Keeping the name secret?

anotherjenj

Is anyone else getting pushback about keeping your baby's potential name secret? My mom just got really miffed that we aren't telling. ( which is extra hilarious because we haven't decided on any yet anyway)

missnacholover

We're keeping the name AND the sex a secret.  we're evil.

Kristy774

I've told family and close friends the name and sex but I'm not putting the name on FB or any social media.

lizzielu82

I'm definitely keeping the name a secret. Too many people with too many mean opinions out there!

Kristy774

lizzielu82 said:

I'm definitely keeping the name a secret. Too many people with too many mean opinions out there!

Speaking of this, the name we picked out starts with a B and so does our last name, my mom said the other day, ummm did you guys think that through?

Of course we did, it's our LAST name who doesn't think about their last name when they are naming their kid? And it sounds fine! It sounds great! Ugh. I don't care who likes it or doesn't like it, we like it!

CarrieAnne09

We're keeping ours secret and no one understands why. Lol

Celticlass6

I want to keep the name a secret since we'll be finding out the sex. Still need to break this to the husband though. My cousin is doing the same (she's due next month), and my Aunt is freaking out that she won't tell the name. It's sort of hilarious how she tries to trick her to say it somehow in conversation. 

JustJainey

I feel a bit protective of our names and don't want to give them out to people. I think I mostly just don't care to hear unsolicited opinions from friends and family. When the baby is named they can all just smile and say, "oh, how nice!"

aa98

NinerGirl52 said:

If we ever come up with a name we will likely keep it a secret or at least not commit entirely to it. I hear too many stories of friends who ended up changing the name hours after the baby was born because he/she just didn't look like the name they picked out.

I think we will be the same way.  I am thinking we will decide on a name with a backup or two and then see what fits when the baby arrives... all theoretical of course as we don't know the sex yet so we don't even have a short list yet

lizzielu82

Kristy774 said:

I'm definitely keeping the name a secret. Too many people with too many mean opinions out there!

Speaking of this, the name we picked out starts with a B and so does our last name, my mom said the other day, ummm did you guys think that through? Of course we did, it's our LAST name who doesn't think about their last name when they are naming their kid? And it sounds fine! It sounds great! Ugh. I don't care who likes it or doesn't like it, we like it!

I love it, too! We also have a "B" last name and if it's a boy, my favorite current name also starts with a "B". I think it's a wonderful idea  =D>

krgriffin26

We have already picked and told our names and I picked a day for our reveal party. I'm weak lol but...

Your baby, your decision. I have known many people that keep the sex and/or name a secret until the birth. A friend of ours had a little girl last year ad they actually didn't name her until the second day. Another friend kept the name a secret but announced right when her daughter was born. My mom was team green for all four of us kids. Do what you want girl and stick to your guns

mander82

I plan on sharing thoughts and ideas once we have them....but probably won't say which one once we decide for sure. I want to throw my possible names around so that if someone ends up getting a puppy or something they don't steal my name a week before my baby is born. I kinda want to put the names out there so people DONT steal them. Haha....so I guess that's the opposite of what you are doing.

absolutelymaybe

mander82 said:

I plan on sharing thoughts and ideas once we have them....but probably won't say which one once we decide for sure. I want to throw my possible names around so that if someone ends up getting a puppy or something they don't steal my name a week before my baby is born. I kinda want to put the names out there so people DONT steal them. Haha....so I guess that's the opposite of what you are doing.

Ha! It's funny you mentioned the puppy thing. My little sis in law (she's 14) just got a new puppy named "Willy." We like the name Willa for a girl, so I'm like "Are people going to think we're naming our baby after her dog?" We decided we don't care, though, and will use it anyway. 

Jatpa003

We are keeping the names a secret- we don't know sex yet. My parents are being pissy about so instead they have decide to call OUR child jasper like the ghost...Wtf ugly name is that? (Sorry not meaning to offend anyone) but really because we won't tell them they have the right to name it now? We already have a cute nickname too!

pennyandandy

We kept ours a secret with DS, but we were/are team green, so it's a little easier. We just said we had a few names of each and wouldn't decide on anything until the baby was born.

runningmama14

We don't plan on telling anyone our name choices (team green), but we also don't plan on saying "yes we have names picked, but we're not telling."  So far, we've just pretended that we haven't thought about it.  Later, we'll just say we haven't decided anything for sure and won't until we met him or her.  I think specifically saying that it's a secret makes people more likely to be pissy about it.

KMW08

I'm not against sharing my names, but it's NOT going to happen until I know the gender. The main reason why I'm not letting our names be known is because of my BIL and his bitch ass ho. She & I have a mutual hate relationship and I honestly don't think it will get much better in time. I'm afraid that if I let my names leak, she'll use them. She's currently ku with a girl. So far the names they have on mind are NMS and haven't even crossed my mind *whew*

morrkim

We did last time and it drove everyone crazy. After dd was born we told the our name if she had been a boy since we were team green. This time they know what we are thinking.

10xEmpire

We are team green and we're not telling anyone the names we like or ultimately decide on. I'm the type of person that takes everyone's feedback into account when making a decision. That's just not happening with our babies name. Once the baby is introduced with a name everyone will be so overwhelmed with the baby they'll forget to scrutinize the name!

silverwings72

I think we will keep ours secret too. Everyone has an opinion and I just don't want to hear it, ya know??

Maelara

We will be TRYING to keep it a secret, lol! Especially from DHs family. His parents are super judgemental and hate almost all their grandchildren and great niece/nephews names. They loved Ns name but it's super classic and pretty. They won't like our names this time.

PandaCon

We "kept it a secret" with DS.  Although we didn't decide on the name until he was born.  We had two or three names that we loved and I actually would tell my mom different ones. 

My mom is awesome and i love her but everyday was more questions about names and what not that I got annoyed.  

I plan on keeping it a secret completely this time if anyone asks. I told my mom she is allowed to suggest but we are most likely not telling/deciding until theis LO is born. 

runningmama14

One of my coworker's daughter's just announced her pregnancy on facebook, complete with name.  Aleriia.  My coworker, her mom, posted on the album "why are you spelling it that way?  Two 'i's makes no sense.  Just why???"  Totally made me LOL

lizzielu82

ClrkKntismyAE said:

lizzielu82 said:

I'm definitely keeping the name a secret. Too many people with too many mean opinions out there!

I have had almost everybody tell me that they hope we have a boy because if its another DD she will hate her name.

That's so mean! I'm shaking my fist at all those people on your behalf. I'm sure whatever name you choose will be just perfect for your LO 

jlove253

We will definitely keep it a secret if it's a girl but if it's a boy he will be named after DH. He'll be "the fifth" actually, so no guessing there. I just don't want to hear anyone say they hate the name, or react negatively at all. DD's name starts with an R and when we went to the hospital to deliver we told all the family that was their hint and if they guessed right we'd tell them so. My dad kept texting guesses that were wrong, so his last guess was an exasperated "Rumplestilskin" (or however that's spelled)! Hahaha!

kaimee27

lizzielu82 said:

ClrkKntismyAE said:

lizzielu82 said:

I'm definitely keeping the name a secret. Too many people with too many mean opinions out there!

I have had almost everybody tell me that they hope we have a boy because if its another DD she will hate her name.

That's so mean! I'm shaking my fist at all those people on your behalf. I'm sure whatever name you choose will be just perfect for your LO 

This totally!  It's not their baby, not their decision, and they should just close their mouths (I second the fist shake!)  We'll probably tell our final decision once we make it, and we've discussed our "front-runners" with parents, but we've also made it clear that we're not looking for opinions...which they keep trying to give in the form of name ideas.  I think that once we decide for sure on a name (once we know if we're team pink or blue), it will put a stop to all of the suggestions, which will be nice.

PennyLane26

We didn't keep it a secret with our first, most people were nice but my in laws ripped all of our options apart. Plus they are french so they wanted all of our very american names to be francified - Jack was top for a boy, so naturally they wee pushing for Jacques. bleh.

This time we aren't sharing. We aren't saying we are keeping it a secret, just being vague and saying we are open to suggestions, but we soooo aren't. Muahhhaha.

missnacholover

I think it's a good point about not telling people you have picked a name or know the sex.  Maybe I'll talk to DH and we can fib and tell folks that we decided to be team green after all. 

emoxymoose

People on DH's side of the family almost always do this because everyone is sooo opinionated, we always share our names anyways though because I'm not sensitive. DH's mom already told us she doesn't like any of the names I like, I just told her she already got to name her babies.

missnacholover

WildFlower810 said:

Planning on making the sex public... but keeping the names under wraps until the birth certificate is signed, sealed, and delivered. It'll be hard for me, but not any harder than putting up with comments and criticism! I'm hoping to name Munchkin after someone just because I think that would be sweet (probably the middle name, not the first) BUT, how hard is it going to be to explain to Grandma A that no, we named Munchkin after Grandma B? With my relationship with my family neither of my parent's names is going to be used for any of my kids. 

I have a girl's name all picked out and it's so pretty, classic yet not anything that is already in either family, popular enough to spell easily yet rare enough that Munchkin won't have 5 friends with her name. I'm also 100% CONVINCED that Munchkin is a boy and I'm clueless on boy's names. LOL.

I am stressing about this too.  We have our girl's name picked out (not after any family members) and are toying with our boy name being after DH's grandfather who passed away last year.  The middle name would be after my nephew who passed away last year as well.  HOWEVER, I don't want anyone on my side to be butthurt that we used DH's Gpa's name as the first name rather than my nephew's.  I think that because my nephew was a baby when he passed (SIDS) that it just would be odd to use his name as a first.  And, furthermore, I don't want DH's family to get all high and mighty that we named him after someone on their side.  We like the name and think it would be a nice gesture.

runningmama14

I keep teasing DH that I want to name a boy after his grandpa.  His name was Kermit

mussalynn

missnacholover said:

I think it's a good point about not telling people you have picked a name or know the sex.  Maybe I'll talk to DH and we can fib and tell folks that we decided to be team green after all. 

We did this with the sex with DS.  We found out but told people we didn't know, and they didn't bug us.  Friends of ours who were pregnant at the same time also found out the sex and told everyone they knew but were keeping it a secret - they got harassed big time and finally ended up telling.  When you tell people that you're blatantly keeping something a secret from them, they won't stop badgering until you give in.

Just for fun, this time we are finding out and then telling everybody something different, like DH is going to tell everyone it's a boy and I'm going to tell everyone it's a girl.  We want it to be a surprise for everyone!

DoubleUp8

We are getting some push back from people about planning to keep the name a secret. We are going to tell them the sex of the baby, but we wanted to keep the names as something special between the two of us. I tell people "we have to keep something a surprise!"

Also, we are planning to potentially use a middle name that honors family members, and we don't want to listen to people complain that is honors one family and not the other.

If people really pester me I'll tell them we plan to name the baby Zebulon or Zebula after DH's great-great-uncle.
:P

jf198400

Yea we always keep names secret, people have too many opinions. I am thinking about telling my Grandma though. (We're very close).

Jatpa003

DoubleUp8 said:

We are getting some push back from people about planning to keep the name a secret. We are going to tell them the sex of the baby, but we wanted to keep the names as something special between the two of us. I tell people "we have to keep something a surprise!"

Also, we are planning to potentially use a middle name that honors family members, and we don't want to listen to people complain that is honors one family and not the other.

This we are also considering honouring a family member from my side and don't want people to complain about it for the next few months, once it is done people complain less(I hope)

highbornhunter

This whole thread reminds me of the show Chuck where Ellie and Captain Awesome couldn't decide on a name and Ellie told him it was going to be Grunka (sp?) because he shot down all her name suggestions.  

Awesome, Ellie and not Grunka.  

We are planning on keeping the name a secret because my family failed at keeping my pregnancy a secret when I was only at 7-8 weeks.  I was fine with it, but it really pushed DH's buttons so I'm trying to let this one be up to him.  I hate keeping secrets though!  Problem though - several of my friends already know our #1 choice for a boy's name, because that was decided long before we even started TTC.  It's my DH's middle name, which is also his favorite uncle's name, for the first name, and the name of DH's great-great-great grandfather who fought in the Civil War for the middle name.  But as long as I don't tell my family, I think it will be okay.  He'll never know!  I was just excited about started a family for so long, the topic came up and so I shared.  

absolutelymaybe

ClrkKntismyAE said:

Thank you, lol. The name is Imogen Lark. I just laugh the negative opinions off. FI and I love the names we have picked. Besides, if she doesn't like her name it has a few "normal" nick names she can use instead.

FYI I'm fairly judgy about names and I think Imogen is an adorable name.  :-) 

Kristy774

missnacholover said:

WildFlower810 said:

Planning on making the sex public... but keeping the names under wraps until the birth certificate is signed, sealed, and delivered. It'll be hard for me, but not any harder than putting up with comments and criticism! I'm hoping to name Munchkin after someone just because I think that would be sweet (probably the middle name, not the first) BUT, how hard is it going to be to explain to Grandma A that no, we named Munchkin after Grandma B? With my relationship with my family neither of my parent's names is going to be used for any of my kids. 

I have a girl's name all picked out and it's so pretty, classic yet not anything that is already in either family, popular enough to spell easily yet rare enough that Munchkin won't have 5 friends with her name. I'm also 100% CONVINCED that Munchkin is a boy and I'm clueless on boy's names. LOL.

I am stressing about this too.  We have our girl's name picked out (not after any family members) and are toying with our boy name being after DH's grandfather who passed away last year.  The middle name would be after my nephew who passed away last year as well.  HOWEVER, I don't want anyone on my side to be butthurt that we used DH's Gpa's name as the first name rather than my nephew's.  I think that because my nephew was a baby when he passed (SIDS) that it just would be odd to use his name as a first.  And, furthermore, I don't want DH's family to get all high and mighty that we named him after someone on their side.  We like the name and think it would be a nice gesture.




We just went through this ourselves. DH's dad passed away from ALS a year before I met him. We named our DS's middle name after him. *cue in my parents* they've been making comments about this since it happened. Fortunately, we are having another boy and his middle name will be after my dad. So it worked out, however, if was a girl it the middle name was going to be after my mom so it would have worked out. This is and can be difficult though.

missnacholover

Kristy774 said:

WildFlower810 said:

Planning on making the sex public... but keeping the names under wraps until the birth certificate is signed, sealed, and delivered. It'll be hard for me, but not any harder than putting up with comments and criticism! I'm hoping to name Munchkin after someone just because I think that would be sweet (probably the middle name, not the first) BUT, how hard is it going to be to explain to Grandma A that no, we named Munchkin after Grandma B? With my relationship with my family neither of my parent's names is going to be used for any of my kids. 

I have a girl's name all picked out and it's so pretty, classic yet not anything that is already in either family, popular enough to spell easily yet rare enough that Munchkin won't have 5 friends with her name. I'm also 100% CONVINCED that Munchkin is a boy and I'm clueless on boy's names. LOL.

I am stressing about this too.  We have our girl's name picked out (not after any family members) and are toying with our boy name being after DH's grandfather who passed away last year.  The middle name would be after my nephew who passed away last year as well.  HOWEVER, I don't want anyone on my side to be butthurt that we used DH's Gpa's name as the first name rather than my nephew's.  I think that because my nephew was a baby when he passed (SIDS) that it just would be odd to use his name as a first.  And, furthermore, I don't want DH's family to get all high and mighty that we named him after someone on their side.  We like the name and think it would be a nice gesture.

We just went through this ourselves. DH's dad passed away from ALS a year before I met him. We named our DS's middle name after him. *cue in my parents* they've been making comments about this since it happened. Fortunately, we are having another boy and his middle name will be after my dad. So it worked out, however, if was a girl it the middle name was going to be after my mom so it would have worked out. This is and can be difficult though.

At one point we were considering DH's Gma's maiden name as a middle.  I told my mom this and she said, "What about OUR side?"  Grrrr.

NLJ82

I've not straight up said "I'm not telling you"...I just keep saying "We still haven't decided". That way I don't have to deal with the people that 'scold' me for keeping it a secret NOR do I have to listen to the unwanted opinions of those who don't like the name we've chose. WIN-WIN!

TXPyroMom

DH wants to keep it a secret, but I want to tell close friends and family.  

We are from the south and my Mom, Nana and Aunts want to be able to monogram everything, LOL.

DH and I will probably fight more over keeping vs not keeping the name a secret than we will deciding on a name.  It's so frustrating, he knows that we both suck at keeping secrets, so we might as well tell people that we talk to every single day.