DD (almost 16 mos) is very attached to me and has a strong sleep association with me. Our night-time routine is that we brush teeth, read a book, and then I walk/sing her to sleep in the Ergo. Sometimes followed by nursing, sometimes not (about 50% of the time, depending on how sleepy she is). We co-sleep, so she sleeps on our bed on her own until we join her for the night. My question: DH would like to be more involved in the night-time routine, but she won't have it. If he tries to put her to sleep instead of me, she cries until she has chest spasms/hiccups. It's pretty heart-wrenching, so I always end up going in and rescuing him/her. Once I take her, she calms down and falls to sleep. Any ideas for how to wean her off the mom-only sleep association? Or will she just age out of it?
Re: CIO...with dad?
i do try to stop DS from nursing all the way to sleep. i usually stop him and say "boobies have to rest now," and most of the time he's content with that and will go to sleep if i stay there until he's out. so, point being, you could start working on breaking the nursing to sleep association, even if you are still the one putting your DD to sleep. then at least it will be easier for your DH to possibly help with the process at some point in the future.
edited to add: i think it is dr. sears that makes the point that crying in a parent/caregivers arms is NOT CIO. so if you do need your DH to put your LO to sleep sometimes to save your sanity, i know it is tough to hear her cry, but crying with your DH is not the same thing as being left alone to cry herself to sleep.
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