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aldretea33
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Trying not to drive my husband crazy!
aldretea33
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Hello everyone,
I'm Ashley and I am glad to have found a cool place like this to talk with people who are going through the same things as me, and like the title says, hopefully i can direct my energy here and not drive my husband crazy!
I would like to start by saying that i realize that i am young (23) and I realize that i have not been trying to get pregnant for THAT long compared to a lot of women and I am so so so thankful for those things and that I do have PLENTY of time
So, a little about me. I have been with my husband for close to 6 years, we just got married in September (Yay) and in December we decided that we would ditch all forms of birth control and just let what ever God had planned for us happen. We both want children and we feel we are ready mentally, financially etc.
About 2 years ago I confirmed my suspicions that I may have endometriosis and my doctor had told me the older i get the more likely i would be to have problems conceiving. So keeping that in the back of my mind I finished nursing school got a job and did other growing up stuff.........
So fast forward to December, I realize that many many women have endometriosis and some of them have a harder time getting pregnant but many have no trouble at all. In the back of my mind i knew that i could be someone who had a hard time but in the "front" of my mind i thought first time we tried i would get pregnant. ( it happens to people who aren't even trying all the time right?) Well that wasn't the case for us and while i was slightly bummed it wasn't that big of a deal. So a couple more months go by nothing happens so we start to "try" a little harder. I track my ovulation, we do everything we need to do when we need to do it, and again i think well surely its gonna happen the first month, and it doesn't, and then i doesn't again and now this month same story.
That is where we are now, and it is not the fact that it is taking us some time that bothers me the most, like i said i know we have time. It is the constant wondering, every single little thing my body does, I think "oh boy! that could be a sign i'm pregnant." I am sure most of you are aware that quite a few of the "signs you may be pregnant" can mean a million other things as well.
The other thing i am having a problem with is friends and family, we made a choice to keep our decision to start trying to ourselves to try and avoid the constant "are you pregnant" question. So now i feel like i am in this super awkward spot. When we do get asked when we are going to have kids ( happens a LOT), we just smile and mumble "oh not right now" or " we are just enjoying being newlyweds" blah blah blah. but in my head I am thinking "I AM TRYING AND YOU ASKING ME JUST REMINDS ME THAT IT HASN'T HAPPENED YET." But, if we tell them we are trying I am concerned that one, the questioning will increase or two, they will feel bad and pity me.
So, I would love to connect with some other women in the same boat as me and be able to talk about this stuff without having to bother my husband, quite as much
I'm Ashley and I am glad to have found a cool place like this to talk with people who are going through the same things as me, and like the title says, hopefully i can direct my energy here and not drive my husband crazy!
I would like to start by saying that i realize that i am young (23) and I realize that i have not been trying to get pregnant for THAT long compared to a lot of women and I am so so so thankful for those things and that I do have PLENTY of time
So, a little about me. I have been with my husband for close to 6 years, we just got married in September (Yay) and in December we decided that we would ditch all forms of birth control and just let what ever God had planned for us happen. We both want children and we feel we are ready mentally, financially etc.
About 2 years ago I confirmed my suspicions that I may have endometriosis and my doctor had told me the older i get the more likely i would be to have problems conceiving. So keeping that in the back of my mind I finished nursing school got a job and did other growing up stuff.........
So fast forward to December, I realize that many many women have endometriosis and some of them have a harder time getting pregnant but many have no trouble at all. In the back of my mind i knew that i could be someone who had a hard time but in the "front" of my mind i thought first time we tried i would get pregnant. ( it happens to people who aren't even trying all the time right?) Well that wasn't the case for us and while i was slightly bummed it wasn't that big of a deal. So a couple more months go by nothing happens so we start to "try" a little harder. I track my ovulation, we do everything we need to do when we need to do it, and again i think well surely its gonna happen the first month, and it doesn't, and then i doesn't again and now this month same story.
That is where we are now, and it is not the fact that it is taking us some time that bothers me the most, like i said i know we have time. It is the constant wondering, every single little thing my body does, I think "oh boy! that could be a sign i'm pregnant." I am sure most of you are aware that quite a few of the "signs you may be pregnant" can mean a million other things as well.
The other thing i am having a problem with is friends and family, we made a choice to keep our decision to start trying to ourselves to try and avoid the constant "are you pregnant" question. So now i feel like i am in this super awkward spot. When we do get asked when we are going to have kids ( happens a LOT), we just smile and mumble "oh not right now" or " we are just enjoying being newlyweds" blah blah blah. but in my head I am thinking "I AM TRYING AND YOU ASKING ME JUST REMINDS ME THAT IT HASN'T HAPPENED YET." But, if we tell them we are trying I am concerned that one, the questioning will increase or two, they will feel bad and pity me.
So, I would love to connect with some other women in the same boat as me and be able to talk about this stuff without having to bother my husband, quite as much
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Re: Trying not to drive my husband crazy!
When you say you are tracking your ovulation, what do you mean? That you are temping?
I think a lot of us can relate to family asking when. Never tell them that you're trying!! It's so much worse haha.
Together: 09.27.2007 / Engaged: 05.05.2008 / Home: 11.27.2012 / Married: 09.27.2013
RIP: Mya - Female Siberian Husky Angel
Osiris - Male Black ASH / Angel - Female Siberian Husky / Titan - Male Alaskan Malamute
Mirena Removed: 03.2014 / NTNP: 04.2014 / TTC: 07.2014
...old - but I'm not that old; young - but I'm not that bold...
Together: 09.27.2007 / Engaged: 05.05.2008 / Home: 11.27.2012 / Married: 09.27.2013
RIP: Mya - Female Siberian Husky Angel
Osiris - Male Black ASH / Angel - Female Siberian Husky / Titan - Male Alaskan Malamute
Mirena Removed: 03.2014 / NTNP: 04.2014 / TTC: 07.2014
...old - but I'm not that old; young - but I'm not that bold...
and yes tracking my temperature and cervical mucous.
congratulations on your marriage! September is a good month, a few more months and it will be our 1 year anniversary