We have a larger master bedroom. Queen bed for DH and myself. Toddler bed for 4 year old. Crib for 1 year old. Other two bedrooms are very far away from master. Too far away for us to be from kids. It works. When do we stop room sharing? One bedroom is set up for 4 year old. She is not interested in it even if I offer to sleep in the double bed with her. No one I know co sleeps on purpose or room shares. I need perspective. I assume the 4 yr old will ask for her own space at some point.
Re: Family bedroom
i can't really provide a long-term perspective on this since we're still bedsharing with our 21-month-old. but i do think you should continue to room/bedshare if that's what works for you and not worry about what anybody else thinks.
That said, your 4yo will want her own space at some point, and she'll ask for it. Have you done anything in her room to make it extra special and unique for her (paint, decor, etc.)?
Just because other people think differently does not mean that you are doing anything wrong.
Its your child, you would know best!
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)