Dishonesty & Unresponsiveness

alb2411

How do you handle it when the other parent is a habitual liar & mostly unresponsive and their dishonesty and lack of response completely thwarts or causes major delays in your ability to get appropriate care for the child? I can't get into specifics, but trust me, I'm not talking about petty little things. I will add, in our situation, DH has final say in certain things, as long as he has sincerely tried to come to an agreement with BM. So, do you call them out every time for the sake of records or do you ignore the lies you catch them in and proceed as best you can with making appropriate arrangements for the child? Also, what do you consider sincerely trying to come to an agreement when faced with a lack of response? How many emails do we have to send before we just say that we're going ahead and following through with what needs to be done?

KTdidit

MiracleBByE said:

I would send an initial email with your needed response time frame. I would then follow up within 24hrs if nothing. Depending on how generous Im feeling I might attempt a phone call. And then proceed with whats best for the child. Document Document tho!

I think this is a good starting off point

alb2411

I appreciate the responses. This really helps clarify and seems much easier than what we have been doing as far as trying to get her to communicate with us. 

Can anyone weigh in on the lying aspect of my question though? DH wants to "call her out" when we catch her in blatant lies and I just can't decide what my stance is on it. On one hand, I see that this could help for documentation purposes, but on the other hand, I don't think calling her out is going to get us anywhere with her....ah the life of blended families.