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BeckyP005

Hi Kim...just checking in on you. I know you don't post much and not even sure if you will see this but we are all thinking about you. If you need us we are here for you.  {{HUGS}}

kjmitlyng

Hi @BeckyP005.  Thanks for checking in on me.  I don't come here much but do check in on people from time to time.  I'm happy to see some long awaited BFPs for people who have been here and struggling for such a long time.  I am doing OK.  Actually, I see the day you posted this was June 11th, that was our 3rd wedding anniversary and it was actually a horrible day.  We have recovered a bit since then and had a good talk tonight.  My husband is basically a workaholic and feels like he can't try to have a baby right now because he's too focused on his career and it would be unfair if he didn't put "his all" into a family.  I agree, but I also explained to him that I'm on a time limit.  He understands that and he wants to make me happy.  He was raw and emotional, something he hasn't been for a long time.  He said he wants to have kids and a family, he just doesn't know how to balance his career and making time for a family.  It's hard to explain here I guess, but it felt productive and somewhat hopeful.  We agreed to keep a conversation going and we are seeing our therapist on Monday.  Hopefully we are gaining some traction.  I'm trying not to give up hope.

Thanks again for check in on me. 

BeckyP005

@kjmitlyng‌ Happy Anniversary and sorry to hear it was not a good one. Oh gosh I really really hope the therapist can help you two and like you said I wasn't there for the conversation but happy to hear you found it hopeful.

You two will be in my thoughts and I'm really hoping he starts coming around. Maybe once he hears what the therapist has to say it will wake him up a bit. So sorry you are dealing with this. Marriage is hard enough then when you add this to it it's even harder! Stay positive!! Next update I hope it's a good one Take care