DREADING telling my MIL...

FLRainbowGirl

We'll have to tell my MIL about the pregnancy after tomorrow's u/s, because we want to tell our kids & they can't keep a secret... LOL

NOT looking forward to that... She's been VERY outspoken about my NOT getting pregnant again throughout the past 5 years after DS!
Decided to send DH by himself to tell them & explain that this was unplanned & I don't need the negativity or scrutiny...

QOTR

I'm sorry that's something you're worried about.  Hopefully, they'll be supportive or keep quiet.

danieleandwayne

Why are you telling them it was unplanned? It's not any of their business-- you two are adults and can have 30 children if you want. None of your MIL's freaking business. She should just love her grandkids because they're her freaking offspring's offspring. 

But that's just my 2 cents. From someone who has annoying ILs too. 

Congratulations on being pregnant, in case I didn't say it somewhere else. :-)

moroccojade

What is her problem? 

I am glad your husband is dealing with her.  You shouldn't have to!

FLRainbowGirl

danieleandwayne said:

Why are you telling them it was unplanned? It's not of their business-- you two are adults and can have 30 children if you want. None of your MIL's freaking business. She should just love her grandkids because they're her freaking offspring's offspring. 

But that's just my 2 cents. From someone who has annoying ILs too. 

Congratulations on being pregnant, in case I didn't say it somewhere else. :-)

Lol. Thank you! That makes me feel much better!

FLRainbowGirl

Thanks, ladies! I feel a whole lot better.

2ndGeneration

 I feel like part of the awesomeness of being an older mom-to-be, is that it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks anymore   you've done it all and dont need anyone's approval! At least that is how I feel.

 My mil is a bit odd also, and we just told her very matter of factly. Like, we expected her to react politely, and she did. To my face at least!

FmrAFBrat

I'm in the same boat. Plus she makes comments about women over 35 "rolling the dice" with getting pregnant....so her reaction will be fun.

I really don't think your and your DHs choices should be her concern, but that's how a lot of MILs are.

danieleandwayne

Incidentally, my MIL was a total flake to me-- like, she'd send MH two Christmas cards but not one of them was also to me, they were both to him specifically. Then I got pregnant and I started getting all sorts of attention and "luv u" at the end of her texts to me. She asked me once, "you're going to let me see the kid, right?" WTF?!? I'm the one who reminds your son to call you and plans to go up to see you because it's been a while and you ignore the shit out of your son until you need something from him. Why would I not let our baby see you?!? 

So now that I'm pregnant with #2, I am thinking we'll get double the love? LOL 

FLRainbowGirl

danieleandwayne said:

Incidentally, my MIL was a total flake to me-- like, she'd send MH two Christmas cards but not one of them was also to me, they were both to him specifically. Then I got pregnant and I started getting all sorts of attention and "luv u" at the end of her texts to me. She asked me once, "you're going to let me see the kid, right?" WTF?!? I'm the one who reminds your son to call you and plans to go up to see you because it's been a while and you ignore the shit out of your son until you need something from him. Why would I not let our baby see you?!? 

So now that I'm pregnant with #2, I am thinking we'll get double the love? LOL 

Man! MILs can just be a disaster! Good luck with that one.
They don't realize that they reap what the sow..
I guess we just need to make the best of a bad situation.

ZooCrewMom

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone that isn't supportive of your pregnancy. Hopefully she will come around and get excited! This will be my MIL's 15th grandchild - I wonder if she will even notice their arrival!

NicoleWI

I am worried about telling my parents. They think we already have more than we can handle going on, which is kind of true, and every time they see us it's a total zoo with the kids. I think my mom feels like I should move on and have more time to enjoy my own life without having another baby to raise. I feel like she will wonder why would do this knowing I will have 2 more years of hard work with a baby, just when we were ready to move on.

I know she thought stopping at two was a good idea so I know she will be all worried about us having a fourth.

FLRainbowGirl

ZooCrewMom said:

I'm sorry you have to deal with someone that isn't supportive of your pregnancy. Hopefully she will come around and get excited! This will be my MIL's 15th grandchild - I wonder if she will even notice their arrival!

LOL. It'll be #9 for mine...

FLRainbowGirl

NicoleWI said:

I am worried about telling my parents. They think we already have more than we can handle going on, which is kind of true, and every time they see us it's a total zoo with the kids. I think my mom feels like I should move on and have more time to enjoy my own life without having another baby to raise. I feel like she will wonder why would do this knowing I will have 2 more years of hard work with a baby, just when we were ready to move on.

I know she thought stopping at two was a good idea so I know she will be all worried about us having a fourth.

Shame, mammas never stop worrying. Sounds like she'll support you no matter what. My mom always said 2 will be enough for me - when I told her about this one - she said: "Well, looks like the Lord ambushed you.." Sweet.
;;)

danieleandwayne

At least my mother will be over the moon. She knew how hard it was for us to conceive DD. And my MIL will be thrilled as well since she loves babies. She's just annoying-- she has a couple illnesses that make her muscles weak and her joints and eyes fail/give out, but she insists on ignoring MH's and my instructions about not holding the baby when she's not sitting down, she tries to flip the baby upside down (especially just after the baby nursed/ate), etc. So we're constantly running around after her so that our DD doesn't end up with shaken baby syndrome or get dropped. Oh, and she says things like, "How's my baby doing?" It's not your baby. It's your effing grandchild. It's MY baby. So yeah, MILs are jerks sometimes. Being >35 means eff the MILs-- you DO WHAT YOU WANT, BIATCHES!! :-)

FLRainbowGirl

He. He. Yep. Indeed. Challenging. My MIL has MS so she always sits down holding a baby. But she's definitely bossy & meddles a lot.
Lordy! Time for some patience & grace... Lol.

vintagemom42

The can be just peachy..... but at this point of my life I barely care about what people think, family or strangers. My life, my events, my terms.... I would leave hubby to have fun telling her.... and keep going.

KirstenAlecia

Where does she even get off telling you at any point no more kids??? 

Seriously......i would have put a stop to it the minute she ever said it the very first time by saying something like "well lets be glad thats not our decision to make"

What is her problem...ugh. too much! You are nicer than me thats for sure! 

niknak1208

That's annoying.  My MIL is super annoying about it too. My hubby told her already and I was ok with that but told him to let her know that we're not spreading the news right now.. just immediate family and friends know at this point.  She's been ok in regards to not telling anyone.  But she's just so annoying about it.. when can I tell.. can I tell yet.. am I allowed to tell anyone yet.. when is it ok to tell. OMG shut up!  lol  My daugthers birthday party was Saturday and that's all she did was ask me non stop. I said well everyone at this party knows but I haven't told all of our family or all of our friends so don't go putting stuff on FB or telling everyone in your family.  

She's annoying in general though. She was sitting next to my 2 yr old at her party and helping her unwrap her cupcake. My daughter eats it and of course has frosting all over her hands and face.. instead of getting a wash cloth or a wet wipe.. my MIL just sucks the frosting off each one of my daughters fingers. REALLY??  I didn't even see it. .my mom told me about it later.  How gross is that.. please do not put my kids hands in your mouth! 

BSTmama

FL Rainbow Girl- looks like you originally posted this months ago.....sooooo, how did it go? Is she used to the idea or giving you crap? I hope it turned out better then you expected.