Submissive marriage

wonkatalia

Does anyone remember that blog written by the wife about her submissive marriage or something like that?  Her husband punishes her when she's "bad"...  I'm bored at work and wanted to see if she was still blogging about her delusional life and abusive marriage.  I think they lived in Utah.  

I didn't want to google "submissive marriage blog" at work.  lol.  Who knows what might come up.

It was posted here ages ago...

CinemaGoddess

I googled it and there were a bunch of options.  I'm not sure which one is the one you're talking about. 

Maybe check GOMI if nobody else can find it?

wonkatalia

Oh, GOMI is a good idea.  Thanks. Do you remember the post?  It might have even been from when we were on the age boards.  I remember being fascinated by the crazy.

CinemaGoddess

I remember a few of them, here and on TN and then again on Proboards.  I think some of the blogs were discredited as fakes, though.  

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https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/5425313/in-case-you-haven-t-seen-this-yet-domestic-discipline

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/5424143/stolen-from-the-nationals-omg-domestic-discipline

One of these?  My brain can't handle reading through it but there are blog links in there.

CinemaGoddess

LoisLayn23 said:

Isn't adamwife a fundie with a blog?

Yeah, but I don't think she talks about the discipline side. 

It's more just being a submissive wife and having a bunch of kids. 

Her blog is pretty good, actually.  

wonkatalia

Well damn.  The submissive wife could have been a catfish.  Didn't even think about that.

NarwhalBacon

Its called domestic discipline and I think the blog you're lookibg for was called livingdomesticdiscipline. Maybe. Ive looked at a few differeht ones. They're gery...... interesting

[Deleted User]

Yeah, adamwife kept coming up in my searches.  Blarg.

NarwhalBacon

Fucking fuck you, tablet. Cant edit my typos.

CinemaGoddess

If the blogs are fundie, you might also check FreeJinger.  

wonkatalia

That's it!  Thanks @mrsbadkat and @MarlaSinger&!

jorkz821

When this was discussed here before (couple years ago maybe?) werebt there a couple of regs who said that they are submissive wives and were open to questions? Am I imagining that?

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jorkz821 said:

When this was discussed here before (couple years ago maybe?) werebt there a couple of regs who said that they are submissive wives and were open to questions? Am I imagining that?

I only have one.  WTAF?

I am way too opinionated on this to have a productive Q&A.  I recognize this.

wonkatalia

Crazier than I remember.  And a lot sadder.

"A fearful wife may begin crying or pleading and find it difficult to remain still. Reassure her. of your intent and love (yes this will hurt, that is why it is a punishment) then instruct her to be still. Remind her that she is not in control of this discipline. You should continue the lashing through her tears and pleas for you to stop, until you are certain the message was received. This will insure her remorse and therefore stop the undesirable behavior."

CinemaGoddess

jorkz821 said:

When this was discussed here before (couple years ago maybe?) werebt there a couple of regs who said that they are submissive wives and were open to questions? Am I imagining that?

This also happened on proboards. 

There were a few regs who shocked the shit out of me when they said they were submissive wives. Not submissive in the sexual sense, but deferring to their husband to make all decision sense. 

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LoisLayn23 said:

I have all the rage.  All the rage.

CinemaGoddess

LoisLayn23 said:

WUT




"The next day, Parker said he'd thought about it most of the night and decided he was going to spank me, but it wouldn't be "too severe" because I handled myself well by telling him the truth, calling his coworker and apologizing, telling him before he found out on his own, etc. However, he was still upset and so he told me to take off my pants/panties and lean over his knee. Keep in mind, that I just freakin' woke up and that is NOT how I wanted to start my day! But, at least I'd get it over with.

Parker spanked me with his hand quite a few times (I lost count after like 30..) and then had me lean over some pillows on our bed and spanked me with a belt. It wasn't as many times I remember him doing it in the past, but they were some pretty hard strikes. Then, he gave me the choice if I wanted 15 with the paddle or soap in my mouth for saying the f-word. I chose 15 with the paddle, because the thought of soap just made me want to throw up. He spanked me 15 with the paddle, and thankfully it was over."

50 Shades of Gray:  10 Years Later.  

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wonkatalia said:

Crazier than I remember.  And a lot sadder.

"A fearful wife may begin crying or pleading and find it difficult to remain still. Reassure her. of your intent and love (yes this will hurt, that is why it is a punishment) then instruct her to be still. Remind her that she is not in control of this discipline. You should continue the lashing through her tears and pleas for you to stop, until you are certain the message was received. This will insure her remorse and therefore stop the undesirable behavior."

That called fucking abuse- emotional and physical.  I am seriously ill. 

wonkatalia

I was thinking the same thing, @cinemagoddess.  Like weirdo Christian porn.

CinemaGoddess

wonkatalia said:

I was thinking the same thing, @cinemagoddess.  Like weirdo Christian porn.

YES.  

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As much as I despise the concept of both, there is a difference in submissive wives and domestic discipline.  Though they both stem from the same cesspool.

CinemaGoddess

I'm taking all the DD websites with a grain of salt.  

wonkatalia

You're right, MS&.  I coudln't remember the actual term and that was the best way to describe it I could come up with.

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wonkatalia said:

You're right, MS&.  I coudln't remember the actual term and that was the best way to describe it I could come up with.

I couldn't either until I searched TB.  I can't claim that awesome of a memory.  

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MrsBadKat said:

I love when people always say "but if it's between two consenting adults, then I just don't see the problem". 

Yeah.  I slap their name on my "ignorant" post-it.

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CinemaGoddess said:

I'm taking all the DD websites with a grain of salt.  

It's all just really fanfic.

CinemaGoddess

LoisLayn23 said:

But have you read the "beginner packet"?

https://beginningdd.com/wp-content/uploads/downloads/2013/02/BeginnerPacketFinalCopy1.pdf

I chortled when I got to the "time out" section.  

CinemaGoddess

LoisLayn23 said:

::::gasp::::


You've been naughty, no makeup or coffee for you.

Credit Card Privileges
 Driving Privileges
 "Going out with friends" Privileges
 Computer Privileges
 Television Privileges
 Phone Privileges
 Cosmetic Privileges

The bolded would be a dealbreaker. 

Take away my makeup, my phone, my TV, and my going out privileges. 

DON'T fuck with my ability to be on TB.  

wonkatalia

Whoa.  From that "beginner packet":

"For example - punishment is physical pain (in some situations, such as spanking) done lovingly (that’s the key word) with intent to correct. There's also physical pain that is not done lovingly or with intent to correct (example - punching someone in the face), and emotional pain (example - saying rude things). Both of those are NOT what domestic discipline is all about, or what it 

stands for. Domestic discipline is practiced with loving intent. It's important that your 

partner understands that....

They're afraid it will hurt (the spanking aspect). Well, it does hurt. We’re not going to lie 

about that. However the pain is temporary, and what the relationship and home both gain 

from the loving correction of negative behaviors is well worth it."

But, if you're both adults and don't want to "Parent" the other or "treat them like a child", why physical violence?  Why can't they talk it out?  Like adults do.

Why am I trying to apply logic?

CinemaGoddess

My kids try to send me to time out when they want something. 

"Mommy.  I'm going to jump on the couch now.  You go time out."  

wonkatalia

Ok...great.  Glad that the HoH (typing that makes me sort of wish they would implement this on Big Brother  lolz) has this awesome "sense of relief" that his conflict is being addressed.  But what if the submissive partner is the one with the conflict?  Sorry, dude.  You're fucked.

"It greatly reduces conflict/arguments in a relationship. A lot of couples (who don't 

practice domestic discipline) argue about things such as children, money, work, time 

management, among several other things. However, when domestic discipline is a part of 

a relationship, it reduces those arguments by giving both partners a different avenue in 

which to express themselves. For example, if the HoH has an issue with how much the 

submissive partner is spending, the HoH simply punishes the submissive partner for it 

rather than yelling/arguing/etc. with them about it. This gives the HoH a sense of relief 

that the problem has been addressed and corrected (hopefully), and it gives the 

submissive partner a sense of forgiveness. It also makes the submissive partner feel as 

though the head of the household is with her in fixing the problem, not against her. "

wonkatalia

Wait.  What if the conflict/argument is that the submissive partner doesn't want to be spanked anymore?  What's the punishment for that?  FFS.

wonkatalia

Do you think it's typically the HoH or the submissive partner that initiates this "lifestyle"?  Because I'm assuming it's the HoH...and that person is most likely male...

Someone needs to do some real research into this.

CinemaGoddess

I found it interesting that the booklet that LL linked seemed to be very carefully avoiding pronouns.  

FalconCrest

I have never been anti spanking when it comes to children until reading this.

wonkatalia

I noticed that too, CG.

CinemaGoddess

I wonder if this is for people into a sexual D/s lifestyle that want to take it further than purely sexual.  

CinemaGoddess

The more I read that, the more I wonder if EL James read it too.  

NarwhalBacon

I'll be submissive if I can get time out. Yes, I'll sit alone in the bedroom and think about what I've done. see ya in 2 hours.

NarwhalBacon

Is that the same adamwife on TB or someone different?