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EricaCat1
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I have to tip my hat to my single mom friend
EricaCat1
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She's a 42-year-old single mom to a BEAUTIFULLY behaved (although extremely shy) third grade 8 1/2-year-old daughter. She works hard at her job Monday through Friday and doesn't usually get home until after 6 p.m. but when she gets home she cooks a meal, spends the time she can with her daughter, and then gets her ready for bed & puts her to bed on a perfect sleep schedule. She works four other jobs doing mostly freelance work (police sketch artist work, bartending, drawing portraits of people, and promo modeling). This woman owns her home outright in a cozy, idyllic neighborhood and her little girl goes to the good school district there. She takes her daughter on outings, reads to her, watches her favorite Disney shows with her, and takes her on trips (particularly their annual Disney World trip for her birthday). All that and she manages to work out every morning when the gym opens at 5:30 a.m.! (She has an "odd-hours" babysitter). She finds time to go out with "her boys" quite a bit (most of her close friends are guy friends in law enforcement and firefighting). And she does NOT need a man...she is self-proclaimed "done" with relationships as both her ex-husband AND beloved ex-fiance cheated on her and hurt her real bad...and she is stunningly gorgeous!! She loves being a single mom and is all about her daughter. Now, no one is saying she doesn't have help. Her mom, stepfather, dad, stepmother, aunt, and grandmother all live very nearby and help babysit her daughter at a moment's notice. (This is a big reason why she is able to go out with her buddies a lot). Unfortunately, her mom and stepdad are moving one hour away so she is going to hire a live-in nanny starting this summer. 
But I have to say hats off to her; she's an amazing mom and she does a great job!
But I have to say hats off to her; she's an amazing mom and she does a great job! This discussion has been closed.
Re: I have to tip my hat to my single mom friend
THIS.
OP, Why are you so obsessed with your friend and her life? Perhaps it is time to get one of your own.
(edited for clarification)
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
I just had to say you know what makes an amazing mum, spending time with your child! So while your AMAZING friend is busy working all day and all these other people are taking care of her child so she can work and gym and spend soooo much time with her friends,her child is being raised by family and off hours babysitting services, she would not be that amazing in my books as a mum!
I get as a single mum you need to work, you need to build a life for a child but if I had paid off my home, I would be spending more hours with my child than at work, at a gym and with a bunch of guys getting drunk!
No kid cares if they got a trip every year to a theme park if you don't put in quality time in the interim, and you know what no kid cares if they didn't go to Disney land ever as a child if they had a loving parent in a position to spend TIME with them.
Seriously your post is LAME! Shame on you coming here and trying to paint some woman as the ultimate single mum, when all I heard is this person I'm friends with is completely selfish, self centred and paints the perfect picture of a mother to someone who is clearly not a mother or someone without a grasp of the importance of putting a child before themselves !
Oh your poor friend had to get a nanny well let's be honest here it's just a dint in her wallet she was never taking care of the kid in the first place so I'm sorry your friends bank balance will suffer this inconvience it must be hard on her
Throwing leaves
On a happier note he is one tomorrow so yay!!!!
I'm getting my laptop out in a few hours and shall post away!
Thank you all for being so welcoming x
Eta i totally want to teach bentley to say fuck this bish because i give no fucks if he swears like a hells angel
You only know what your taught and you only learn what you're shown so despite the opinion of an 8year old her parenting is selfish and crap and in the long term, detrimental.
Kids say I love candy and chocolate but you don't feed it to them as a stable diet since its crap for you makes you fat unhealthy and really eventually kills you!
You are obviously extremely well educated since the approval of an 8 year old who has limited capacity to process a situation, has given it the thumbs up, that was enough for you to scream " successful single mother"
As an adult you should be able to anyalise a situation and say " wow there is a person missing the point of being a mother"
I'm not going to argue with you about the dynamics and downfalls of the situation, because basically you are eating crayons out of a box and shaking your head whilst reading this thinking but she said her mum rocked!
When her daughter can't be bought with trips to disneyland, when her daughter only knows love when attached to a price tag, when her daughter seeks negitive attention from males since she lacked so much positive attention at home and was missing any strong role model in her life that made her a priority ( Which your friend is not)
You might have a moment of clarity!
Bottom line is your friend does what's best for her not best for her child she can wrap it up and sell it however she likes, but no one here is buying it and no one here thinks she had anything to be bragging about, so congrats on her not going without because everyone wishes they had a mother that always put their own needs before their own ...........said no kid ever!
Seriously grow a brain and connect the dots !
An 8year old isn't going to say this behavior is incorrectly shaping me for teenage years and adulthood, they don't even realize
As adults your job is to be the adult not expect the child to do so !
Throwing leaves