Wish I stood up for myself re: BFing (long - sorry)

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So, I have coworkers that are in their 40s/50s who aren't too open- minded when it comes to breastfeeding. I wish I could stick up for myself and "the cause," but I chicken out or think of something later.

1) Yesterday, after I came back from pumping, my assistant asked if I do that in public. I replied, "pumping? No, I'll do that in my car if I can't have privacy where I am." She said, "no, you know, *breastfeed*" like it was some dirty word. I replied that I do, and I'm pretty good at it now, so people tend to not even notice. She then replied, "good, because I think it's so wrong when women just put it all out there for the world to see! And it's even worse when the kid lifts up the mom's shirt and asks for it. If they can ask for it, they're too old for it!"

I just sat there, mouth agape. She doesn't know I still nurse A at two. I thought of some comments later about how she should stop getting things once she asked for them, but nothing came out. Nothing about nutrition or WHO recommendations. Nothing.

2) separate incident this morning. Came into my office and coworker made some comment about making my own hours now, and I told her how I was pumping.

"Can't you just do that at home?"
"No, I feed the baby when he wakes up, and it's too soon to pump before I leave but I can't wait to pump until my lunch break. So I pump before the kids come."
"Oh okay, I just don't get why you need to pump so much."

Again, I have a million facts floating in my head, but nothing comes out. This was the same coworker who made some comments about a new 3yr-old we got who still BFs, and how mom is messed up and messing him up. (To another coworker, not me).

I wish I had the courage to say things to these women. These women who also BF but stopped when the kids got teeth.

I don't care whether someone FF or BF, but it's not cool for people to be so judgy. Again, I just wish I could've said something.

Thankfully, I'm leaving this job after tomorrow. Onto new coworkers ...

ThePinkSuperhero

New coworkers, hurray!  Bye bye, nasty bitches.

aylafsu88

That is sad. Honestly though I am not sure spewing out info would change their minds. They seem like judgmental individuals in general and I am not much would change their minds.  Good ridance and I hope the new co-workers are better.

ThePinkSuperhero

A gif for them:

sarahandeddiejune212008

I'm so sorry you're dealing with such negative people. Would you like me to send you a pic of Avery sleeping and nursing? You can show it to all of your judgy coworkers.

I get so tired of people worrying about how other people feed their baby. I learned to stand up for myself, especially after #2.

SallySunrise

Don't worry about it, seriously. One opportunity missed; so many more to come! You'll be ready for it next time - and next time it might be a young mom who's mind you might actually change, and who's baby's future you might actually impact! Let those crabby old grouches be crabby. They're not having any more babies anyway. You're going a great job! Keep on keepin on.