Co-workers make fun of pregnant women :(

maddiemm5

So, I recently found out I'm pregnant. My husband and I are super excited! It's our first, and we can't wait to tell people, but we are waiting until after the 1st trimester. However, I have two co-workers who are single and they constantly make fun of pregnant women and women with kids. They will read their friends' Facebook statuses about pregnancy/parenthood out loud for our entire office to hear, and make fun of them, then follow up with comments like, "I am NEVER having kids." Today, one of the girls showed me a picture one of her FB friends had posted of her newborn and started off with, "Oh my God, do you want to see the ugliest baby?" Then showed it to me and was like, "Look at its belly button. That is SO gross." Last week, she showed me and some other ladies in the office maternity pictures one of her friends had taken (for the purpose of making fun of them) and was commenting about how happy she was that her pregnant friend had gotten fat and how horrible she looked.

I used to just sort of ignore it and brush it off, but now that I'm preggo it makes me really uncomfortable. And obviously, if they feel that way about pregnant women, they're going to feel that way about me and my baby. I know it's going to be extremely uncomfortable when I break the news in a couple months, and I have no idea what to do about it. Help!

vjdk07

It sounds like you work with some extremely immature, ignorant people. I say screw them.

TXUltraRunner

Um. Why do you care what your coworkers think? 

mellizzard

I feel really sorry for your co-workers...  But just because they don't want/like kids, you can't let that bother the most happiest time in your life! You're going to have to tell them sooner or later, and just be open to the fact that pregnancy/kid(s) is not for everyone. Try not to stress yourself out over this - everything will be okay! 

All-in-all, I think that once people know your'e expecting they're generally happy for you. However, you always have to remember that it's your life and not theirs.

Milagros315

They sound like assholes. Who gives a shit what they think?

SpaceGirlSpiff

Sounds like you work with some real C U next tuesdays 

Beauxbaton

Sounds you work with some assholes.

Maebb

I mean, honestly, I look at some of my friends' Facebook posts about what they think is cool or interesting, and I think those posts are stupid. You do have to realize that when you post updates about your baby or talk to your coworkers about it, some people will not be interested.

I think once you share your pregnancy news, people will be more sensitive. If not, they're jerks, and try not to take what they say personally. They may just not be at a point in their lives where they can relate to you.

astridz077

YOU having a child has absolutely nothing to do with the folks in your office.  Ignore them.  This is about you, your DH and your family.  That's it.  And for what it's worth, many of those little brats you work with could end up like me and have their biological time bombs go off at 35 yrs old and then they'll be singing a very different tune.

longcat07

wow, they sound delightful.  i have plenty of friends who live the child-free lifestyle and i don't begrudge anyone who doesn't want or like kids (they're certainly not everyone's cup of tea), but that kind of behavior is bizarre.  they need to grow up.

maybe just let them know that it makes you uncomfortable and then report them to HR if it continues?  either way, don't let it bother you. they sound kind of bitter, actually.

motherboy

They will probably be embarrassed by their remarks when you let them know you're pregnant. I'd give them the chance to shut up before going to your boss or HR. they sound like real assholes if they make fun of a pregnant woman's weight. ETA:or jeez, call a baby ugly? That's low.

aerotigergirl

Fightersince83 said:

They sound awful. It's probably best to distance yourself as much as possible (regardless of pregnancy). If they talk that much shit about people, it's probably not restricted to pregnancy/ kids.

I think she hit the nail on the head here. They sound like very sad people if they spend so much of their time searching for reasons to make fun of their "friends."

SpaceGirlSpiff

Not being interested in what other people post about or care about Vs. saying gross disrespectful comments about people based on what they care about are two different things.  These bitches are saying ugly things whether its around a pregnant person or not, and it's gross.  I wouldn't care to have such people in my life.

It's perfectly OK not to be into pregnancy or babies or whatever, and yes it's true that not everyone will be as excited about it.  But a MATURE adult just says "That's not for me" and moves on. When you go out of your way to show pictures/posts to people and say nasty things about appearances and basically tear the person down? You're an immature, catty twat.  The end.

WillCMyInk

If you really care that much about what these women think about you being pregnant...well...maybe you should have thought about that before getting pregnant.

I say screw them. Who cares what they say? If you and your husband are happy then that's all that matters.

alibc123

Maybe they make fun of pregnant women because they wish they were pregnant. Kind of along the same lines as being mean to someone you have a crush on. Just a thought. Good luck when you do break the news though.

MahriM23

Those miserable bitties suck.

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jovencita1224

Wow. What a bunch of nasty wenches.

IHeartScience

Sounds like somebody is jealous and finding immature ways to let it out. I had a friend like that, but she suddenly changed her tune when she found out about ds1...and I didn't care what she thought as long as she wasn't rubbing it in my face.

Bigboneded

Sounds horrid. I am sorry :-( GL with that. I might feel the need to say, I dont care to hear this typefof stuff at work anymore- I am pregnant and it is offensive. But then you still have to work with the catty wenches anyway... so, just, good luck! (((hugs)))