I will first say that for the most part I love my MIL. Usually she doesn't upset me. She has not been respectful of a few things in my marriage but now that I am pregnant it is a whole new world. It seems I can do nothing right, I can't dress right, I can't eat right, I can't make any decisions that she thinks is right. I am going bananas!! Most things I just blow off and try to keep in mind ( like ever article says) that she is trying to be helpful. I realize not everything is worth an argument. But now, she has come right out and said she thinks the name we have chosen for our baby boy is UGLY. We have chosen Francisco Felix. We want him to be called Felix. Francisco is my husband and FIL name. Felix was just a name that I loved and it turned out to be my husband grandfathers name. I asked if there was an issue with the family about the name and if anyone had a bad relationship. I have been assured that it is not a problem. I will say I saw this coming because she has known the name and ignores me when I use it and has previously said she didn't like it. I talked to my Husband about it before and he thought I was being crazy. Now he sees. She says she refuses to call him by the name we want him Felix. Which in my opinion is too much. It is our child and our wishes should be respected. I don't think I should have to let her call him whatever she wants, or anyone! I have read articles that say that! My husband backs me up. I am just feeling too much stress from this and can't believe it .I am having a hard enough time because we live in Ecuador with his family. I have no family here they all are in the states. I do understand some cultural differences and let them be what they are but stand firm on what I feel comfortable with. I realize everyone is entitled to their opinion, but shouldn't people know how to express it in a way that is not hurtful or rude? I don't feel that I am out of line requesting everyone call him Felix. She did the same with her son. Everyone had to call him by his whole name. What do you think?
Re: my MIL has finally done it!
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I just correct her. Every. Single. Time. (I just say my baby's name whenever she uses the wrong, totally not the same name) I get where you're coming from. It's really rude and annoying. Eventually she won't have a choice but to use LO's real name if she wants a response from your kid.
It'll work out, just let it go.
My MIL still holds major grudges against people who called her son Patrick "Patty" in grade school 25 yrs ago. It's crazy. Even with that she still makes up the WORST nicknames for my daughters. "Ellie Jelly Bean" "Harriella" and "Margartita" for example.
But she adores my girls and they adore her. And now my 4 year old corrects her on her name.
I would address the issue of saying the name is Ugly. That's just hurtful language and should not be allowed.
Edit- spelling is hard
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I love that movie!! our last name starts with a P:-S
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She just doesn't want to call him Felix. I am ok with her saying " The Baby". I was just upset over the reaction she had. I thought it was rude and uncalled for.
I fixed the subject. Wasn't sure how this all worked. I think this is only my second post.
ahhh! got it! missed that one