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Re: Number of children
Those are ways I have heard other Loss Moms explain it.
Hugs. It is a tough question.
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I hate that question too!:( hugs
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This is how I feel. My twin sons would have been one this month, and I find I spare myself crappy comments like, " You wouldn't have this little guy". People who don't understand say the darnedest things, so I say Tate is my first to prevent strangers from inadvertently twisting the knife. Big hugs.
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I usually just say he is our first if I don't want to get into a whole thing. Sometimes I will say 'he's my only living child'.
Most people I work with know about our loss, because, and I don't regret this at all, when I took off of work to deal with the m/c I asked my boss to please tell everyone what happened for me, to save me the pain of having to say it over and over and over. And it worked great. I got lots of 'I'm so sorry' when I first talked to someone but I never had anyone ask how the pregnancy was going or ask why I was out of work for so long or anything else awkward like that.
Anyway the interesting thing about coworkers knowing was loss parents came out of the woodwork! I had colleagues I didn't know very well say 'my wife and I had five losses before our son came along' and whatnot. It was just nice to know that I wasn't alone and that other people suffered and I never knew. Not NICE but you know what I mean, I didn't feel so alone.
BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
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Oddly enough, the one and only person I've told the truth to since she was born, completely understood because her best friend lost her baby the same way I did. We ended up talking about it the entire time I was there (getting a pedicure). It's like in my heart I knew it was ok to tell her.
I guess along with the guilt, one of the big reasons I feel like I should tell the truth is to help break the silence. It's such a taboo topic, and I feel this responsibility to help it not be so taboo...but then again I am only just over a year since our loss. Maybe when more time has passed and I can better talk about it with strangers I can be more forthcoming. But for when I am feeling brave, I like the suggestion of "she has a sister in heaven", or "she's my first living child".
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
We had a blighted Ovum with our first loss so I never got to see any fetal growth at all. For me, my 1st loss was a loss of pregnancy not of a child (I hope that makes sense and doesn't sound insensative). So when people ask how many children I have, I only ever feel like my DD is my only child so that is how I answer. When people ask how many pregnancies I have had (usually only medical professionals) I say 2.
I know it is not the same, but when I was 14 I lost my dad and sister in a car accident. Whenever people ask me if I have any siblings it always is such a loaded question. "Yes, but she died. Yes, I did. Yes, an older sister." Sometimes I have just said, "No" because I didn't know the person and wasn't likely to interact with them in the future. I do always feel gulity when I say no, but sometimes I just don't have it in me to explain to someone.
I say do what feels right at the moment.