XP to IF: (Question for IVF ladies) Still completely torn about CCS and it's time to decide - update

pblge

*loss briefly mentioned*

After bloodwork and u/s were done this morning the doctor (terrible bedside manner!) said that I needed to decide about doing CCS right then and there. I'm not particularly lucid that early in the morning and I was stunned--really thought OH and I would be able to have more conversations about it once he joined me in town (tomorrow). We had also been thinking that we'd base it off how many eggs we got. Wednesday we were told 30 growing follies, yesterday 17, today 10!!! So that's not particularly helpful. If it's 10, then I'm a lot less interested. I also had a m/c of a chromosomally normal embryo that wouldn't have been screened out by CCS, so this doesn't seem the guarantee against m/c it might to others. To complicate matters, the doctor said that sometimes it means you can't transfer right away when doing CCS, if the embryos aren't blasts by day 5. Since I live six hours away, this is a bigger PITA than it might otherwise be. Obviously the biggest downside is the money, as we don't have $5000 sitting aroundfor  this (we're insurance rich and cash poor), and would have to put it on a credit card. In the end I was able to postpone the decision a bit longer, filling out the consent paperwork but NOT making a payment for $2000 on the spot like they asked me to. I've been asking myself if it's worth $5,000 alone to be guaranteed that I won't have a Down's baby, but I'm not sold by that thought. I'm almost 37, so the risks are higher, but I figure we've had such crappy luck I have to get lucky sometime, right????

I know this has been asked here before, but I'm still hoping one of you brilliant ladies will have something brilliant to say on the topic. I'm usually fairly decisive, but I just can't seem to get past this one. I don't like either choice, and I'm pissed off that I can't be a normal woman who doesn't get faced with this sort of choice.

Any thoughts appreciated.

UPDATE:
So the nurse called with some more thoughts. One thing that got thrown into the mix is that they'd likely only transfer one screened blast, but perhaps they'd transfer two if unscreened, depending on grading. Not really sure what to do with that information. She also said that we could go ahead and arrange for the CCS, but tell them that we don't want to do it if there are only a few embryos on day 5. So, for example, we might say only do CCS if we have 7 or more blasts. She also upgraded the follie count back to 17, so I have no idea WTH is going on there. E2 is at 2700.

Still debating. Thanks for your input, ladies!!!

jaztastic

It's not an easy choice... See post on IF

Pintobean39

If it were me yes BUT I'm one of those people that has no genetic problems from me or my husband but yet I still continue having babies with extra chromosomes and losing them. So were throwing everything we have at this IVF cycle for the best chance possible to have a healthy baby. My Dr didn't expect us to have 6-8 eggs and it's a lot of money because it's 5k for us too but I went at this IVF cycle knowing we were doing that in the beginning. I'm also turning 40 in a couple of weeks, I'm running out of time. Each miscarriage that I had took months off the time that I was able to TTGP and I want to know now if we should move on to DE or not.

In your situation it's a hard decision. Yes you are over 35 when the risk of chromosomal abnormalities are increased but really it's not that much higher than under 35. Also the fact that you are 6 hrs away. I'm not sure how yours would work but I'm having ER this week and won't have FET until probably august.

I'm sorry I don't have any real good advise but it really sucks balls that your Dr is telling you to make this decision now. Good luck in whatever you decide.

lupineaura

Good luck making this decision. Can you ask them about a payment plan? For me, I would probably do it. If my baby had Downs or any developmental disability I would love them just as much. That being said, 5k seems like a good investment for piece of mind. Plus, a baby's health problem would probably cost way more... That being said, I think either choice is a fine one.