Sibling question

TobieRose

It's been great watching the relationships develop between my twins and their older brother (26 months old). But lately I've noticed he's developing a real preference for one of the twins over the other. I think it's because Twin 1 meets his eyes more, and is more amenable to ... ahem ... tough love, shall we say ... love taps, love head butts, etc. Whereas Twin 2 is a little more reserved, a little less active, and more sensitive to affection that is a bit too rough. 

DS1 almost always chooses Twin 1 to interact with over Twin 2, which is fine I guess ... But just this afternoon DS1 and Twin 1 were on the ground playing, and Twin 2 was sitting with me on the couch. So I put Twin 2 down on the floor to enjoy watching and interacting with his brothers, and DS1 starting crying and whining asking me to take him away and put him back on the couch. That bothers me a little ... is it something I should be worried about? Should I try to initiate more interaction between DS1 and Twin 2? Or does it not matter at this point? (I know that he will probably be closer to one twin than the other, and that's okay, I just don't want Twin 2 to be the odd man out. )

oughtonk

I don't have any advice because i haven't experienced DS interacting with his brother and sister yet but I know it's going to be an issue.  DS is already excited to have a younger brother, he's not excited about his sister and keeps saying he wishes they were both boys.  Curious to see what experiences other MoMs have out there on this.

jeephappygirl

My b/g twins are only 7 mo, so not a lot of experience. DD1 is almost 3. At first she liked baby boy more. He is a little needy and just held more. So often when DD1 is trying to get our attention he is used as a puppet to talk to her. Just in the past 2 weeks she has been preferring baby girl. I think it's going to alternate just like mom/dad preferences do

TheDairyQueenx3

Thats how it is in our house too. DS1 has always "preferred" twin A over B. Even while they were in utero. We specifically didnt tell him who was who when they came home but he was instantly all over A...ironically thats the twin whos personality and look are most like him, lol! But we just try to encourage him to have time with both. Like if im nursing A i tell him to sit with B and just lay with him or tell him stories. The more we encourage that the more he is equaling out with them. 

GeauxTigers82

My daughter did that for a long time. She preferred Mia, even in utero, but I think it started out because she liked that name better. After they were born, she would only want to do things for Mia, to the point where I would sometimes tell her Noelle was Mia (she couldn't tell them apart until a few months ago). She doesn't do it anymore though. Now they all get along and fight equally!