***June Bugs Check-In 5/23***

dreambig1021

Welcome to the June Bugs Check-in! Check-ins will be every Tuesday & Friday. Your check-in leaders are pblge (Tuesday) and dreambig1021 (Friday).

 This is a check-in for those who are doing IVF/IVM or FET with an ER/ET scheduled for June. If you are interested in joining, please fill us in on your cycle below (IVF/FET cycle #, where you are in the process, relevant dates, etc). Be sure to update us along the way!

 Here is a link to the June Bugs badge: https://i60.tinypic.com/2e2jwo9.jpg

I'm sending to you beautiful ladies LOADS of baby dust, may your June Cycle be your lucky cycle! 

QOTD: How much of your IVF process do you share with family? Friends? Co-Workers? 

BFPS:

BFNS:

 June Angels:

 FET:

Airidh80 - FET #1 from IVF #2

BeckyP005 - DE FET #1

clguerra88 - FET #1 from IVF #1

Dreambig1021 - FET #1

gnl42 - FET #1 (Welcome!!)

geordie314 - FET #4 from IVF #1

Hopefulsprout - FET #2

Ikrystal - FET #1

Shelbeans82 - FET #1 from IVF #2

Spring78 - FET #1 (Maybe moved back to May?)

In the 2WW:

Cancelled / Delayed:

Intheplanningstage - ((hugs))

O2girl - ((hugs))

 

Between ER / ET:

Stimming:

Runawaylaurel - IVF #1 

Sha259 - IVF #1

Ttc23 - IVF #4, Antagonist Protocol w/ NK cells

Prepping/BCP/Priming:

babycakestx - IVF #1

Carol77B - IVF #3, EP/Antagonist protocol w/ PICSI

ChristieH917 - IVF #1

ExoticAntibiotic - IVF #2 (freeze all)

gsancho - IVF #1 Take Two

HollowBerry - IVF #2

Hoping4LO - IVF #1

Justone14- IVF #3

Katib77 - IVF #2, Antagonist protocol w/ HGH and NK cell intralipids

Lillovebug79 - IVF # 1

MJ14323 - IVF #3

Pblge - IVF #2.1, Antagonist Protocol

Pjpahel - IVF #4, Microdose Lupron Protocol

PrivateOne - IVF #3 (retrieval only)

Scooteriste - IVF #3

Sweetpotato123 - IVF #1

dreambig1021

Happy Friday! I hope everyone was updated if not please let me know and I will make sure to get it taken care of. This is such a big group and I LOVE IT!! I'm so excited that we are starting to prep.

QOTD: I am actually very open with my family. My immediate family knows everything about the process and where we are at. I just didn't tell them when our transfer date is and as a matter of fact I'm going to lie again and say we were delayed because I really want to surprise my mom if this works. She is my best friend and I want to experience that moment with her.

Friends know the basics just that we are doing IVF, nothing more. 

Co-Workers really don't know much other than 1 that I am close to. Other than that I don't share too much but if people ask I actually don't mind telling them. IVF isn't covered in California and I would love to see that happen one day. I'm trying to figure out a way to get that movement going, since I have tons of friends in politics and family as well. We'll see where this path takes me. 

sweetpotato123

Ultrasound and b/w came back "perfect" so stims start tomorrow- wahoo! Super excited and nervous/anxious.

All our families know, most of our friends know, majority of Mr's coworkers know (we get together socially frequently), but none of my coworkers know. I think my coworkers assume it will happen someday, but they think I'm still young and very career driven, so no one is suspicious yet.

Thanks @dreambig1021‌ and @pblge‌ for running the check-ins!

ChristieH917

I am currently prepping for our IVF cycle.  I am on by BCP and looks like I should start my stims about June 15th.

QOTD: My husbands family and my brothers know that we are having issues, but only sister-in-law knows that we are starting IVF.  My parents are a different story.  I am not in communication with my mom and I lost my dad about 4 years ago. 

My close friends also know that I am seeing a RE, but don't know about the IVF.  I have only told my closest girlfriends. 

I have only told two co-workers because they will be the two most affected by the whole process.   

ikrystal

I finally got my timeline in.  I'm on the ganirelix protocol for the FET, which is kinda weird to me.  But my nurse says that there is not a difference in outcome in the ganirelix versus lupron protocol.  Baseline is June 2nd for me and transfer is June 18th. With the ganirelix protocol, this also means that I start meds on the same day as baseline rather than before it. In the meantime, I've book two consultations for July 2nd and 3rd at two other clinics. My clinic right now is just swamped and they don't have enough doctors and nurses to keep up, which means their patient care is drastically decreased. Still, I'm hoping for a great beta on June 29th so I dont have to go to these other two consults!

QOTD:  I don't tell anyone about what we're going through.  No one I know has issues with fertility, so they just wouldn't understand.  I don't want people looking at my babies any differently, either.  But I certainly understand other people telling their family and friends for support.  To me, I just don't think we would get it if we shared our story. 

pblge

Hi ladies! Nothing new for me as the fun won't start until next week. Exciting to see so many people in the stim phase! I wonder who will be PUPO first? ;-)

No one at work knows anything; they think I'm having "health problems," and god knows what sort of medical treatment they think I'm doing in NYC for two weeks. I have told a small number of friends, exclusively those who have had fertility issues themselves. My OH's parents know; mine don't. I've been really happy to keep things on the DL. I would consider "coming out," but it's really complicated with my work.

I'm going to have to explain it to the people I'm staying with in NYC, so we'll see how that goes.

airidh80

I'm on day 12 of lupron, and day 3 of Vivelle/baby aspirin/lovenox. My lupron dose went from 10 units to 5 units this past Wednesday, and not a moment too soon! I was starting to have serious anxiety problems, and lowering the dose seems to have reduced that a bit. 

QOTD: My sister knows. One of my female supervisors, who's a friend outside of work, knows. And my husband's parents know, because our last IVF 2WW was at their house, over Christmas. My RE had such strict rules during that time, there was no way we couldn't tell them what was going on. But they're very understanding, and they don't ask too many questions. 

I haven't told my parents. I love my mother, but she's a very stressful person. She would constantly be calling me, demanding updates, and I can't deal with that right now. 

scooteriste

Hi everyone! Just waiting on Day 1 here which I'm sure will necessitate me driving to the far-away location for monitoring over the weekend. Sigh. Come on, AF...

QOTD: For my first cycle I told a few people including my parents who were all very supportive and also very disappointed when it didn't work out. We've been tighter lipped since, only sharing anything if it's relevant to making plans or an event we may have to miss.

gsancho

Hello!  Not much new here.  Been taking Lupron, and I start Ganerilex Tuesday and Follistim Friday.  Going to enjoy this weekend before all the craziness begins!

I'm pretty open with my family, since I'm close with my mom.  She doesn't always get it, but she offers a lot of support.  Not as open with DHs parents, but they know we are trying IVF - they just don't know our schedule.  At work those who I work with closely know.  It's no biggie since my boss went through the same IF issues.  But yesterday I was in a more carefree mood, had my giant box of meds shipped here, several people asked me what it was, and I was open as could be.  This morning I was thinking I probably said too much...I even told this girl about the vag cam - hahahah!  Oh well.

dreambig1021

gsancho said:

 This morning I was thinking I probably said too much...I even told this girl about the vag cam - hahahah!  Oh well.

LMAO!!!!! That is hilarious!

gnl42

My only update is the final word on our embryos. We had 12 blastocysts frozen (8 grade A hatching, 1 grade A expanded, 1 grade AB expanded, 1 grade A early, and 1 grade AB early). We are very thankful for the good outcome... now one of these little guys just needs to stick!  

Still waiting for AF to come... probably one day next week. I might go crazy waiting to start. Also, I have had issues with thin lining, so I will be worrying about that non-stop. 

My sister and a couple very close friends know the details, but we have been pretty quiet about it. Most friends and family have known that we have been "trying" for a while, but it has sort of taken on a "don't ask, don't tell" nature - which is fine by me. It's nice to have a couple of people to share with, but I don't want to answer too many questions. 

hopefulsprout

@gsancho Ha! Vag cam, I love it!

Just got in with the infertility specialist acupuncturist today, and I'll see her one more time before transfer on 6/5. It is definitely relaxing, and she has had a long list of successes with IVF, so that's reassuring.

Not looking forward to starting the PIO shots in a few days, as last two times I used the crinone gel. Any tips on helping both me and DH get through the idea of him giving me butt shots are appreciated!

QOTD: I'm with many of you ladies on keeping things under wraps. Too many detailed questions and misunderstandings from family and friends with our first IVF cycle has kept us tight-lipped ever since. When we had our first FET fail, it was easier than the initial ET, since we at least didn't have to go around telling everyone it failed --- no one even knew it had happened. No one knows again this time, and we are hoping for an opportunity to surprise!

Justone13

Hey ladies!! I slapped on my first patch today and so it begins...starting ganirelix for the next 3 days then waiting on AF! Hoping for better results on ivf #3!!! QOTD: Everyone knows. My parents, his parents, coworkers, friend and even my DH's exwife and my bonus kids (they weren't supposed to know but someone got the mail and it was a letter from shady grove so there went that!) the exwife was very supportive and nice about it all even offered to give me my shots (she's a RN). I only tell people that I'm close with when we are doing a transfer...want to keep something a surprise. Lol. Only told a few when I had this past chemical because I really needed support then.

katib77

Hi Ladies, 

You may have seen my freak out over the HGH above.  I didn't want to check in here until I got my baseline stats from this morning.  Stims start tomorrow.

AFC:  20 (9 on left, 11 on right)

My e2: is 63 (good since they want it below 100)

FSH: 9 (Fair, but since I'm 36 I'll count it as good)

LH: 2 (More on this below but they want it under 7)

P4: 0.4 (want it below one)

My question for you ladies... everything I see on FSH to LH ratio says they want it about 1:1, and if you have a higher LH than FSH that it's signs of PCOS.  But I can't find anything anywhere on if your FSH is that much higher than your LH.  My first IVF in baseline in Sept was FSH 7 and LH of 5.6 so it was much closer to 1:1.  Now it's 4.5:1 .  WTH?  Nurse didn't say anything other than everything was under what it needs to be under.  And I didn't have notes to compare to last cycle and remember the FSH to LH ratio until I was comparing it to last cycle.  And insight?

QOTD:  Everyone knows almost everything in our IF & Loss journey.  I am very open and advocate for awareness so I'm an open book and possibly an over-sharer.  Work knows (Hell, I have to do three injects at work tomorrow and with my job managing cashiers at Tar.get I don't know what I'd do if I couldn't be like "hey, can you cover the lanes for 5 minutes while I go shoot up my drugs?")  

ttc23

Hi ladies. I'm in day 6 of stims. Started orgalutran yesterday. I feel quite robotic about this cycle even though it is our last try ever and I feel I should be more emotional. I think I'm just trying to protect myself really.. The shots and drugs are just part of my daily routine after 6 cycles in 13 months. We are going for quality over quality this final time so I'm just trying to stay relaxed, eat healthy and stay away from anything naughty. I know that in a few weeks our life will turn one way or another but I am just going through the motions and trying not to think about the enormity of the outcome.

QOTD: Most people around me know; family, friends, colleagues. We haven't necessarily told them all but people talk and we haven't lied or denied anything. Sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes it's not. At least we don't get asked in public anymore when we are having kids. My older sister and a few friends have been the best supports. My mother, father and younger sister don't talk to me about it- which is hurtful. Anyway, we've got each other

Mozzarella13

Hi ladies! I'd like to join! I've waited to join in since I've been delayed before, and didn't want to get my hopes up. We are on IVF#2, and I just started my Lupron prep yesterday. I will take my last bcp tomorrow and then wait for AF! I'm trying to have a more positive attitude this cycle but we will see.
qOTW: we are pretty private about our IF. Our closest friends and my parents know details, but I learned last cycle that it's painful to get a text saying, "so?! What's the verdict?" from a well meaning friend, so I'm keeping this cycle more private.

Carol77B

Hi ladies! No updates for me, waiting to start the estrogen patches on Monday. QOTD: Everyone on my side of the family knows about the details of our IVF treatments. My parents have offered to help pay for it, but so far we've used our savings and new house fund, but there might come a point where we accept money as a loan or gift. DH's side knows we are trying IVF, but nothing specific (after the first, failed). He's more private. My close friends know, too, but DH has only told one friend vague details. At my former workplace, I told everyone, but I'd been there for 7 years so most of my coworkers were like family. I moved to a new job right before IVF #2 and haven't mentioned it, but have felt weird about all the time off for the appointments (I've been using the vague non-serious medical w/anesthesia to clarify why I'm out all-day of ER, etc.) I may have to discuss it in more detail with my boss for #3, because my ER could fall on a big quarterly meeting I really should attend. But I'll worry about that more after I get AF.

BeckyP005

No updates here. It's strange that I don't have to do much for a FET

QOTW: My parents and MH's family know. Close friends and my boss know. They all know I'm using DE but not sure if that will come out to everyone if this works. Maybe pp will assume since I will be 46? I wish I could be more open about it. Idk....don't really think the average person will think I did? Lol

I do know that I'm not telling them when my FET is. Too many questions and wanting to know if I tested.

Hope you all are having a good start to the weekend!!

shelbeans82

Hi Ladies!  I am done with BCP, still on Lupron and start Estrace next weekend. 

QOTD:  Many people know.  DH's parents know and are generally supportive, my SIL is great and is probably been my best support through all this. My parents did know about IVF #1 and IVF # 2 but we will not be telling them about the FET as they (my mom in particular) was pretty horrible in April with what she said to me.  My closest girlfriends know as well and have been great.  One of my coworkers knows as well, we work very closely together and it just made sense.  I am pretty open about it, and if others asked I would probably tell them. 

pjpahel

Hello ladies,

Not much is new with me.  Tonight is my last OCP, thank goodness!  I will start Lupron in 2 days, and then stims 2 days later...

QOTD:  My first cycle I told very few people.  I just didn't want to answer question after question.  My most recent cycle I was more open with my immediate family, and always include my BFF.

Pj

anitaflora

Hi Junebugs! I hope it's okay if I join you all from the May Blossoms. I thought I was going to be retrieving in May but now it's tentatively scheduled for 6/2. I'm currently on day 6 of stimming with Gonal F & Menopur. Start Ganirelix & up my Menopur tomorrow.

This is my second IVF attempt and we are using ICSI again.

Thanks for the check in & good luck to all of you!

pblge

@Pjpahel - I think we're cycle buddies! Today is my last BCP, too.  

Welcome and good luck, @Mozarella13 and @anitaflora!

@Katib77b - I had my FSH and LH tested again this month, and my FSH was also higher--5.1 versus ~3.3. The nurse said they were both good numbers, and it didn't mean anything to have them vary a bit or for one to be a bit higher. I know those are different than your numbers, but a year ago they were both 6.3/6.4 (don't remember which was which), and the nurse said not to worry. My AFC was also ~20, which is lower than usual, perhaps because of the metformin. Did you get a chance to ask your doctor about your LH/FSH? If so, let me know what s/he says.

Hope everyone is enjoying their long weekend! Weather has been amazing here, so we've done so much good work in the garden. Tired, but happy! Now I'm about to make OH watch The Blair Witch Project with me, as he's never seen it and I think that's a piece of cultural education he can't miss.

Lillovebug79

I'm still waiting on AF after a natural cycle (so who knows) to start BCP. So it looks like my ER and ET will actually be in the beginning of July. Ugh, hurry up AF, I'm ready to get started!!!