Disciplining without spanking

blushingbride_08

I'm not trying to start a debate over spanking vs not spanking. My 2 yr old is in his terrible twos. He often gets upset when I tell him he can't do something then will bite. Today it was in public at a park. I told him biting isn't nice blah blah and took him to the side for a few mins. Later he bit me again. We ended up leaving early. I'm 30 weeks pregnant so I don't really have the energy to put up with tantrums. for those that do not spank your child, how do you handle a situation like this?

Linnea503

My kid is not a biter, but if he did we would leave immediately. All fun would end right away. You bite, no fun. He pushed another kid one time at a play cafe and we left. He cried the whole way home and has never pushed again, at least not yet.

Some of my friends shower so much attention on their kids when they hit/bite I feel like they are actually reinforcing the bad behavior.

AKB090609

DD is 20 months, we don't spank and we don't do time outs. We do warnings (E this is your warning, we don't XYZ), then we give an if then statement (E if you choose to bite we will leave). That's it if she can't get it together we go. I totally get where you are coming from I have 28 days left before baby number two will be here and I have zero energy for any of her nonsense.

peaceinnature

DS doesn't bite, but he tries to pinch or head-but me when he's over tired.  I just hold him away from me and calmly say, "That hurts, I won't let you hurt me." I show him that he can hit a pillow or the couch.  And he eventually stops trying and goes to something else.

If we were out and he was behaving that way, I would take it as a sign he was ready to leave/over stimulated and go home.

Rink08

If we are out, I give 1-2 warnings and either leave or have an instant time out (they have to sit wherever they are for however long their timeouts are). Instant timeouts are DS2's personal form of torture and he will avoid it at all costs.

If they bit someone else, we'd leave immediately. If they bit themselves or me, I'd probably give a warning first.

bumpuser8448316

Anything physical- biting, hitting, pushing and we leave immediately and go home or at home he goes into time out. Anything else gets 1 warning and then we leave/time out/lose a privilege

penguingrrl

For physical aggression (hitting, biting, kicking, pushing, etc) when we're out we leave immediately. No warnings, no excuses. We get in the car and leave. At home they go straight to TO with the same rules about not getting warnings. 

Now we're at the age where the one at fault also has to listen to their siblings whine/complain about having to leave when they were behaving. I consider it good guilt for them to have ruined everyone's fun and helps reinforce the consequences (if you ever read the book "The Whipping Boy" as a kid, it's the same theory minus the obvious whipping/hitting a child).

LoriLee14

I left the movie theater this morning because of his screaming. We did walk out once and talked about it. Then the next time he did it, we just left.

Although, I knew he is a screamer and already had it in my head he wouldn't last the whole time and we would leave early anyways. So a lot is about the mindset going into it.

blushingbride_08

Thx everyone for the advice. My issue is my ds doesn't quite understand that leaving is punishment. It's actually more of a punishment for me bc I took time to drive there. there are some places that we simply can't leave bc we are far from home.