First Day of Initial School Eval - Jekyll/Hyde

mightmom13

DD had her first day of pre-school evaluation for services for the school system today. And she did what we thought was going to be the 20% chance and wowed them apparently. I was not in the room after but she chose a toy of her choice, none that were presented to her, a "piano" (xylophone) because it seems like music is her interest as she can call out artists on the radio/phone, knows when things are cover songs, repeats pitch and vocals to a T, starting to use it to speak/sing in context, etc. 

By the time we got to the car, however, she started screaming and hitting and more screaming. After stopping at a park for outside time, we got home and screaming ensued on the way home, escalated as we got home, and had one of her Mach 5 meltdowns over I have no idea what. It seemed like she just could not organize herself at all, especially emotionally - mainly emotionally. She is sleeping now and did actually get 12 hours of sleep for once last night. 

Day 2 and the last day is tomorrow before they write up their report, from what info they received previously from me and EI - I was given another questioner for ASD today, and surprisingly she is ramping up for all her home therapy - not in a positive way and speech (who thinks she may be ok, may not made sure to tell me certain things to mention to the eval team for these 2 days).  It's like the eval team were amazed at how she did, I was told by a dad who had to do a tube feed for snack that the other little boy in there was having a melt-down and it appeared DD was doing really well during individual break-out sessions. So it looks like we may have a questioner v in-person eval situation. 

Has anyone had this before and since it didn't appear that certain aspects would affect the classroom you just dealt with home melt-downs/behaviors/rigidity yourself?

If DD doesn't qualify for services, then she doesn't and there is not much I can do on my own; but she is not graduating from EI she is out per her age, she would still qualify for everything she is getting now if it were an annual eval in her therapists' opinion maybe just decrease time on speech.