Smoke smell and baby

Wildflower777

My friend wants me to bring my 3 and a half month old to visit at her house. The problem is that she lives with her mother and they both smoke, and their house reeks of it even when no one is smoking. I know they wouldn't smoke around the baby, but I don't think I want him inhaling all that smell. Am I being paranoid or is my concern legitimate?

EVA116

I would not bring my kid and flat out tell them why.

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Nope. Wouldn't do it.

mrebecca

We have a similar situation with friends of DH's family. I won't take the kids there and they know it's because of the secondhand smoke.
As a result, they've never met either of the kids, but DH and I stand firmly on our decision.

FIL stopped smoking when he saw how serious I was about keeping the kids away from secondhand smoke.

TheRunningGinger

I have this issue with my mom and her house. She's been smoking in the house for 20 years so even when there's no lit cigarette it is still smoky. My kids don't spend time at her house. So to answer your question I would not take your baby and I would tell your friend why. My kids health comes before anyone's hurt feelings.

NotSharknado

My sister and Bil smoke in their house and we haven't gone to her house in 14 years. She knows this and respects this.

She doesn't get offended because I don't ask her or tell her not to smoke in her own home. We just don't go there. She comes to us. Simple.

ILoveBoys

I wouldn't. Does your friends mother not leave the house at all? Maybe something like Skype or FaceTime would be an appropriate suggestion?

Wildflower777

Thanks everyone... it's good to have reassurance. I am new to the world of parenting :-)

SJandVA

I agree with PP I wouldn't especially at this young of an age.
I'm glad to see you guys have this opinion. I know someone that takes her young toddler to a smoke filled bar for hours on end almost every day since he was born. Some times I think I'm being too anal.

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I'm nitpicking, but this is third-hand smoke, not second-hand smoke.

FindAuPair

I don't think that's a good idea. Your child is very young and any influence of other external factors can cause him to feel very sick and on the long run he might get sick from all that smoke! So don't take you're child there!

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ScoutNumbers05 said:

I try hard not to be an overprotective loon, but smoke is a firm line no for me. Hell, I don't want to be around it. Zero chance I'm subjecting my kids.

I am quite lax at this point in parenting.  But I am fanatical about smoke.  Probably because my child is at the cusp of developing allergy induced asthma and smoke always makes him ill.  

We had to stop being around ILs house because of this.  I seriously gave no cares if they didn't like it.