Chris has been receiving services since he was about 20 months old (he's now 4 1/2) and it was in Oct. 2011 that we first heard the 'A' word used in relation to him. So I spent the next year or so kicking and screaming (silently) about it and pretty much making justifications for all his behaviors and actions but slowly as he got older and his delays became all the more apparent, I don't even think I realized when it actually happened, but I just sort of fell into an acceptance of the way things were and I started using the 'A' world all the more often.
He's been evaluated by child psychologists and most recently by a school psychiatrist and they all agreed, we're looking at ASD, but we'd never actually gone to a developmental pediatrician. Why? Not really sure but with the new laws in NY related to insurance and autism related services, and with his move to Kindergarten we knew we had to. Four month wait list, but last week was appt one and today was the follow-up.
It was what we already knew - ASD. "No doubt." And no, the floor didn't come out from under me. It was sort of just a resigned sigh and yep thought as much, now does Chris need a diaper change? However, one of my suspicions was confirmed today. Chris brought a plus 1 to the ASD party - ADHD. I've suspected it for a long time and so has DH (who, himself, has ADD). The doctor did qualify it. As we were talking in the office. Chris was amusing himself with some colored pencils and some paper. The dr. pointed out that while his teachers and therapists all agree that he has serious attention span and focus issues, they all pointed out that he CAN focus and pay attention, when it's something he WANTS to do. Like the fact that he'd been drawing for 10 minutes straight. He *can* pay attention - he just doesn't want to - which is why she (and we) are against even considering medication at this time.
So yeah, there it is - ASD + ADHD = my beautiful crazy pants little boy. And the world didn't stop spinning.