GTKY: What are you nervous about?

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2000cougar

Having my aorta dissect or uterine rupture. I have a condition that can cause these two problems. Needless to say, they monitor me closely. 

AlfiesMOM

That there is something wrong with the baby. I just want to get through the NT scan! 

Pips09

Bed rest, hospitalization and having another preemie.

UberBiz

Getting put on bed rest. I have no history of problems that they would have to do that, but my god I don't think I could handle it.

TXUltraRunner

The thought of not making it to the second trimester (miscarriage) scares the hell out of me.

motherboy

Miscarriage is huge worry. Any issues with the baby. And then how I am going to handle two kids.

Ktbug613

well I was going to post the thought of having 2U2 is pretty overwhelming at the moment.....but that seems kind of silly compared to the very valid scary things some of you are facing. Can I just leave some ((((hugs))))) instead?

growinghope

I'm most nervous that I have no idea of what to be nervous about. This is my first pregnancy, so I just don't know what my body might do or what things could be like during this process. 

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MusicFanatic

I'd say right at this particular stage would be a miscarriage.. I have random passing fears that there won't be a heartbeat.

"Longer term" that something is wrong with baby, and delivery.

Milagros315

Right now I'm worried that this is an ectopic pregnancy (hopefully it's just endo pain) or that there will be no heartbeat on Friday. Then beyond that I worry about miscarriage in general, late term loss, pregnancy complication...I worry a lot. After nearly two years of failure, I'm having a hard time believing that I will be one of the lucky ones that actually gets a baby.

UberBiz

HappyMonkey817 said:

I already have size 12 feet and DDD boobs, so I worry that those sizes will increase even more and I will never find comfy shoes or bras again.

I also have all the other typical fears, but thought these might lighten the mood for everyone :-)

I was thinking along those lines... I would categorize miscarriage and deformities more as legit fears than something to simply be 'nervous' about. I'm most nervous about how bad the acid reflux is going to be, and how early it's going to start this time.

MrsMCBMar2014

Miscarriage is big on my nervousness list. 2nd on it is having some kind of genetic issue...I wouldn't love the baby any less, but still it's definitely worrisome.

LadyXaverian

- Having  an early mc/finding out baby isn't viable at my 1st u/s.

- Having complications again related to a uterine fibroid. 

- Though it's statistically fairly uncommon, I know too many people who had late losses, so it is in the back of my mind, too.

If I thought about it long enough, I could think of dozens of things I'm nervous about, but I am trying to think positively.

LadyXaverian

UberBiz said:

HappyMonkey817 said:

I already have size 12 feet and DDD boobs, so I worry that those sizes will increase even more and I will never find comfy shoes or bras again.

I also have all the other typical fears, but thought these might lighten the mood for everyone :-)

I was thinking along those lines... I would categorize miscarriage and deformities more as legit fears than something to simply be 'nervous' about. I'm most nervous about how bad the acid reflux is going to be, and how early it's going to start this time.

Oh, well if we're going this route...

- That I'll gain 50 lbs like I did last time, which would really suck since I hung onto 20 lbs.

- That I'll have pregnancy carpal tunnel again. That sucked.

- Bras and shoes were definitely an issue last time.

- Along those same lines, I had to stop wearing my wedding rings at the beginning of 3rd tri, and a year after baby was born, they still didn't fit. I had to get them sized. I really hope that doesn't happen again.

- That DD won't adjust well to a sibling.

jovencita1224

I'm worried about how my job will react. I used to work for the federal government and although there is no 'paid' maternity leave (but you can use the sick leave bank), they are pretty generous about holding your job. You can go on leave for a year before you have to worry about not getting a job back.

I'm now working in the private sector for an amazing (and huge) company that offers 8 weeks paid maternity leave. I don't qualify for FMLA until I'm like, 36 weeks pregnant, so I hope I don't go on bed rest at 30 weeks again. I hope they don't expect me to travel much in 2015. I am nervous overall about how my job will react to this pregnancy.

sydneygerten

Miscarriage worries me a lot... I'm nervous for my first appointment this friday and hoping all is ok... i'm nervous at the chance of twins as my DH is a twin and as much as I would LOVE to have twins... financially that would be a lot that we're not prepared for right now. Hoping for a smooth pregnancy and healthy baby!

Sia2128

I am worried about the cost of this baby. For my first pregnancy, our insurance coverage was much more comprehensive and we ended up only paying $100. Due to insurance changes, We will have to pay a minimum of $3000. (All the other logical fears are there as well) edited for craziness from microsoft....weird

 

spoonleg

100% honest: my biggest fear is that motherhood won't come naturally to me or, even worse, that I won't enjoy it.

MusicFanatic

spoonleg said:

100% honest: my biggest fear is that motherhood won't come naturally to me or, even worse, that I won't enjoy it.

I have this fear, too.  And I fear of losing "myself" and identity and marriage, since we've been child free nearly 10 years of marriage.

And I'm adding a selfish one.. I'm nervous about gaining weight.  Because lets face it.. a postnatal ballerina who has gained a bunch of weight and has to wear a leotard can't be too pretty on the eyes.

peachykeen16

I have all the "regular" pregnancy fears, but I guess I'm most nervous that DD will still not be talking before the little hitchhiker arrives. She will be 2 in July, vocab of only 5 words and its so frustrating for both if us. I know it will be even more so when she has a sibiling and I'm caring for a newborn! FX that speech therapy helps.

Edit: spelling is hard

luvtakestaime

I am super nervous about having this baby with both dogs acting as whacky as they do now. The responsibility that comes with a four year-old dog and a new puppy is taxing. I don't believe in giving up on dogs, but it's a very daunting thought. 

luciddreamer106

Right now, I'm most nervous about having another miscarriage. My symptoms aren't reassuring because I had those the last two times, too.

I'm also nervous that I'll gain too much weight. I've cut back the intensity of my workouts (no longer running and slower on elliptical) because I'm nervous about having another MMC.

Also, that I'll have difficulty breast feeding.

Mrs_Bennett

I suffered PPD/PPA after DS1 was born, and I feel like I missed out on a lot of his first year because of it. I was scared of it happening again after DS2, but, thankfully, it did not. I fear having that again, and missing out on another entire year--of all three of my kids' lives.

KJsbabe

I'm worried about miscarrying. I'm worried that my baby won't have a HB at my next u/s. I'm worried that I won't make it out of the 1st tri. I'm worried that when January rolls around I'll be devistated about losing my baby, instead of joyfully welcoming home our new LO.

I just want a healthy baby to take home in my arms. Everything else is gravy.

growinghope

mrandmrsk91011 said:

growinghope said:

I'm most nervous that I have no idea of what to be nervous about. This is my first pregnancy, so I just don't know what my body might do or what things could be like during this process. 

Don't let this make you nervous.  If you're not nervous about anything, that's great!  Enjoy the ride

I was nervous about a lot of things with DD but this time around I'm pretty calm and not too worried, though I am conscious that there is a lot that could go wrong.  So I just enjoy every day that I'm pregnant and will worry when there is something to worry about.  

Thanks @mrandmrsk91011. I too am conscious that a lot could go wrong, but not actively worried or nervous at the moment. That might change the day of my next appointment when I hope to hear a heart beat! 

missiemae

My primary worry is what I am going to do as a single mom to5?!?
I am almost scared to tell my parents.. I am nervous about another mc.
I am also worried that bf wont make it to town when it is time for babe to arrive.

kolaczka

For the baby I worry about miscarriage and birth defects.

For me I worry about weight gain and the impact on my back. I envision months of horrible back pain.

longcat07

miscarriage, probably followed by multiples (because we really cannot afford more than one more right now).  having multiples is kind of an irrational fear though...there are none in my family so the odds are really solidly in my favor there.

alibc123

Like the majority of you that I have a miscarriage or that something is genetically wrong with the baby. But I figure as long as I'm having MS and feeling these other symptoms that the baby is just growing away, H&H. 

rainbows

Im worried about miscarriage.  As bad as I am feeling now, I dont know that I would even want to try again.  Im also worried about having chronic nausea all 9 months.  I dont handle persistent illness very well.  Im also worried about problems or defects with the baby.  I dont even know what I would do.