GTKY: Marriage

ToastieSimons

How old were your parents when they married?

Are they still married to each other?

Do you think this affected how old you wanted to be when you get/got married?

kcisthebombdotcom

My parents were 19, divorced when I was four. I thought I would get married later but I was married at 24.

jillyjill1026sr

My mom was 23, my dad was 31. They separated when I was 10 and officially divorced when I was 14. I don't think age had much to do with their divorce, but I knew I wanted to wait til I was a bit older to marry (I was 27).

meglew

My parents were 20 and 21 when they got married.  They were married for 19 years when they got divorced (I was 16).  I don't think how old they were when they got married affected me much in terms of shaping what I wanted as an adult for my relationships.  It did affect my relationship with them though.

ETA:  DH's parents got married when they were both 21 (ironically exactly 2 weeks after my parents, same year) and they are still married 37 years later.

Andrewsgal

Mom was 20 and dad 21. They are still married 45 years later, and very happy. No it did not influence the age I got married at.

joyfullyfound

My mom was 29 and my dad was 32 when they got married, and they're still together. 

It definitely affected when I wanted to get married... I just thought it would be around the same time they did. I ended up getting married at 20 yrs, which is the same age my dad was when he got married the first time.

hmd

They were 18 and 19.  Yes, still married.  They are 80 and 81.  I got married the day before my 25th birthday.  I did not think about them or my age at all in regards to whether I should get married.

sunnydays99

My dad was 22 and my mom was 21. They're still together...just celebrated their 41st anniversary in October.


I got married fairly young as well (23), but I don't think that was influenced at all by my parents marriage.

jensriot

My mom was 19 and dad was 21. They divorced when I was 5. I think age had a little to do with it, among other things. I think they got married too early and were still a bit immature when they divorced. I was married at 28, but I don't think my parent's ages had anything to do with that. I was engaged to a guy when I was 19, but realized he was an idiot and there was too much I wanted to do before getting married.

hayleydeee

23

Yes, married since 1971!

Not really, I was 30

Aussie45

They were 19. They got married because they got pregnant with me. They're still married, but honestly, they are so bad together. They stay together mostly because it's the only thing they've ever known. They are like gas and fire and it stresses out everyone around them.

I don't think their marriage changed my view on when I should get married. I got engaged at 19 and married at 20. Our marriage could not be more different than my parent's. I think the reason why they got married was a shitty one, and cost them both a great deal in the long run.

jag101

They were 18 and 20. Divorced.

I think I have a totally different perspective on marriage than my friends who's parents are still married.

thechickencoop

My mom was 21, my dad was 24.  They waited 10 years before having me, and then another 3 before they had my sister.  They'll be married 45 years next year!  I don't think it had an affect of me; although, I did get married when I was 22.

Linnea503

My mom was 19 and my dad was 25. He basically rescued her from her life of poverty with her family. She moved from Texas to Pennsylvania to be with him. He paid for her to go to college and she was a SAHM for my childhood, although she didn't enjoy it. They divorced when I was 21 after almost 30 years married. My father was having a long-term affair and is now happily remarried to the other woman.

I got married at 25 and don't feel my parents strory had any influence on that.

Mrs.Hizzo

My mom was 25, my dad was 30. They were married until he passed away last October.

I think what mostly affected me was the ages they were when they had me, 35 and 40. It never felt to me like that was "old," so I didn't have any problem waiting until I was in my mid-30s to marry and have kids.

raraavis28

My parents were 24 when they got married and are still together. I got married at 27....I guess not that much older, though, looking back, I felt way too "young" at 24 to get married.

Chapter79

How old were your parents when they married? 17 and 22 (I know... right?)

Are they still married to each other? They are! Though sometimes I think they shouldn't be.

Do you think this affected how old you wanted to be when you get/got married? It didn't necessary affect me, I wouldn't have gotten married at 17 ever... whether or not my mom did. Simply too young.   I got married at 25 and it was perfect for me.

Spin313

Very early 20s...they got divorced soon after DH and I got engaged.

I was 26 when we got married. My parents didn't effect our decisions.

Cherryblossoms07

My parents got married right after high school. They have had some rough patches, but they are still together and stronger than ever now. I don't think their marrying young had any affect on when I got married. Their insisting that I wait, finish school, and travel the world first had a greater affect.

Hollylb3

My parents were 18 and 20, and yes, they're still married 33 years later. I think it did affect me, because I did want to marry young and start a family pretty soon. I was 21.

minerswife17

My mom and dad were 23.

Divorced when I was 3.

I got married at 21. Their marriage/divorce didn't affect me at all. 

eaglesfan700

They were 19 and 20

Still married, 62 years next week!
It affected me in that I knew the age wasn't important. I wanted to find the person who made me as happy as they were, whenever that was. I got married at 33 and we met at 31

PaisleyRuth

My parents were 24 & 23. They would be closing in on 40 years of marriage now, but my mom died 6 years ago.

I would have loved to have gotten married at 23/24, but I didn't meet DH til I was 25 (got married just shy of 27). It happened when it was supposed to happen.

caybeh

My parents were 18 and 28 and are still married 36 years later. DH's parents were 18 and 20 and still married 41 years later.

Yes, I wanted to get married young. I was 22 when I got married. I always thought I would be 20 as my sister was. But 22 is still young in today's sense to get married.

jnksmom

My mom was 17 and my dad was 22. They just celebrated their 31st anniversary this week. Their age at marriage didn't affect my decision to get married although I did marry young. I was 21 and H was 25.

bumpuser8448316

My mom was 26 and my dad was 33. The have been married 39 years. I never really thought about how old they were when I got married. DH and I were 26 and 30.

notreallyirish

My parents were 21 and 22. Still married 35+ years later.

Their age did affect me, but mostly my own age affected me. I was 22...young. I wanted to be with DH and I didn't know what else I wanted. I married him right out of college because I didn't know what else to do.

zbeesma86

My mom was 27 and married once before. My dad was 35 & married twice before.

They are still married!

I never wanted to get married.  Had nothing to do with my parents 

dizzycooks

I don't know how old my parents were.  They got divorced when I was 2.  It did not effect how old I was when I got married.  I got married at 24 (dh was 29) and would have happily married him sooner.  We've been married 6 years now (did I really just have to count to figure it out??).

bhuffman

My parents were 20 and 21 when they got married. They are still happily married. I don't think their ages influenced me. My husband and I got married when we were both 24 (I was less than a month from 25).

Keeptruckin

My mom was 25 and my Dad was 30. It was my Dad's second marriage so statistically they had a greater chance of splitting up. They just celebrated 45 years and have a great relationship. I don't think their age influenced us though.

LoriLee14

They were 18 and 21. Still married. I knew I wouldn't be that young. I wanted to graduate college first.

Aussie45

MermaidsMagic said:

I'm seriously the only bastard here? Damn it.

We can be bastards together

fancefpp

They were around 22-25, I think. They are still married....40+ years. Their age had nothing to do with when I got married. I never wanted to marry in my 20s but it had nothing to do with them.

Xtine22

They were 20 and 21. They were still married when my mom passed away 7 years ago. 

When I was younger I wanted to get married young like they did. I met DH at 22 but we didn't get married till I was 28 and I wouldn't change a thing. 

spring_time

My mom was 23 and my dad was 26.  They were high school sweethearts, started dating when my mom was 14.  They are still happily married.

I think it has guided my ideas on marriage.  However, since they were so young and high school sweethearts, they essentially grew up together. I think it is a different kind of marriage than my DH and I who had already lived on our own, owned our own houses, had a couple of jobs, traveled extensively, and generally had developed our own ideas about life in general.  We have to work a little harder to mesh our ideas.

EDIT:  Oops, misread the question.  No, their age did not influence when I got married.  

likeanoldtimemovie

My parents were both twenty when they married. They divorced when I was six, but they still act married. I have friends that have no idea they aren't still married. Dad came over for dinner every night after the divorce, we all still went on vacations together, he would spend the night Christmas Eve, etc. They've talked about remarrying a thousand times, but never done it. My siblings and I know they'll end up together again, officially, one day.

I'm DH's second marriage. His first marriage, he was 19 (they had their first baby when he was 18 and she was 20) and they divorced when he was 21. He was 25 when we married and I was 24.

Lolapop29

Early 30's when they got married, it was my moms 3rd marriage (she tells people it was the 2nd).  They were married for almost 30 years when my father died.  She's remarried now. 

They didn't really have a happy marriage, and pretty much stayed together for the kids.  But after we all grew up they fell back in love and were very happy for a few years before he died. 

pitterpatter129

19 and 20, still married, I was 27 when I got married

rachie1019

My Mom was 24 and Dad was 27 when they got married. My Mom was 3 weeks pregnant with me at their wedding but didn't know at the time. They had my sister 6 years later. They celebrated 31 years in February. I was a month shy of 24 when I married DH, who was 33. I always wanted to get married young and start a family. Being a SAHM of 3 little ones was pretty much always my dream

alake

My mom was 18 and my dad was 24.  My DH and I split them.  We were 20.
My parents celebrate their 36th wedding anniversary on October 27th.  They have had their ups and downs but are pretty stable now.  My mom married the hockey player.  He stopped playing hockey and started coaching the junior team when my brother and I came along.
I don't think it influenced us in our wedding.