I wanted to introduce myself.
First of all- I have been lurking on the board for some time, knowing that adoption was a possibility for us. I want to thank you for all of the information that you post- you have been a wealth of knowledge for me(and I'm sure others)!

I am 30, DH is 33. We have been married for almost 5 years, TTC for over 4.5.  Our TTC journey has had one bump in the road after another including multiple diagnoses, misdiagnoses and even a disappearing doctor. Anyway, we are just beginning a journey into adoption.  We are pursuing domestic infant adoption, and we believe we have chosen an agency.  We are meeting with them in a few days to discuss the process and see if this is the agency we want to use. 

Do you have any suggestions?  (Either in general or questions we should ask the agency) TIA 


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  • edaireedaire member
    So sorry to hear of your struggles. We adopted LO when he was 3 days old and he is almost 8 months old now. Good luck to y'all and please keep us posted :)
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  • Welcome!

    I have a ton of questions you can ask, here's my word vomit off the top of my head ;)

    Licensing questions (how recently were they licensed, how often are they re-licensed, etc)

    Fee schedule

    What happens to the fees if the adoption falls through (is it held in escrow, is it lost, etc)

    Where you go on the list of waiting families if the adoption falls through (do you go to the top of families to consider)

    What kind of counseling is provided to all members of the adoption triad

    Are there any agency policies that you aren't in agreement with (eg, won't allow singles or LGBT families to adopt, minorities have a different fee schedule, marriage requirements, religious requirements)

    What is their ratio of waiting families to placements per year (the closer to 1:1 the shorter the wait, and it's more informative than the average wait time, which can vary greatly)

    What the homestudy process is like

    Who handles the legal side of the adoption (many agencies contract with specific lawyers)

    Do they allow the use of more than one agency

    How do they handle identified adoptions (ie, you find out your mother's neighbor's sister's daughter wants to make an adoption plan, will your agency work with her to place with you)

    Can they provide references, especially those who have had adoptions fall through (you want to see how the agency handles the bad as well as the good)

    When you sign a contract, is that binding for the life of the adoption process, or does it renew after a certain period of time

    That's all I can remember right now. GL!

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  • I don't have any advice, but I wanted to say welcome! :)
  • Lacyj67Lacyj67 member
    Hi and welcome to the board!!
    Me 34 and DH 39 married in aug. 2002
    Did 5 round of clomid 2010 =BFN
     High levels of NK CELLS DX sept.2012 DOR:# 0.02 
    IVF #1 May 2012  ER 4, EF 2, ET 2 =BFN
    MINI IVF Oct.2012  Cancelled 10-27-12
    Ivf #3 Antagonist Protocol April 2013
    Shared cycle..Donor cycled in July Got 12 eggs 9 fertilized and 8 frozen!!
    DE FET #1 Sept. 3rd 2013 FIRST BFP EVER 5dp5dt
    miscarried Sept 24th at 5 weeks 5 days
    Etopic  D&C and hysterscopy Nov 5 2013
    dx with pre genetic blood clotting dec 2013
    FET #2 Jan 31st  2014 
    Miscarried for a second time again at 5 weeks 5 days
    Currently fostering to adopt an amazing little 1 year old boy..P.J!
    FET#3  is Oct 29th 2014
    BFN on fet #3
    Last and FINAL FET coming JAN 28th 2015
    Everyone Welcome

  • Welcome!


  • Hello, and welcome!

    I usually recommend that you pick up one of the introductory books on adoption like Adoption for Dummies or The Complete Idiot's Guide to Adoption (which I used).  They should have a section all about what to look for in an agency and what questions to ask.  Using the book and adding in other things that I picked up along the way or I found were important to me, I put together a spreadsheet to interview agencies.  That way, I knew I covered all the bases with each, and I had everything collected in one place for easy comparison.

    Good luck!
  • JWinCTJWinCT member
    I don't have any advice, but want to wish you luck!
    Happily married Mom to 2 beautiful little girls, 2 dogs and 2 cats (all rescues), 2 fish and one 29 year-old firebelly newt.
    ~ Hoping to add to our family by adoption via Connecticut DCF. Application submitted on 2/4/14. First home visit on 6/23/14. Started class 11/17/14.~

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  • sumatisumati member
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    TTC since 2010 | 3 miscarriages | Diagnosed with stage IV endo | Adopted our little girl Aug 25, 2014

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