Pregnant and single

adrianagil82

Hello, im 18weeks and im 32 and only a few weeks single, my baby daddy is just not up for the task of being a dad, he has 2 other kids that he only sees on the weekends, i been really sad because of the situation, i know that he is not the best guy to be with, but i love him i been very patiente but now this situation where he is doubting about me and asking where i am all the time, he is very jelous, but c'mon!! im pregnant, any way, im scared of going to the whole process by my self, i have my family but its not the same as having your partner, how do you move one when you are expecting a baby from your ex? its so hard to see couples so happy and pregnant or with their babies, and then looking at me, single and pregnant.

freeatlast2014

It's better to walk away now and start to heal then bring a baby into an unhealthy situation. You will find that strength that moms get when it comes to their little ones and you will be the best mom ever!

adrianagil82

Thank you so much for your comment, i really want the best for my baby and i want to be a good mom

Natspoiledbrat

I am pretty much in the same situation as you.  I don't know your specifics, but I had been with my ex for 8 1/2 years and the day I told him I was pregnant he flipped.  Basically he just cut me out of his life.  I sent him a text with info for the doctors appointments and was ignored.  I asked him if he wanted to know the gender of the baby and his response was "What the F*** do you want me to say?"  That was in March.  I haven't heard from him since.  I also think he may have quit his job because I've gone by a couple of times since and have not seen him.  I just found out this week that he has another kid that I've never been told about.  I don't even know if his family knows about this kid.  I agree with MrsLynnyD.  You are better off bringing your child into a world of stability and love with one parent than to have an unhealthy situation with two parents.  If he eventually comes around that would be great, but in the mean time, you can do it without him!  I read something yesterday that made me feel better about the situation:  President Obama's mom was a single mom and she was able to raise a successful man without any help from his dad.  We can do this!  Stay positive!

inthelost

I went through my pregnancy completley alone. It's hard probably one of the hardest thing I've ever done in my life I won't lie. but was it worth it? Would I do it all over again if given the choice? You better believe it, a million times over. My daughter is such an amazing blessing in my life I cannot even put into words. It's hard: but it's worth it and you CAN do it. and you always have us to talk to.

babymama619

Bottom line is it's hard. Take whatever love and support you can get, but it's still going to be hard. Then the baby cones and it's hard but amazingly wonderful. Just trust us on that. Focus on getting you sucks in a row finically, stuff wise maybe legally, and emotionally. I found lists to be very helpful. The helped me organize my thoughts. Try as much as you can to push thoughts of him away. I'm pretty certain he's not pining over you, so let it go. He doesn't deserve your energy.

Enjoy your pregnancy! This is the initial bonding between you and your child with whom you will be connected for life. If he's not there, move on and let the idea of him go. Focus on the reality, he's not there, you are. You are now the advocate for your child, focus on being the best mom which mean being happy and healthy both emotionally and physically.

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20thirteen

I was alone in my pregnancy, and honestly, after the initial pain, I was so happy, and my life was (emotionally) 100% better. It was hard, but that added emotional distress burdened me the most in the beginning. I let that go and my life felt easier. Don't get me wrong, it's going to be tough. But holding onto dead weight is just going to make it that much harder.

adrianagil82

thank you all for your words, today has a tough day, been trying not to cry or feel sad, and reading every answer help me to stay strong, hope it gets better after the baby is here, i think and hope it will because i will be so exited and tired to give a crap hahahaha

krulo

I understand what you are going through I am almost 17 weeks. The father and I havent been together pretty much from the beginning. We both had completely opposite views on what we should do when we found out. When I decided I wanted to keep the baby he walked out. It is hard but I have support from amazing people and know I will make it through my pregnancy with my heating held high and I know I will be an amazing mother. For me what makes this situation so hard is his harassment because I am not attracted to men. So me playing for the other team makes me an unfit mother in his eyes and his families. However I know that me being a lesbian has no impact on my parenting. Sometimes you just have to fight through the negativity and keep your head held high. If he is acting the way he is things will most likely become worse. And right now you do not need any added stress

EmeraldCity84

I went through my entire pregnancy and now have a 4.5 month old, alone. Other than the delivery/recovering where you physically need help, it's actually easier to not have some idiot around stressing you out all the time. I would do it alone all over again. It actually scares me to think about having a baby with a man around, haha.

20thirteen

Sometimes I get frustrated with my BF when he's over and he's doing something that I don't think he should be doing with her. Like, if she just ate and he starts playing with her and hanging her upside down (she likes being upside down for some reason), swinging her around and playing superman with her... I tell him to stop because she is going to vomit, most likely on me, when he stops.

adrianagil82

This week was a very hard week for me, had my dads birthday, fathers day, my hormones going into overdrive, i just broke down on tuesday, i know its going to get better and not going to be so sad all the time, i was crying all day but nets day, just picked up my act and started my day with a smile from a little kick i felt thank you ladies for writing its been so muchs easier reading that im not the only one in this situation. hugs to all

Bnnt5

I know I'm coming into this post late, but I was in much of the same situation. My BD told me to get an abortion on the day of my first doctor's appointment although the night before he had been picking out baby names. I haven't heard from him since. I now am seeing a wonderful man who couldn't be more supportive and is going to be a great father to my baby. Hang in there.