Hitting

dkny155

My dd is 14mths old and thinks it's funny to hit. She constantly trys to hit my face, my nannys face and she is always hitting the dog. We are stern when we tell her no and we hold her hand and tell her to "do nice" as we rub her hand on us trying to teach her not to hit. She dosen't seem to care and continues to do so. She tried to hit my friends dd the other day and now i'm worried that when we go to classes or the park that she will be hitting other children. Is it to early to try a time out chair? ANy other things i could try ladies?

dkny155

Yes we do the same we tell her gentle and to be nice!! But she thinks its a joke!! it's almost comical but its turning into such a bad habit!

 

aada0615

We ran into this about a month ago but mine is a little older (she was 17 mo then). Same thing - hitting us and the dog mostly, attempted a couple times at daycare. So we did try the time out chair and it really worked for us. As soon as she would do it, would tell her no, only nice touches, and then tell her she is going to sit in time out because we don't hit. She did actually sit there (to our surprise!) until we went over to her (after 1 or 2 min) told her she can't hit, and then hugged it out. It took about a week of being consistent with it but she is SO much better. Every once in a while she will look like she is going to hit and then makes eye contact with us (before she does it) and then hugs us instead. It gets frustrating but stick with it, good luck!! If she won't sit by herself, maybe just stop whatever you are doing and sit quietly with her?

tbmadeamistake

The only thing that even begins to work for my toddler is to sat ow and get up and walk away. She hates being left/ignored, bit thinks all other disciplines are funny. She'll pitch a fit and I'll wait a minute or two and then go back and explain that mommy walked away because she hit me and it hurts, that people don't like to be hit. I only go maybe ten feet and always where she can see and hear me. It works most days to stop the behavior, bit at two years old she does still hit on occasion.

stephanie05261989

My son is 14 months and does the same thing.  He's been doing it for months, but it seems to be getting better.  The first time he hits me, I say "no" and show him "gentle".  If he hits me again, I set him down and walk away.  I've started to notice that he is waiting for the reaction.  Like PP said, I don't go far.  He usually cries that I set him down, but I ignore him (he doesn't cry for more than a minute, so I'm not really letting him CIO). Then I'll pick him back up and help him "be gentle". 

There was one time recently that he didn't care that I set him down and he just started playing.  In that case, I picked him back up and helped him show me gentle - and THEN let him play with the toy.  Now what he's doing is hitting me, then I remind him of gentle, and instead of hitting again, he is gentle and hugs me.  So that's a step, right?!