Hormones Need to Get in Check

JamieK1882

Just a mini vent/hoping others may be experiencing the same thing.

I've never been one to blame hormones for my reactions/actions while pregnant, but lately I can't seem to control myself with DH. I feel awful, but I get SO annoyed with him lately its ridic. Granted, he's said some really stupid things (i.e. "I can't believe how big you got so fast"), but usually I can laugh off stuff like that and lately I can't.

The worst part is, he's quick to get just as frustrated with me. I feel like we've done more bickering than usual and just aren't as close as we usually are.

Another example..he keeps asking women he works with for baby advice, and for some reason this annoys me to no end. For example, he just sent me an email that a woman at work said we HAVE to get X book before we register. I was so annoyed because I've been doing registry investigating for 3 weeks now, but now that this special woman at work suggested the book, heaven forbid we don't go by that. I know I'm being a bit crazy, but this is just an example.

Anyone else losing their fuse quickly with SO? : /

NLJ82

Listen....You're pregnant and if you're anything like me everyone is a complete idiot and you're right about everything and I just don't understand why people aren't better in general. So no, I can't really give you any input bc I'm right there with you. You're not alone...everyone just sucks. My DH doesn't think anything is a good idea unless it's his idea and doesn't understand what I'm feeling and that no, I don't want to deep clean the house with him so then I get to listen to him complain for an hour

See.....you've got me on a rant now.

missnacholover

Only when he's a complete butthead about my nursery ideas. 

DH: "No, I don't like that."
Me: "OK, send me some pics of nurseries you do like...give suggestions."
DH: Radio silence.

Or when he's snoring.

scarlet3egonias

I've been losing my fuse with everyone and everything this week. I blame hormones and lack of sleep for sure. I wish I had some advise but I honestly need some myself!

Kristy774

It comes and goes, last week I was crying hysterically because he "wasn't supporting me on buying the wrong cake". Seriously, this was a huge fight between us and slightly ridiculous on my part when I look back. He sent me flowers for no reason the other day, I think because he knows the crazy isn't me, its just from being pregnant.

sweetbabyrahe

I had a blow-up last night at DH...it started when he brought up needing new tires for his lawn mower, which turned into me complaining about money, then me crying hysterically about being nervous about financial aspects of adding baby #2 which turned into more crying about me worrying about being a good mother, not having bonded with this baby as much as with DS, not being as excited as I was with DS, etc. It was totally irrational and I apologized after. I blamed that on hormones and stress.

JamieK1882

Glad to hear I'm not the only one.

I think the thing making it hard is that rather try to understand, DH gets frustrated and picks fights with me over it. I wish he could let some of these slide.

jlove253

Oh my gosh I am so embarrassed at how I acted with DH this morning. DH was displaced from his school and has been applying for new jobs for the fall with no response. He called today to say he got a job interview for Monday morning at a great district. This is awesome, and I'm thrilled, but it also means we need to cut our camping vacation short. I told him "I am so happy and so sad!" And then proceeded to cry. Are you kidding me!? We cut 2 nights off our 5 night trip and I'm crying!! Geez. While I am disappointed my pre-pregnancy self wouldn't have cried! I felt like such a jerk. DH luckily understands.

TeeJ526

I get a little annoyed with DH when it comes to baby/parenting advice. Specifically from his niece and she speaks to DH like we're completely
unprepared. I know she means well, but I have a strong disdain for these words from him, "My niece says we should..." She hated unsolicited advice when she was pregnant so I wish she would see that she's doing the same thing others did to her.

sAAmFam

Omg I was just saying this. I sucked up the iPad charger cord in the sweeper and blamed everyone else. I have road rage. I do not like this symptom at all. I feel like everyone is stupid. I don't want to be around people. I feel like a monster. Nothing is helping. I cried today because of it.

kaimee27

This post makes me a little happy.  That sounds terrible, but I'm just glad to know I'm not the only one going a little crazy right now.  I definitely have a shorter fuse right now.  I try to offset it by warning DH when I'm feeling especially hormonal/grumpy.  I've always done this but needless to say, he's hearing it a lot more often now.

When he does say something dumb or something that rubs me wrong I ask him "do you really want to have just said that to me right now?"  He usually says no and I let it go at that.  I do feel bad when I'm cranky with him, especially since he really is pretty amazing and supportive for the most part.  I think it really does help when I give him a warning when I'm not in a good mood because he watches what he says/does a little more closely (sometimes I even get a back rub or hug) and it lets him know that it's me, not him and he doesn't take any of it too personally.

kaimee27

heisenberg said:

I've had pregnancy rage too. My husband and I have two pregnancy books: one fun one and one informative one. In the fun one, there's a page about this for our poor SOs. It contains a phrase that is essential to use in these situations. Something like, "you are right; I am wrong, and I am sorry." We both laughed for days when we read this page because no way would he let me off this easy pre-preg. But I've noticed that he's actually used the phrase a couple of times to great effect. (I either laugh or feel placated - even though I know what he's doing.). Well, at least 85% of the time. Poor dude.

Hehehe, this reminds me of what my DH does sometimes.  He does this overly dramatic "ahhh please don't hurt me" then gets this really sheepish look on his face followed by a big grin because he likes to make me laugh.  It cracks me up every time...especially because he's 6'4'' and can easily pick me up at will.  Something about seeing my big guy hamming it up just breaks the tension for me.

crystaldh

Yes! I thought mood swings weren't supposed to be as bad in the second trimester but I've turned into such cry baby!

NunyaBennis

I've had a few waves of rage along the way ... mostly triggered by Tupperware as I recall. My husband has been lucky enough to only hear me get sassy at him once or twice, but this is certainly one of his sympathy symptoms! He has been an edgy, angry, short-fused SOB, especially this month.

kstirton

Mine goes in waves. For some reason I have a full blown bitch fest if Husband wants to leave the house w/o me. I feel like he's trying to escape - even though I know this isn't the case, and he's maybe done it 2-3 times total. He's also extremely loyal and reliable. SO why do I freak out?! No idea but I always feel super guilty afterwards.

DoubleUp8

Yep. I am so cranky lately. Usually, I can keep it somewhat in check, but if I can't DH is a likely recipient. He has learned feeding me helps put me in a better mood! :-p

dh2613

I have been pretty bad lately also. My DH does not go into work till 9:30am, while I have to get up at 6am every morning. I wake up tired, cranky, and he is just there drooling and peacefully sleeping away.

 Once I am ready I always wake him up for a kiss and to say I love you before I leave for work, but yesterday I woke him up and told him that I just want to slap him every morning when I am struggling to get up and get to work while he gets to stay sleeping.... Then I gave him a kiss, said I love you, and left the room. I think he sleeps with one eye open now.