath with a baby

Mandmeesh

TJ1979 said:

Am I the only one who has never taken a bath with a baby

Yes. Weirdo

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km_md

Welcome back. I'm sorry that you're going through those struggles.

CopperT0p

The only way DS2 would take a bath was with me. He typically hated the first couple minutes until he realized he could easily nurse then totally relaxed.  I think the skin to skin is awesome too.  When my kids have been needing extra comfort I will bring them to bed with me and lay with them, often skin to skin when they are babies.  There is just something so comforting about that to both of us.  

Into+the+Kitty

Good luck blondie, and welcome back!

ElleBeeDub

Hi, welcome back. I'm sorry to hear about your struggle with Jo. You'll find your rhythm with her again.

freezorburn

SecretAgentKate said:

Am I the only one who has never taken a bath with a baby

I have not. It never occurred to me that this was a thing.

Me neither. On the rare occasion that I get to take a bath, it is my happy place where I get to be alone. Plus, I think I like the water way hotter than an infant can tolerate.

Anyway, welcome back @blondolphn. Hope better days come soon for you.

blondolphn

thanks guys I'm just overwhelmed at the moment. I did get her to latch on last night, so she ate a bit. I am not producing much, but I hope to nurse in bed.

be back later, crying baby

blondolphn

I don't know her cries anymore because she's changed a lot in two weeks. So i feel bad. And dh doesn't think I should try to bf anymore, not even at night. But she took sippy cups of formula from me before I left and she took some from me this morning so I think a good compromise is to nurse only at night. 

My house is a disaster area. I will be spending the entire day cleaning, and will take me several days to get caught up on laundry and discover all the wtf happened..... Including the walker thing that has pink stains all over it that is a pita to unhook and wash. 

I'm just so frustrated, pissed off, and guilty right now. And dh doesn't get it. 

Oh and why MIL must you buy clothes that are way too big and then promptly put my baby in them. It makes it harder for her to crawl and try to walk when she is in 18 month size clothes or a small childrens.... She is still wearing 6-9 month onesies....

Into+the+Kitty

I'd tell your H he could suck it. BF if you want to, or stop if you want. It's not really his choice and doesn't affect him in the least.

Into+the+Kitty

Hugs about the rest. I'd make him clean everything since it was his responsibility for two weeks and he didn't do it.

TJ1979

Go easy on yourself blondie. You are doing what you have to do. Don't feel guilty. You will get back into your routine. And screw the house and laundry. Do what you can, but focus on you and Jo. Hugs.

blondolphn

Thanks. Jo has a cold and feels miserable, so I am wearing her. She seems content being wrapped up. Dh and i got into one fight already.  his mom apparently cleaned up.  i have high standards apparently....

and no clean underwear

TJ1979

Commando for the win!

stoneycakes

Welcome back Blondie!  And hugs!

bumpuser9353653

Welcome back. Sorry to hear about your struggles. I've never bathed with my kids, but I'm not a big bath taker. I could see how that could be relaxing for both of you, though. Hope things get easier for you soon!