How to deal w husbands ex

KristyK36

Long hx but we have been together 5 years and have a 3 yr old and I'm pregnant w our 2nd. He has 2 w his ex and I have 2 w mine.

His ex has always been a problem and kept him from kids and still in court battle . We get them every other weekend and tue thur. My Dh daughter and I are really close but her mother has now blocked my number from dd phone. I'm so upset because I talk to her once in awhile when she's not here and now I can't! We've worked so hard to establish a relationship and this is just one of the games the ex is playing!

How do you all deal w the ex without it effecting your relationship?

joshsmandy

The best advice I can give is take it with a grain of salt. This hurts you and this is what she is trying to accomplish, don't show her how it effects you. As for your sd make sure she knows that you value your relationship with her and let her know that you would like to talk with her but unfortunately it's not an option right now, but do not bad mouth BM no matter how much you want to. And remember this is not your h's fault, he is right there with you. Document everything because that is your key. Good luck

ambrvan

That's a really great thing that you have managed to build a good bond with your SD despite everything. Biggest thing I can advise us to disengage as much as possible. Don't disengage from the kids, since obviously they aren't causing problems. But whatever you don't HAVE to deal with involving BM, don't. Don't acknowledge the crazy stuff or deliberate roadblocks our digs she might throw out. It can be hard at first, but once you find your peace in the middle of it all, it gets easier.

As for your relatIonship with SD, you could maybe give her a locket, bracelet, ring, or something that she can always keep with her that would be low key and maybe not noticed that you could give her or wear a matching one so that she knows that even though you're not always together, you are always thinking of her.

Is she as upset by you not been by able to call her as you are, though? I wouldn't want to push anything else on her if it's not desired.