Waiting room talk

fjamil1

*Child Mentioned*

Dont Hate me...but i am one of those ladies who bring her daughter to appt. I dont have anybody to watch..so have to bring her with me... so if you go to Center for Advance Reproductive Medicine and Fertility (CARMF) in Edison,NJ and see a woman in mid 20's with a little girl watching cartoons on cell phone..then that will most likely be me...=)

Margritli

Besides saying good morning to the others waiting (there is never more than two other couples waiting), I am generally against talking in the waiting room - no one else does it, which is fine by me. 

There are a lot of professionals, who I am sure are not eager to be seen in the waiting room of an IVF clinic, so I think everyone is just as happy to mind their own business. 

Maybe this sounds bad but DH wasn't there for any of the monitoring appointments, the ER or the first three transfers. He doesn't really know what is going on, but I think that that makes it easier for him in some respects. He came for the last FET, because it was on Saturday morning and we wanted to spend the afternoon in the city, but I didn't want him in the room for the actual ET, because it's just so awkward and there is not much to see. It was great having him there to entertain me during the 60-minute bed rest afterwards.  

Regarding children, I've never actually seen a child (knock on wood) in the waiting room. I once saw a man with a toddler waiting outside, which I thought was really considerate. I understand, though, if some can't find/afford childcare and has to bring their child with. The clinic I go to has a separate waiting area, which I assume is for people with children. A nice thing that they do is if you are having a really bad day and they see that, they will usher you straight into a private room to wait. 

One pet peeve of mine was that on ER the lady at the reception (who I had never seen before and assume was only working because they needed more staff) was visible pregnant and dressed in a way that showed off her bump. I thought someone working at an IVF clinic could manage to be a bit more discreet. 

Justone13

@tabbytown‌ I can see how hard that would be. Maybe ask if you can skip that room? I'm sure they would do that.
@fjamil1‌ It's not that I hate other people that have kids. All of my friends have children and I'm Aunt to them all. It's just a particularly hard time in my life and seeing someone who has a child is difficult for me.
@Margritli‌ That is like a slap in the face to see a pregnant chick working at the fertility clinic. Really? I am mad just reading about it.

tptbabe

Well, it turns out that they do have kids at our clinic? There's a wall that separates the waiting room in two, so the people with kids (3 times that I've seen them there now) will sit on the far side. The wall is only about 6 feet wide though, so it's not like it's really a separate area?

 

As for pregnant people working there, I guess it's bound to happen at some point? I'm sure it's awkward for them too The Dr that did my ER was about 8 months along herself. I'm sure she's super self concious about it!

fjamil1

*Child Mentioned*

@Justone13 i know how you feel when you see other people have kids. we are blessed to have only one but we want more than anything..My brother just had his second baby and they got pregnant on there first try, i am super jealous of them that they already have another and i have been trying for so long now and haven't gotten pregnant not once in the last 3 years, they already have 2 in three years.    

KRSimmons3

Ive talked to 1 or 2 other people in the waiting room. One had a long conversation with me. Other than those 2 times in 7 months I keep to myself or the hubby. I smile but I get the looks like I have three eyes or I just kicked their kitten.
The hubby by choice comes to as many appointments as possible work permitting. I hate sitting alone. Feeling like im being judged.

Justone13

@KRSimmons3‌ was that long convo when I ran into you?? Lol those other girls give serious stink eyes!!! Kicked a kitten hahaha!!!

tifga

It was always dead silent at my old clinic. You would think everyone thought talking to each other would reduce our chances or something. 

I have tried to keep my husband away from monitoring appointments. It just seems silly to come when all he can do is sit in the waiting room until I come back. He made clear that for the IVF he is coming to every appointment and I better just live with it. 

pblge

We talked today! Usually there's a terrible corporate radio station playing but it was off this morning. Lovely! Then without warning it started blasting. I couldn't repress an "Ugh!" It was filed by a group conversation about how terrible the radio is and how much we all hate it.

However once that topic was exhausted we all fell silent again.

pblge

*followed, not filed

KRSimmons3

@Justone13 we were given dirty looks for talking that day. But the other girl I talked to was when I was complaining about the nurse we dont like. Lol