I need honesty

fintin

I have been on the bump more and more lately and really like y'all ladies. Unfortunately when I talk to someone in "real life" about the bump I get the "gawd you're a loser" stare. Anyone else get this?

RondackHiker

Whatever. They're missing out.

Or you could just say "a friend said" or "I read an article that said" or "I heard about".

fintin

I guess I compare it to people talking on facebook. I dont have fb and I dont really like people. Haha I know. So this is a way for me to get adult interaction (I'm a SAHM) and not have to put alot of effort in. I know it sounds weird when I write it out.

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I get the loser stare no matter what. I talk about my internet friends with DH all the time. He doesn't really care. Occasionally something I read will make it's way into conversations with other people. I usually just say that I read whatever it was online without referencing any site.

LuckyDad

I've used "I was talking to a friend" as a cover when discussing online topics with coworkers.

fintin

My DH never thought it was weird and actually posted on a forum about smokers (like the ones you cook in haha). But your right most people think its lame. Which I dont understand.

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krfarris12 said:

I guess I compare it to people talking on facebook. I dont have fb and I dont really like people. Haha I know. So this is a way for me to get adult interaction (I'm a SAHM) and not have to put alot of effort in. I know it sounds weird when I write it out.

This is the story of my life minus the SAHM part.

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fintin

mischiefmanaged611 said:

Yes, but I dont care. I just look at it as at least I wont "run" into them on here.

True. I also like that I can be exactly who I am on here and not worry about stepping on toes. Seeing as most of my "friends" are family I have to think of nice ways to say half the shit I want to say. :-( it's kind of exhausting.

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Littledeer84

Yeah, I usually just refer to reading something online or a friend, although with DH I just tell him I saw it on the bump.

billybumbler

Yeah I don't really talk much about TB IRL mostly because I'm afraid someone will figure out who I am and read stuff I wrote. I mentioned before I don't have a lot of mom/parent friends IRL so the ladies here and on other boards really help. Mostly it helps to know I'm not the only one who occasionally thinks her toddler is an asshole and who drinks after LO goes to sleep.

CinemaGoddess

I call TB my "online moms group" to everyone but DH. 

DH calls you guys "The Bumpies" and regularly asks what you guys think about various parenting situation. 

"K won't poop on the potty.  Do the Bumpies think this is weird?"

[Deleted User]

First rule of The Bump is you don't talk about The Bump. 

LnR70707

I started on the Knot about 8 years ago and I'd say there is much more acceptance of internet forums as a norm now than there was then, but some of it may be why I was using them too.  Talking about a forum for planning your wedding got weird looks, but most people aren't big enough dicks to give me a judging look for saying I was on an infertility support forum.  In general though, I don't bother mentioning TB, just "someone I know went through this" or "I read somewhere on the internet that.."

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I have no shame.  I tell everyone about my friends from the internet.

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MrsButt said:

DragonBlood13 said:

I have no shame.  I tell everyone about my friends from the internet.

Yup, me too. All my IRL friends know I have internet friends. They don't care. They might laugh but then I always have the best jokes and insight from all of you so in the end, I WIN!

Andplus, internet friends are real friends. End of story.

Oh yeah, internet friends are real friends.

I've traveled with many of these ladies and I've stayed with their families.  I've met so many in Chicago. 

It's a new age and a new way to meet people.  It's no different than online dating.  

SpaceGirlSpiff

I'm with MBK in that I would think it's weird for people to act weird about having internet interactions in this day and age....with social media all the rage, dating websites, etc etc...I don't understand side-eyes at this point.

Back when I was 13 and met my now H online, now THAT was weird to people....thems the days of AOL and teen chat rooms and a/s/l and cyber sex and shame if you had an "online bf" cause it's TOTALLY not real!  Ohhhh memories.  When I was in high school and we were actually in an established long distant relationship by then (visiting back and forth and all), and my peers would ask about us, I'd come up with all kinds of fancy explanations to avoid admitting that I met my boyfriend online... it was way more taboo back then.  Would say things like... "Oh we met through mutual friends when I was in CA a while back...."  Ha.  Awkward.

Now IDGAF.... yeah we were geeks!  We met online! We played games together online!  Instead of going out and partying with my fellow teenage peers, I preferred to chat online all night with my boyfriend and other nerdy online friends.... What of it...come at us bro.... happily married 6 years, and in love for 13, and I don't feel like I missed out on anything...PSH

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@mrsbadkat and I are IRL friends.  I love her.

angelashly

CTGirl30 said:

I think of many here as friends, even if we haven't met IRL, so I just say "A friend told me this..." if I'm referring to a Bump discussion.

This is me too.

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I share this place with no one IRL. 

ETA- because this is my place and I don't want them here.  I send all my friends and coworkers to BabyCenter.