can we all just bitch for a minute?

MinnesotaMomma91

So. Almost none of my cute old.clothes fit. And i cant afford to buy new clothes. Ive been hitting up second hand stores but that is hit and miss. I hate my body, and that is just magnified by my distorted body image and i hate how it looks in clothes.

And bentley needs a hair cut. Im not ready for this guys! My little boy will be a man. Im going to try to get him in to kids cuts next thursday after school.

On an unrelated note.

I made master designer at school! I am so proud of myself. I sold 27% retail product, i got 1500+ service product and because i did this i dont have to wear an apron, i get to wear color, i get four hours of free beauty services done. Im so proud of mgself you guys :-)

MinnesotaMomma91

Way to go m!

@Lurchbaby bf has a similar issue with shoes. I dont know what it is, but he walks a certain way so his toe big toe nail rub sup against shoe and wears a.hole in it. So he winds up buying shoes once every other month.

MinnesotaMomma91

Im so scared to get his hair cut. Hs got this awesome baby downy hair and in scared once that goes itll be his dads course hair and if it is ill be sad.

This was me when i saw my stats the other day

My stats are high enough ill get any job i want. My campus manager wants me to apply for a european apprebticeship or the wella institute in new york. But, thats not in the child care cards. So thats a big nope. But still im awesome.

I dont hate getting dressed now like i did when i was pregnant. It wad lije there was two options. 16 & pregnant or 19 kids and counting.

Oh and i get to see bf tomorrow night after school and we are making tacos as a family

MinnesotaMomma91

Excited30 said:

My complaint is that I had to call my husband to discuss new boundaries (due to him scaring me the other visit) and it ended up being a horrible phone dump.  And I mean horrible.  I was in tears badly afterward and spent 2+ hrs on the phone with my counsellor afterwards.  It wasn't pretty... the emotions wiped me out for the rest of the day.  This was a couple days ago.. 

Im so sorry! I wish i could give you a real life hug. I know it was hard, and it was horrible. But im so proud of you for settung up your new boundries

MinnesotaMomma91

Excited30 said:

MinnesotaMomma91 said:

Excited30 said:

My complaint is that I had to call my husband to discuss new boundaries (due to him scaring me the other visit) and it ended up being a horrible phone dump.  And I mean horrible.  I was in tears badly afterward and spent 2+ hrs on the phone with my counsellor afterwards.  It wasn't pretty... the emotions wiped me out for the rest of the day.  This was a couple days ago.. 

Im so sorry! I wish i could give you a real life hug. I know it was hard, and it was horrible. But im so proud of you for settung up your new boundries

Thanks very much.  It's going to be a hard season with him, I'm afraid.. He's in a very angry stage against me right now.  

Im sorry to hear that. Remember ita absolutley NOT your fault hes angry. Also, im always a pm away if you need me

MinnesotaMomma91

@Beccaga16 yes! Yes to the fitness check in. And after my sadness i realized how silly it is to hold onto his by hair.

Also, thanks gas station lady for the compliment on ds this morning. She told me "she looks like a disney princess." With out missing a beati said "thanks but hes a disney prince."

20thirteen

@excited30 - Let him be angry.  Deep breaths!!

I don't have anything really to bitch about though.  But I agree, we should have a fitness check in! I started a diet and immediately dropped 10lbs but I've been hovering at the same weight ever since.  I did get complimented today on looking thinner. Which I thought was awesome because, especially this past month, I've eaten all the wrong foods and haven't worked out in 2 weeks!

@minnesotamomma91 - people confuse Harley for a little boy. I understand on days that she doesn't wear frilly girly outfits, but some days I just look at people like

tig594

Yay!  Bitch session!

My boss is a douche.  He's a 25 year old spoiled rich boy who's daddy got him the job and he makes over 80k a year.  He has more in his 401k that I get paid in 2 years.  And now he's sneaking around me and the other girl in my dept. getting ready to hire a customer relations manager who will essentially be our new boss.  My co-worker is pissed that he hasn't told us and that he was careless enough to leave the job description on our shared fax/printer.  I am pissed because he's never taken the initiative to groom either one of us for the job (I have way more experience than he does) and has never once given us our yearly review after he made us fill out our part of it.  He sucks at communicating with us about everything.  People get fired and he doesn't tell us so I can't process their terms in any of our systems.  People win job bids and he doesn't tell us so they don't get their pay increases until they come in bitching they were under paid.  We had an employee appreciation cook out yesterday that I busted my ass preparing for (again for like the 4th time).  It is time consuming and exhausting by the time we get done feeding/serving 300 people over 3 shifts.  But we don't get appreciated for it at all.  We don't even get to leave early the next day after being here in the middle of the night feeding 3rd shift.  Needless to say, I'm over it and have started job shopping.

On the flip side, I hope everyone here has a fabulous holiday weekend. 

jellybean529

beccaga16 said:

LOL - at one hair cut making you LO a man You all are silly! (in the best way) He is still a little nugget!

I want a maid. I want to lose 20 lbs like now! BECAUSE I want to try on wedding dresses and not get fucking depressed when I look in the mirror Maybe we need a workout post everyday so we can check in on fitness?

I'm allllllll for a fitness check in. I need to lose 150. (I wish I was kidding.) 

Congrats to everyone on their school accomplishments!! WOOT WOOT single mamas moving on up!

jellybean529

Excited30 said:

MinnesotaMomma91 said:

My complaint is that I had to call my husband to discuss new boundaries (due to him scaring me the other visit) and it ended up being a horrible phone dump.  And I mean horrible.  I was in tears badly afterward and spent 2+ hrs on the phone with my counsellor afterwards.  It wasn't pretty... the emotions wiped me out for the rest of the day.  This was a couple days ago.. 

Im so sorry! I wish i could give you a real life hug. I know it was hard, and it was horrible. But im so proud of you for settung up your new boundries

Thanks very much.  It's going to be a hard season with him, I'm afraid.. He's in a very angry stage against me right now.  

I'm so sorry At least this time it was over the phone and not in front of your LO. Still...those interactions are so exhausting. XOXO

jellybean529

I've been waiting for an opportunity to have a bitch session to open up so this is gonna be long as hell.

I'm so tired with getting almost NO help cleaning the house.

I'm tired of XH getting all....mopey? IDK how to describe it. Anyway...I'm tired of him getting mopey when DD won't Skype with him.

I like dogs. In fact, I love dogs. But...I CAN'T STAND my sister's dog. She's had no obedience training, drags food and trash and dishes out of the sink and all over the house, steals food right from in front of you at the dining table, and if she's put outside or in her cage or in a room down the hall while we eat, barks, whines, and claws/bangs/makes as much noise as caninely possible. And she pissed and shat on the floor FOUR TIMES this week. Yes, she's sweet, and loving, and great with the kids but goddamnit the dog needs some training!

The stray kitten my sister brought home is now also pissing and shitting on the floor. Somehow, though, she's been designated "my cat". 

Also, yesterday, the dog was making noise and DD said "OMG. SO ANNOYING." My sister replied (to DD)  "Yes, you are!" XH called to Skype right after, otherwise I would have lost my damn mind. 

I had a conversation with my most long-time friend the other day that pissed me off. She kept urging me to go to the gym more (and trust me I'd love to) and then wrapped it up by saying that she has another friend who does ironmans and triathlons and works full time and goes to college and has three kids and is a single mom. Well big whoop-de-do, because that doesn't make me feel TOTALLY inadequate. I'm sure she has also has a fuck ton more support than I do.

Finally, related to the above, DD puked at school on Wednesday morning. I was in a conference with her teacher at the time it happened so I hadn't even made it to work. I just left the conference and brought her back home. I don't get sick/vacation time until July so I have to make up the time I lost or I lose pay. Which gave me two days to make up 8 hours. I made up some of it yesterday, but l have to work over 11 hours today, which necessitates staying until 8pm. Daycare closes at 6:30. And because people suck, I have nobody to watch her, so I have to drag her back to the office with me to sit here for three extra hours tonight.

I thought I was moving back to Florida to have support but I'm not getting a whole lot of it and that just makes me sad.

ETA: It also pisses me off when XH takes pictures of DD that I share on FB and posts them on his wall and all his little friends are all oohing and awwing over her. It makes me want to nutpunch him. It's not like these are moments that he was here for that he's sharing.

AllieAlba

My bitch is that the women on my month board and really bitchy and whiny about their husbands/partners/whatever getting them the wrong food from the shop or whatever and then going mental when I tell them to do it themselves. I mean god, you are 4-7 weeks pregnant not fucking paralysed.

And when does this vomitting end? I want to die.

Also: @MinnesotaMomma91 Congrats on getting Master Designer! You are amazing!

jellybean529

@alliealba I'm so sorry you're so sick!! It usually starts to get better around 10 weeks

MinnesotaMomma91

Thanks @alliealba im so happy i got a swag bag for it. Im really proud of myself. And yeah, its hard listening to that stuff on your birth month board, and i promise the nausea and vommiting usually gets better. Try pepermint. That did wonders for me

@Jellybean529 im sorry your not getting any help and your having a rough week.

@Tig594 im sorry your boss is such aneic douche canoe. Ill punch hin un the balla for you.

Another bitch. I was supposed to see bf and get sexy time tonight and we havent seen each other in a long time. So i was really looking forward to it. But i forgot i told my dad id cut his hair tomorrow so he got pissed and was being a dick. When i told bf he told me wed just make it another weekend. But this sucks. I reallt wanted to see bf i miss him. And my dad was trying to be nice and was like well why doesnt he come over sunday. Cause he has to go get his kid. Fuck im sad

jellybean529

Awww @minnesotamomma91 cockblocked by your dad. That sucks

20thirteen

Oh man @AllieAlba‌ those birth month boards are brutal sometimes. I just stopped participating in mine because it got way too dramatic. All these bitches complaining that her husbands weren't doing the right things or doing something for them and not doing it the right way...

@jellybean529‌ what a horrible week! I hope things look up during the weekend! Maybe start blocking your XH from seeing some of those pics...?

@MinnesotaMomma91‌ can't you cut his hair today and still go to your BF's? Or would you be cutting his hair in the salon or whatever?

MinnesotaMomma91

@roxot my parents live two and a half hours from bf so driving back and forthis just to hard on bentley. And even worse bf starts over time next week so i probably wont see him till jabuary

jellybean529

Roxalot said:

Oh man @AllieAlba‌ those birth month boards are brutal sometimes. I just stopped participating in mine because it got way too dramatic. All these bitches complaining that her husbands weren't doing the right things or doing something for them and not doing it the right way... @jellybean529‌ what a horrible week! I hope things look up during the weekend! Maybe start blocking your XH from seeing some of those pics...? @MinnesotaMomma91‌ can't you cut his hair today and still go to your BF's? Or would you be cutting his hair in the salon or whatever?

I've been blocking a lot of stuff from him lately for other reasons (PM me here or on FB if you're really curious) but yeah....I was thinking I may need to just block him all together.

starrdiva211

The Lil Emperor's dad sent a text to tell me he likes the song "Happy"... I wanted to text him back and say you are about 5 months late on this!!!!

I do not know what is up with him not being able to keep him overnights... He gave me the excuse of he doesnt have anywhere to sleep when he over here. I went to a local second hand baby shop and sent him a picture of a pack n play and told him to make it happen!!!! And I dont know why he was so offended when I asked him did he have plans or something cause he wanted to drop him off early... But I rushed my pedicure any damn way...

MinnesotaMomma91

starrdiva211 said:

The Lil Emperor's dad sent a text to tell me he likes the song "Happy"... I wanted to text him back and say you are about 5 months late on this!!!!

I do not know what is up with him not being able to keep him overnights... He gave me the excuse of he doesnt have anywhere to sleep when he over here. I went to a local second hand baby shop and sent him a picture of a pack n play and told him to make it happen!!!! And I dont know why he was so offended when I asked him did he have plans or something cause he wanted to drop him off early... But I rushed my pedicure any damn way...

This is hard. My bf goes throigh this with his ex. He tells her "our custody order states we do the pickup/drop off at 'x' time. Unless you give me an honest amd valid reason well meet at 'x' time.

Not sure what to tell you about over nights. Do you habe a co? Remind him.cos need to be followed

freeatlast2014

starrdiva211 said:

The Lil Emperor's dad sent a text to tell me he likes the song "Happy"... I wanted to text him back and say you are about 5 months late on this!!!!

I do not know what is up with him not being able to keep him overnights... He gave me the excuse of he doesnt have anywhere to sleep when he over here. I went to a local second hand baby shop and sent him a picture of a pack n play and told him to make it happen!!!! And I dont know why he was so offended when I asked him did he have plans or something cause he wanted to drop him off early... But I rushed my pedicure any damn way...

If he doesn't want him for overnights I wouldn't push it. I would not want my kids to be where they are not wanted for fear that the "dad" would take it out on them.

starrdiva211

MinnesotaMomma91 said:

The Lil Emperor's dad sent a text to tell me he likes the song "Happy"... I wanted to text him back and say you are about 5 months late on this!!!!

I do not know what is up with him not being able to keep him overnights... He gave me the excuse of he doesnt have anywhere to sleep when he over here. I went to a local second hand baby shop and sent him a picture of a pack n play and told him to make it happen!!!! And I dont know why he was so offended when I asked him did he have plans or something cause he wanted to drop him off early... But I rushed my pedicure any damn way...

This is hard. My bf goes throigh this with his ex. He tells her "our custody order states we do the pickup/drop off at 'x' time. Unless you give me an honest amd valid reason well meet at 'x' time. Not sure what to tell you about over nights. Do you habe a co? Remind him.cos need to be followed

We do not have a court order. He has only been out of the house for only two months and I am still navigating everything and trying to be as civil and as adult as possible without becoming a crazy baby mama (that is probably an entire different post in regards to my feelings on that).

MinnesotaMomma91

starrdiva211 said:

MinnesotaMomma91 said:

starrdiva211 said:

The Lil Emperor's dad sent a text to tell me he likes the song "Happy"... I wanted to text him back and say you are about 5 months late on this!!!!

I do not know what is up with him not being able to keep him overnights... He gave me the excuse of he doesnt have anywhere to sleep when he over here. I went to a local second hand baby shop and sent him a picture of a pack n play and told him to make it happen!!!! And I dont know why he was so offended when I asked him did he have plans or something cause he wanted to drop him off early... But I rushed my pedicure any damn way...

This is hard. My bf goes throigh this with his ex. He tells her "our custody order states we do the pickup/drop off at 'x' time. Unless you give me an honest amd valid reason well meet at 'x' time.

Not sure what to tell you about over nights. Do you habe a co? Remind him.cos need to be followed

We do not have a court order. He has only been out of the house for only two months and I am still navigating everything and trying to be as civil and as adult as possible without becoming a crazy baby mama (that is probably an entire different post in regards to my feelings on that).




Honestly. I think crazy baby mama is pretty elusive... there are a few out there that have given us all a bad name. But really most of us are just trying to do the best we can for our children even if that means not always getting along woth bd.

Btw GET A CUSTODY ORDER it protects you and your rights.

freeatlast2014

There are parenting coaches (they would help you and BD work out parenting time) and court advocates. I had no idea (still don't really) what kind of visitation would work best and then the court decided on a temp one that was much better than the one we came up with. I should add, we do not coparent or agree on anything which makes it much much harder too. But talk to someone if you can to help you navigate this. There is a lot of free support too I found out $7k later!