Confused and trying to stay sane while TTC

hockla01

After trolling message boards for a few months now and reading as much as I can about TTC, the only thing I know for sure is that there is no certain answer.  It seems like every question I have there are 10 women who got their BFP's and 10 women who didn't.  So, without hope of answers, I figured I'd tell my story in hopes that I will feel better and maybe some other women can relate and feel less alone.

I went off birth control about 5 months ago after being on it for over 10 years.  My cycle is still a mess.  At first I have having 35 day cycles and then I thought it was figured out after 2 24-25 day cycles.  This last month I have had slight bleeding - maybe spotting - for about 5 days every two weeks.    I cannot for the life of me figure out when I ovulate, although I haven't used OPK's for any extended time.     We are somewhere in between seriously trying and not preventing, but I am already starting to feel overwhelmed by trying to track my cycles, adding OPK's and temperature tracking makes me nervous.  I feel like I will become consumed my trying to have baby.

Anyone else have weird cycles or worried about becoming consumed by this process?

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jnnfrrose6

I agree with PP about temping. I never found it "taking over my life" and actually felt like I was taking control over knowing what was happening, especially with PP cycles. I chose to set my alarm for 5:15 and temp every morning at that time. The thermometer I had saved the last temp, so I'd just stick it in (I chose to do vag temping), wait for the beep, the put it back beside the bed. When I got up for the morning, I'd bring in it in to the bathroom with me to read the temp and clean it and I'd track it on FF shortly after. It's easy for me to fall back asleep, though, so that worked for me to get the consistent time. I never used OPKs, we just tried to HIO around when my cm looked good and the timing fit in with past cycles.

DenaMaree

Mine were similar to yours after being on the depo shot for five consecutive years. After dealing with it for seven months I saw my OB who put me on metforman and the next month I went to 31 days and was consistanlt at 31 days thereafter. I did learn even when I got my cycles regulated with metforman I still wasn't ovulating so another four months later I went on clomid and three months after that got my positive pregnancy. It was a process and was glad I didn't wait things out longer then I had.

CallMeShoes

My cycles, too, have always been extremely irregular.  I can go 4 or 5 months without a period, then bleed for 2 weeks straight, then get my period again in 3 weeks, then bleed for a month.  It's completely unpredictable.  I'd go to a reputable GYN and see if you don't have any underlying issues, like PCOS.

Good luck, and as PPs said, try not to let this take over your life.

iloveu4ever

Yeah my was like on time was late 3 days now 7 days late gonna test tomorrow hopefully.

maggie1am

My cycle are crazy too. sometimes it's 40days, sometimes 35days.. and it tends to b short, like 2-4 days. i am kind of worried if it's gonna affect my fertility. (I wasn't on any BCP or shots, just condoms.)