So, I'd love some advice.
We have a couple that we are friends with whom we met at our adoption classes. Their timeline has been very similar to ours, began trying to conceive when we did, moved to adoption when we did, and became active about 3-4 weeks before us. They are incredibly sweet people who we have been hanging out with once a month or so since we met. We were matched last month but held off on saying anything to them because we felt weird. We had a brunch together where we didn't say anything but afterwards felt really awful, like we were lying (even though we just don't want to hurt their feelings).
Yesterday, the wife calls me to say they've been matched to a baby and are flying out that night so they can't have coffee with me today. Hours later, the whole thing is up in smoke as the baby had medical needs they were unprepared to deal with. I had been planning to tell her over this coffee date before our next double date so she could process privately and not have a whole evening ruined. She wants to go to coffee still today and I have no idea how to navigate this.
I adore her and know she must be in a lot of turmoil. I certainly don't want to be all " OMG I have a match!" DW says to just not say anything unless directly asked, which is sort of my plan but I would feel like a giant piece of poop if she thought I was hiding stuff, or if the news makes her even more sad.
me:33 my wife:32 married in June '12LONG road through IF ending in heartbreak and frustration.
Moving on to Adoption : matched 5/14!
Our beautiful son was born August 25, 2014!!