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{loss} Hi, brand new to IVF, DE and the's an Introduction!

Hello, 3rd Party Board!

I'm new and I am so very early in the process of exploring IVF options. --I'll try be very quiet for a while because this is an education for me. I know nothing about IVF. My ignorance is sad considering how long I have been struggling with infertility...I'm almost 42 years old and conceived naturally several times so my history is AMA, diminished ovarian reserve & repeated miscarriage. 

We have done several tests and so far it looks like we will attempt IVF with frozen egg bank donor eggs. The idea of DE does not bother me. I'm pretty open to adoption, donor eggs, donor sperm, Cabbage Patch Kids at this point. Honestly, my eggs have been very crappy to me so far. (even the idea of being PG with my old eggs is not a happy one but makes me nervous and afraid) My DH on the hand is less enthusiastic but open and willing so that is great. 

I can't exactly explain how or why it took me so long to come to this stage. Fear? EGO? hope? I wish I would have done this sooner. We've been on this roller coaster for YEARS. I only recently got enough courage to start imagining TTC again. Every set back has been painful and every pregnancy so emotional that I almost gave up completely. So here we are and I'm hopeful again! Can't wait to see Dr again and get a game plan!
  • so far we have done a ton of blood work (pcos panel, prenatal, ovarian reserve panel, MLp4, beta 2 glycoprotein, lupus anticoagulant, anticardiolipins, karotype)
  • genetic testing
  • HSG
  • SA
  • MRI of ute-- 
PROGNOSIS: POOR...yes, it actually says that on the consult notes!

Looking forward to this chapter in our journey and hoping I can support you somehow.

Thank you-

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Re: {loss} Hi, brand new to IVF, DE and the's an Introduction!

  • Hi and welcome to TPR. I don't have experience with donor eggs (only donor embryos) but lots of ladies here do. I hope you find success in this next chapter. :)

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    Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
    Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
    DH: Severe MFI

    12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
    My ovaries are just for decoration

    12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
    2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
    2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
    3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

    6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
    9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
    9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
    11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
    Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522  Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373 
    6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!

    Snowflake baby is a girl! 
    Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014! 
    My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
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  • Hello Winterbride! I remember you from TTC>35 from several years ago. I'm sorry you never found success with your OEs. I'm glad you are going to move to DE. I am finally pregnant with twins from my 4th DE transfer so DE has been an even rougher round for me than my OE BFNs were. Can I ask where you are thinking about cycling? I used frozen eggs this last time with RBA. A lot of clinics don't know what they are doing with frozen eggs so you need to be careful in selecting a clinic. I'm happy to answer any questions I can. Wishing you much luck :-)

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days


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  • Welcome to the board! We are using a gestational carrier, so I don't have a ton to add but I just wanted to say welcome.

    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

    Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!


  • Hi & welcome! We are considering DEgg, though our inconclusive diagnosis (or lack thereof) is making it hard for us to take the plunge. I'm looking forward to hearing about your journey & hope that this will be the way for you - soon!
    TTC since March 2012
    Dx: Unexplained IF, Arcuate Uterus, Minimal Endometriosis, Poor Embryo Quality
    Tx History: 1 Injects+TI, 5 IUIs, 3 IVFs, 1 FET = all BFN and full of heartbreak
    Plan: Waiting to see if our potential donor is a match for DE IVF #1

    Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
  • J&D2007J&D2007 member
    Hello and welcome! It's so wonderful that you seem so open to all your options and very interesting that you say that imagining getting pg with OE makes you afraid. I think I am getting to that point too. I do know quite a bit about ivf infortunately so feel free to ask away on that subject, but I'm just starting my DE research. I'm in the same boat as daydreamer where I'm having a hard time making the decision because we are also pretty much unexplained. Welcome to you:-)
    Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown
    10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
    11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
    12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
    6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
    IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
    IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
    IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
    IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
    10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
    Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
    Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
  • Hello and welcome to this board too :)

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!



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  • Welcome to the board. I know it can be scary at first to take this step (or even consider taking this step), but I'm glad you found us! 

    TTC since April 2010
    BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
    BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
    Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
    BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
    Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
    BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
    BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
    No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
    June 2013 - Carrier found! Could this really happen?!
    ~All AL always welcome~

  • thank you for support and understanding! It is refreshing to hear so many voices of empathy but it generally sucks that we are here at all.

     I will esp find out more about the frozen eggs, Mrs. McIrish!

    My heart is as open as the sky.
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    2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.

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    Welcome!  This board is full of amazing women who have taught me so much!  I am about to do a DE frozen embryo transfer next week!  I used an agency with an unknown donor.  We decided to keep everything confidential and anonymous.  If you have any questions about that kind of process feel free to PM me!

    Good luck!
    ***siggy/ticker warning***

    Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012
    Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR,  DH: normal

     IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix.
    - poor responder
    ***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days
    IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms
    FET 5/20- BFP
    1st Beta- 641
    2nd beta- 2166
    Sono- TWINS!!!!
    Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks.  Healthy and no NICU!  So blessed!


  • Welcome to the board! Starting this journey can surely be overwhelming - luckily this is a board full of support and understanding! DH and I are using DE's - we chose to use frozen mainly for cost and time purposes. Our clinic provided us with a short questionnaire about important qualities we wanted in a donor - we then received 7 profiles of donors who had eggs ready to be swooped up. This was perhaps the most fun part of the process because we felt we could connect a bit even though our donor will remain anonymous. We picked a donor that had proven pregnancies (meaning other couples used her as well and had a child) and that resembled some of my characteristics/heritage. I'd be happy to talk more about the process if you'd like :) 

    It sounds like you're in a great spot to start down this path - best of like and welcome again!

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    Married September 3, 2011 | TTC since May 2013
    Me: Diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2013, underwent fertility sparing surgery which left low ovarian reserve, no tubes, partial ovary | DH: perfectly normal 
    BFP: 5/30/2014 via donor eggs | EDD: 2/6/2015
  • THANK YOU!! I will take you up on the education  :)>-

    My heart is as open as the sky.
    Read about it on the blog

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    2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.

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  • I've learned a lot here and I'm sure you will too.  I don't think I could ever say that I know everything when it comes to overcoming infertility - so I'm glad for this board, lots of smart people here!

    Welcome (sorry you have to be here)!
    Me: 33 (Mosaic Turner's Syndrome/POF) 
    DH: 35 (no male factor)
    3/10 - Foster Mr. T for 1 month
    3/11 - Foster AL for 1 year
    7/11 Known donor retrieval 7 fertilized 
    7/11 DE Transfer -BFP & 5 FE
    4/9/12 Miracle baby girl arrives!
    Planning for FET 7/14

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