Has anyone announced publicly yet?

saratiffphoto

We have announced to close family and a few friends but Im wondering if announcing before our first appointment is too early. Has anyone announced before their appointment? I am very healthy and young my risks are very low and same for my DH. I just dont know if i can wait.

YaMrWhite

It's all personal preference. I will not be going public until 2nd tri. I won't be telling family until we confirm a heartbeat. If you are comfortable telling everyone if a loss were to occur then go for it! Having been through one, it sucked going back and saying "just kidding."

ADALLASBRIDE

Miscarriage holds a 15-25 percent chance. It doesn't matter if you are super healthy or not. If the chromosomes or genetic make up isn't right, mc can happen. My very first preg I was young and healthy and it ended in mc at 10 weeks. Not to scare you but it is a reality. I personally choose not to announce to social media until around 14 weeks.

MrsFreeman2010

We have told family and a couple close friends. We plan on announcing after we have an u/s and heartbeat.

brendisimma

Same here, not announcing to family til we get a hB. Considering not announcing on social media at all..

Megs528812

Close family after heart beat and the rest of the world at 13 weeks, but it's completely up to you. It's a super hard secret to keep.

MusicFanatic

Completely a personal choice. Some tell right away, some wait. All up to you.

I've told my parents, in-laws, grandparents, siblings and my 2 best friends.  No other family or friends know, and I won't tell quite yet.  I'd like to hear a heartbeat first.

LadyXaverian

Megs528812 said:

Close family after heart beat and the rest of the world at 13 weeks, but it's completely up to you. It's a super hard secret to keep.

This exactly.

kibylou

We've only told our parents so far. Tomorrow after our ultrasound, we will tell siblings and close friends. Everyone else will be after first Tri. Even telling my siblings about my loss was hard. It is a hard secret to keep, but even harder to untell people IMO.

sunlavender

We won't go public until at least 13 weeks.

WillCMyInk

I told immediate family as soon as I found out. I will likely go public right around week 12. I have my 2nd midwife appt. on the 17th and as long as I hear a heartbeat there then we will be going fully public that week.

EmilyD76

We told our parents and siblings last weekend. I plan to tell my close friends once I can get them together and alone. I don't plan to tell my kids until after my first appointment.

mpiemont

I'm a "late teller". No one knows right now. With my first, I didn't even tell my parents until almost 11 weeks, a little sooner with my 2nd because I was staying with them for a week and it was obvious. I'd like to wait until after my 1st appointment around 9 weeks to tell anybody. Then go "public" after 1st tri. Social media- closer to the 16 week mark.

mikeANDjen448

Completely your choice, but I agree with HOH about my timidness with going public due to 2 previous losses.  I am telling close family and friends but FB can wait until 2nd trimester.  But enjoy your pregnancy and do what feels right to you.  While yes, there is a 15-25% chance of a m/c, that means there is a 75-85% chance of NOT having a m/c.   ;;)

Beauxbaton

We've told our families and our 4 really close friends.

We will wait till 12 weeks to tell on Facebook. It's what we did last time.

mandyreads

We told family a couple weeks ago. But not announcing until after next week's first appt. (8 weeks) Our very first pregnancy ended in a MC at 8 weeks and I was 21 and very healthy.

Milagros315

We told our parents and my siblings as soon as we found out because they knew we were doing an IVF cycle. I wanted them to know in case things don't go well. We'll try to keep it a secret from everyone else for as long as possible. I'm sure my family will suspect something, but hopefully they won't say anything to me about it.

saratiffphoto

I guess we are going to wait til after heartbeat as well just really nervous Ive never had a MC and im just scared to have one because babies were not in my husbands plan he always said maybe one day and then a few weeks ago told me he really didnt want them and then we found out and now hes getting excited but still very nervous so i feel like this is kind of my only chance. I am just putting my faith in God and that everything will be okay and praying for a healthy baby. This is so stressful and im not the type to usually worry. You ladies are really helping me keep quiet because I can post in here and helping me with all my questions and concerns. Super super greatful.

saratiffphoto

we have a few friends and family members who know, but I guess I'm going to wait til 10-12 weeks. How are yall keeping quiet though?

Lanatir

We'll be doing a cheesy FB announcement around July 4th.  Because my MiL put MY pregnancy on her FB, most of our friends already know, though.  DH said it was only fair to tell his parents since I told mine the DAY I got my BFP, and then his mom blabbed it to FB...  After we said we were only telling the parents...

My mom has been through for sure 2 m/c and I KNOW I'd want her if I had one.  Especially after how much my BFF raved about my mom's letter about m/c to my BFF when BFF had a m/c.  Plus, with my mom going through chemo again, I figured even if she only had a few weeks of the idea of a new grandchild to focus on, a few weeks of chemo 3 times a week would be worth it.

saratiffphoto

HappyMonkey817 said:

We told everyone pretty much immediately.

have you gotten any backlash from anyone for announcing so soon?

 have you heard heartbeat yet? sorry so many questions im just really intrigued

NatureLovers

We've told everyone. I'm so visibly pregnant and my M/S is so bad there's no hiding it.

luciddreamer106

We've told parents, siblings, and close friends who all know our loss history. We told some friends the last time I was pregnant (ended in a loss) and had not told them about the first pregnancy. It has been nice to have them send me good vibes and were very understanding when I had a loss. For me, we ended up telling friends that we would tell if we had a loss. We won't go public until probably 2nd trimester.

It's a personal decision, so whatever you feel comfortable with.

jennkg3

 I haven't personally had a loss, but I know so many healthy, low risk people that have. So, no I would never tell before the first appointment except to close family and friends. I was always worried about a blighted ovium I just know sooooo soooo many people that have had them. We had seen the baby and have heard the heartbeat now so I'm less cautious but still will wait till the 2nd tri or later.

ktkoala

We told parents, siblings, and 2-3 close friends. I told my mom she could tell people after we heard the heartbeat.

rmpar29

I've told one friend and my boss, but that's it.  DH and I had an agreement to wait until after genetic screening to tell our families, but he has a big mouth so our parents know.  No one else will know until after genetic screening and an u/s at 11w5d and possibly another couple weeks after that just to make sure.

It is all personal preference! 

MNgirl326

I've told some family and some friends.  Basically the people who know we were going through secondary IF and having an IUI.

With my first, I was much more private about TTC and being PG. But after two years of trying and and 2  IUI's.  I am much more open about my secondary IF, as it helped me cope and it helped having support of others.

 

Here is how I look at it, I told the people that if something did happen, I would want to lean on for support while dealing with a loss.  

It's all a personal preference, but for me, I'm glad I have told the people I have. 

Bigboneded

I told work and some friends "early" last time and we had a m/c at 17 weeks, so I had to untell everyone, that was hard. We told my parents when we got the BFP because they were so excited last time, I wanted them to have a chance to be happy from the start this time (first grandchild) ;-) . Then my hubby told his parents AND children without me and I didnt know until his mother sent me a congratulatory text. I was/am pissed about that. I told him he can do the untelling by himself too. Then he got worried and asked if I had any concerns. I cant imagine people would get mad at you for being pregnant (backlash?) But people surprise me all the time.... tell if you want, its only the potential "untelling" that gives me pause :-)

TXUltraRunner

My RE told me after my two ultrasounds in which we saw a regular heartbeat and texbook growth at 6 & 7 weeks that my miscarriage risk went down to 5%. We will see the baby again on Monday which will be 9 weeks. DH and I decided that if the growth is still textbook and everything looks great we will go "public" after that appointment when the risk goes down to 0.5% according to most of the medical journals I've read. We're going to tell family and friends on phone and in person. I'll never do a big announcement on Facebook so I guess I'm just not worried about having to go back and untell the world. I'll probably drop a subtle hint on Instagram with a #runningfortwo on one of my Garmin pictures after the first tri but other than that, I'm not going to be like "hey I'm pregnant".

bringonbaby

My first appt is on June 11th which will be about 8 wks.. The nurse who scheduled it said it might be too early to hear the heartbeat so my hubby should just come to the 2nd appt at 10-12 weeks.. What do u guys think?! From the posts I've been reading some people have heard a heartbeat as early as 6 weeks!

Curbs12

I've told family only. I'm 22 and had a miscarriage in January. For that pregnancy I announced a few days after I found out, and then had to announce about a month later that my baby had no heartbeat. This pregnancy I'm waiting until I'm 12 or 13 weeks. I've known I've been pregnant since I was 3 wks and I am now 9 wks and I am not one to keep secrets so it has been HARD for me... I've just been taking it day by day and that is how I've been getting through!

2000cougar

I might start telling people in July. The one exception is that I've already told my parents. They watch DS once a week and during my appts. They'd worry if suddenly I was going to the Drs a lot. 

YaMrWhite

bringonbaby said:

My first appt is on June 11th which will be about 8 wks.. The nurse who scheduled it said it might be too early to hear the heartbeat so my hubby should just come to the 2nd appt at 10-12 weeks.. What do u guys think?! From the posts I've been reading some people have heard a heartbeat as early as 6 weeks!

It is my understanding that 8 weeks should be plenty far a long to hear a heartbeat. Maybe she said that because you aren't 100% on your EDD and she is just covering her bases?

Edit to correct myself: You should be able to see a heartbeat on the ultrasound. I doubt you would hear it with a doppler so I guess it depends on what you are having done at your appt.

infinity092813

We just told my mom.  We were so excited and had to tell someone so we chose my mom since she is able to keep it a secret.  And, she'll probably be the most excited (I'm her only child and this will be her first grand baby).

DH wants to tell everyone.  He wants to tell his parents but if his mom knows, the world will know and we aren't comfortable with that just yet.  We're debating whether to tell his parents on Father's Day, after 1st ultrasound, or at the end of 1st trimester.  

Anyone have any backlash for withholding news from in-laws?  What about making an announcement the weekend of family member's wedding?  Not at the wedding or before but maybe the day after when the family is all together?  Is that rude?

mellizzard

We've told our parents, siblings, and closest friends. Planning to go public after first trimester.

shefidgets

We told our parents and siblings. Then my dad decides to post on Facebook even after we specifically told him we wanted to wait until the 2nd tri.

SwtHrt88

We have told a handful of close friends and will be announcing to immediate family on Father's Day. From there, we'll tell extended family (closer to 10 weeks) and then publicly (closer to 12 weeks). My theory is this: I don't mind having to tell people about a potential loss early-on, insofar as I can keep track of a running list of who all would need to be updated with potentially bad news. With things like Facebook or word-of-mouth, I think the risk of someone who you don't normally see or talk to randomly coming up and (with the best of intentions) asking how the pregnancy is going, etc several weeks or months down the road after a loss. That having been said, to each their own!

CoachTay

We've told my parents, brother and SIL, and grandparents. We'll be telling hubby's mom this weekend when we can connect via Skype since she's out in DC. We'll tell close friends and the rest of our family as we see them. I like to share the news in person.

We'll go Facebook public around July 4th - I'll be 13 weeks.

JerseyHopeful

As long as my follow up viability scan goes well next Wednesday (I'll be 8wks1day) we will start telling more people. My immediate family knows but he hasn't told his family at all. Frankly I have felt awful and pretty much been in hiding and it will be nice to tell some people so they don't think I'm blowing them off or just being bitchy.

jlmeg78

The only people we told were my parents, his mom and my boss just incase of morning sickness issues which have begun. My DH and I decided to wait until the end of the first trimester because we are high risk an don't want to have to tell anyone the bad news just incase. We had a scare earlier this week when I started bleeding but everything Is fine. Got to see the baby's heartbeat!

SamanthaLaura16

We have told close friends and family who were following me through my medicated cycle but not even DH parents yet. We will prob be more open about it after 12 weeks but as of now the plan is to not do anything on social media til like 14 or 16 weeks.