WWM14D? Etiquette question

WoodShopGirl

I have a baby shower this Saturday that I RSVP'd yes to about a week ago. I don't know the hostess personally.

MH just informed me that he scheduled a big job the same day for a new client and can't watch A. Everyone who I trust to watch A is attending said shower.

I called the hostess and asked if children were coming and she said no because she has a small house. Then she asked how old LO was and when I told her she said that it was completely ok for me to bring him since he was just a baby.

I feel like it would still be inappropriate to bring him since 1. She said no at first and 2. I don't want to be an AW at someone else's shower.

If I don't bring him I don't go. Not the end of the world, but I was looking forward to it.

Would you go and bring LO since the hostess said it was ok? Or would you forego the party for the reasons above?

Thanks!

StephBrim24

Id take LO as long as the pregnant woman isn't super super sensitive about wanting the spotlight. I don't think it's a big deal at all. I think going all cute and pregnant is more AW and hard to avoid stealing attention.

mfarmer0811

I would definitely go, and bring my baby!!

kimberpoo

I would just bring LO and go. it's what I see most moms of tiny ones doing, and it never bothers anyone. I'd make sure he is changed, fed, and asleep if you can get him to sleep so you can enjoy the shower and he doesn't make too much noise

CruiseGirl28

My MIL wanted to say no kids at the shower so my 3 month old nephew wasn't stealing the show. I wanted him to go and was disappointed that he stayed home with my brother.

wildhoney4508

FFwifey said:

I always assume that babies are welcome at baby showers. Plus, it is kind of assumed that babies go with their mother pretty much everywhere. I wouldn't have even asked the hostess (eg I went to a baby shower two weeks ago and didn't ask about bringing Q. There were several babies there). Definitely bring your LO since you even asked and she said yes. It's a BABY shower!

I agree! Go!!

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WoodShopGirl

Thanks guys. I was leaning towards not going, but based on the trend of reaponses I will reconsider.

teaforthree

I would go since the hostess said it was okay, but if you're really worried about it just think of how the pregnant woman will feel.  Are you close to her?  Does she know your baby?  In other words, would SHE mind. 

rockopera

I would go. I take her "no" as not having the room or resources to host a child that needs to be entertained. But a baby in arms, no problem.

TX08Aggie

I would go!  I loved the little babies at my shower! 

If it comes down to it and she can't handle that people give attention to a baby instead of her, then she's in for a rude awakening when her LO comes anyway.  Good practice ;-)

Aliki

I say yes, bring the baby. I assume the hostess initially said no because she doesn't want toddlers or older kids running around her house, making a ruckus or breaking stuff. But since LO is a baby, it's OK.

BTBergstrom

Go! One of my friend brought her baby to my shower and I didn't care at all.

ladyglittersparkles

Go go go. People love babies! I took Fallyn to a bridal shower in April. She was maybe 5 weeks old ( why does that seem like forever ago?)

angelsnight

I'm going to a shower on Sunday and taking LO and I didn't ask if I can bring her.  I figure it's a baby shower, so babies are welcome.  And I also assume if my LO steals the attention, then that's the fault of the other guests, not me or my baby's fault.

WoodShopGirl

Just an update, MH's job that was scheduled for tomorrow got pushed to next weekend as the equipment hasn't come in yet. So he can now watch A.

I would still consider taking him based on your responses, but honestly Mommy needs a break and this is a good excuse.

Thanks again ladies!