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OK so I let Ryan see Liliana again on two conditions 1.) that his parents be there again and 2.) that he was nicer to his Dad this time. He actually complied. And he was a lot better this time. Liliana cried at first and kept saying "mama! mama!" when he held her, looking for me (ha, take that)  we were there for about 4 hours and then Ryan was complaining he was getting "tired" and needed a nap. Now, he just lost his job a couple of weeks ago, and he's not even working. tired...after 4 hours...are you flipping kidding me???? Do you not realize she is a twenty four hour a day job? You raise her by yourself, go to school AND work and then come back and talk to me about "tired" that kind of ticked me off. Also, both your parents and I were there, you weren't even watching her by yourself. What the hell do you mean "tired" no sympathy from me! 

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They don't get it and never will.

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beccaga16 said:

Nobody understands unless they have done it. BUT people like that are tools!

The fact that he has no comprehension whatsoever about how to act around a child and how much it takes to care for one is another reason he needs close supervision. 

It sucks that you have to babysit him in order for him to see his daughter. I remember how draining that is! 

That's why I make the requirment that both his parents (or at least one b/c I don't want to be alone with him or we'll just fight the whole time) and I are there when he sees her: for supervision. I will not trust him on his own. He has NO idea what it takes. Honestly, he's lucky I'm letting him see her at all! All the stuff he's done and said to me in the past, the way he completley disowned and disguarded her when he had that girlfriend of his too, telling me she was more important to him than Liliana. He's only seeing her anyway in hopes I don't take him to court. He knows he's already 9 months behind in child support, and he already has a felony on his record. He got persecurted with it the VERY day I gave birth to Liliana, nice huh? He claims that's why he wasn't there. He didn't even RESPOND when she was born. at all. not one word. he told me "I thought if I ignored it, it wouldn't really happen" well....how tell me Ryan how did *that* work out for you? 

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inthelost said:

he told me "I thought if I ignored it, it wouldn't really happen" well....how tell me Ryan how did *that* work out for you? 

This cracked me up.  Sometimes, the similarities between your BD and mine just blow me away.