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Being invited to more than 1 shower?

I just co-hosted a baby shower for a friend at work and received an invitation in the mail to another shower her sister is hosting for her.  I thought it was kind of strange that I got invited to another shower as we are friends at work but don't hang out after work.  Do I need to buy her another gift? What is etiquette in this situation? 

Re: Being invited to more than 1 shower?

  • VORVOR member
    No, you shouldn't have been invited to another shower for her. 

    Do you plan on going?  If you do, I know I'd want to show up w/ at least a SMALL gift. 

    But if I weren't friends w/ her outside of work and it I really didn't WANT to go, I probably wouldn't go and as such, I wouldn't give a gift. 
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  • FakeFinn said:

    You can politely decline. No gift is required, in a different situation I'd send a card, but since you're co-hosting the other shower I'd just rsvp no.

  • I kind of wonder if she prepared the guest list for her sister before she knew you were throwing her one at work.

    A similar situation happened to me, except I was invited to a shower thrown by the MTB's sister as well as a workplace one where everyone was invited. I gave diapers at the workplace one. You're in the clear to decline--you don't have to give a reason either. If you did decide to go, a small gift would be in order.
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    I would decline as you just hosted her a shower. 


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  • Thanks ladies.  That's what I was thinking. 
  • a friend of mine had three showers. i was invited to two. one was a last minute shower, and i still felt obligated to bring something. i brought a book (no card, just signed inside) and a small puppet to go with the book.

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  • Maybe she thinks you are better friends than you do, and she didn't want you to feel left out. Give her the benefit of the doubt here. 
  • I had a coworker who I wasn't that close to invite me to FOUR showers. We only hung out outside of work once or twice, so I thought it was kind of strange.
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