Boobs and Sex

lazyreader

Now that a handful of us are back on the sex wagon... I have a conundrum. Hubs is fixated on my boobs. And by boobs i mean nipples and wanting to suck them. I'm not really comfortable with it solely because I cannot get my head wrapped around it being sexy rather than nutrition. It kinda weirds me out. Plus my nips are always tender from J nursing. I tell him to leave my nipples alone but he goes for them anyways and I end up having to be the debbie downer during sex and he goes off and angry pouts. I don't think I should feel guilty for asking him to back off... but I also don't know how to tell him to get the fuck over it and stop making me feel like the bad guy for having this boundary. We don't have many other boundaries so I'm worried I've created a "give a mouse a cookie" monster.

Anyone else in this boat? 

babylimas

I totally felt like that after my first. They are so not sexy when you are nursing all day. 

TX08Aggie

My DH is scared of them...  He keeps asking how long I'll be breastfeeding and when they will be safe and his again ;-)  So, if he's being a pain, all I have to do is threaten to whip out a boob and squirt him with it.

bumpuser9058414

Can you try to talk to him about it during non sexy time? DH tried the other night and then backed away and said that they smelled like milk and "he can have them for a while longer." 

SurpriseAt39

My DH is excited about mine.
He loved my A cups (so he said), but loves my nursing D/DD's. in the in between time from DS1 to DS2 (4 months not nursing) I went down to a C.

As long as LO hasn't JUST eaten within a half hour or so, I let him have them. His suck is different from LO's and has a different effect.
I don't enjoy the rubbing/pinching so much at the moment, but that will return after weaning.

iJustCant10

DH really has a hard time avoiding my boobs, but he catches himself and stops. I've leaked on him twice after he's stimulated them and it just throws me off and I laugh and can't get back into sexy-mode lol.

dancer7889

DH is afraid of them, which disappoints me actually. I just want a little play, and he'll do a little but is seriously afraid of being sprayed/weirded out by it. Never sprayed him before though- I do keep my shirt on usually just in case I start leaking a little.

MeggsM

Mine are off limits too and DH misses them bit understands. It's driving him nuts but in a good way...he makes up what he would have done with my boobs by focussing on other parts of my body which is nice;)

They are getting less sore so he may get them sooner rather than later but right now they are all LO's.

fish8412

Mine are also off limits. Right now boobs are for LO and thankfully my husband is ok with that. He is worried about getting sprayed in the face anyways.

jwls84

After having a baby attached to my boobs all day the last thing I need is someone playing with them.
I hate having to instate rules for sex, but leave the damn nipples alone!!

SurpriseAt39

Cmmo14 said:

sorry to hijack yet another thread... but am I the onlyone who's boobs start spraying when having sex? I get so relaxed that they let down and if MH happens to put his hands on them they spray so so far that it got on the ceiling (after he moved his face). Total mood kill, but good laughs

Huh. When the bra is off mine wouldn't spray the ceiling.

ETA: the Bump deleted the rest??

So, as I was saying...wouldn't spray the ceiling because DH plays with them most when they are dangling in his face.

Pinecone21

MH is disappointed that he can't play with my boobs like he used to, but he respects that the nipples are off limits. He was all into touching and kissing the rest of my boobs during sex last week, though, which was hot. I hope your husband starts respecting your boundaries. They're your boobs, not his!

pepperedmoth

Even if your boundary was, "You may not touch my left ring finger during the full moon," it is required that he respect it. Full stop.

Your body is yours to share in any way --- and ONLY in the way --- you desire.

No guilt for having boundaries! If he can't handle that, it is massively disrespectful of you.

Practically speaking, try talking about it NOT in the middle of sex for sure.

myfriendscallmemeg

Pinecone21 said:

MH is disappointed that he can't play with my boobs like he used to, but he respects that the nipples are off limits. He was all into touching and kissing the rest of my boobs during sex last week, though, which was hot. I hope your husband starts respecting your boundaries. They're your boobs, not his!

This! My husband won't make nip to lip contact. But gets all sensual on the rest of them and it's mega hot! I'm always a little nervous I'm going to spray him and kill the mood. But boobs are his go to for when he wants to make me orgasm lots...and hard.

ProudMommy030614

Yup I keep them put away so he doesn't forget!

CruiseGirl28

I only pump twice a day- in the morning and evening. Prime sex times, but I'm scared my boobs will leak and I'll lose precious milk. So we can only have sex after I've pumped in the evening or the middle of the day.

WoodShopGirl

Maybe a UO, but I don't mind M H playing with them. He did get sprayed, but we just laughed and went back to having fun.

scrumpfy

Neither one of us is really weirded out by it, even if I leak a bit. But some days, I just really want my boobs to be left alone after having a baby glomming on them all day. So now we have an understanding g that if my bra is off, boobies are fair game, if bra is on, hands off mah boobs, dude.

jennybean80

There are times normally where I don't want nipple/breast action (too sensitive) so DH is used to me calling them off limits at times. He'd be all over them if I was okay with it.

nblondheim

I guess I'm a uo too! I don't mind and have never leaked (that I know of!). They are very sensitive though!

ladyglittersparkles

DH is gentle with them. If I say off limits he respects that.
No pouting allowed

pepperedmoth

Blonderedhead781 said:

WoodShopGirl said:

Maybe a UO, but I don't mind M H playing with them. He did get sprayed, but we just laughed and went back to having fun.

Same here!

Same. :-)

PerkyErky

Add me to the don't mind DH playing with the boobs or nipples. Actually I really like nipple play. He has never been squirted and I rarely leak, but even if it happened I doubt it would be a mood killer.

Edit: grammar

MayKay12

I am always leaking like crazy even without stimulation. If I let dh play with them during sex, he would be given a milk bath. Hands off for now. Plus, I don't want them touched after a baby has been on them all day. It weirds me out.