The dreaded jinx.

E&B0811

So, we are in Vegas right now and dh wants to buy Vigorous Baby a onesie but said "I don't want to jinx it." Ugh. No matter how many times I tell myself and sincerely know that jinxing isn't real (spent lots of time with el shrinko on this one ) I feel like it's hard to keep excited - for fear of jinxing of course - and remember that jinxing isn't real.

I'm 9w2d today. At our last u/s Vigorous Baby was measuring ahead and the dr confirmed was measuring past where our angel baby was measuring at the time of the mmc dx. Our first loss was discovered at 9w6d so I think, too, I'm anxious this week.

Anybody else feel like this? What do you do to get past the fear of jinx?

becky7683

I hate the fear of the jinx!  I talked a lot about this in counseling too ... and will even say to my mom or husband "I want to open that, but I don't want to jinx it."  And them telling me out loud that jinxing isn't real is the only thing that kind of helps, even though I still feel it.  I finally opened and put away a lot of baby things this weekend and the fear of the jinx was with me the whole time.  But - the hope of a sweet baby is just that much stronger.      9 days to go until my c-section and I'm sure I'll be fighting the fear of the jinx to the end.  Hugs to you! 

MommaAshley12

I know exactly how you feel and would get major anxiety every time I told someone new or received any baby items or gifts. Like you said jinxing isn't real but anxiety is. My only advice would be to voice your fears and then repeat positive mantras. I am so hopeful for you sweet friend! Still praying. Big (((hugs)))!

rmpar29

I know exactly how you feel!  I have no advice as to how to get over it, but I just wanted to send you many (((((((HUGS)))))))))).  I hope you are having a blast!

rox825

I'm feeling afraid of the jinx too, we just started telling friends and family about the pregnancy and I can't help but think that now of course something bad will happen.  Really the only thing that has been keeping me sane and reassuring me is biweekly OB appointments to make sure that the baby is still alive (I don't have a doppler).  And I remind myself that most other pregnant women tell people and buy things for their babies and they don't jinx themselves.

gingerkid9989

awww  ((hugs))... I know exactly how you feel.  I JUST bought onesies for Evelyn this weekend.  I am 20 weeks.  DH thinks I'm crazy of course because I talk about jinxing but he just doesn't get it.  I wish I had some advice of how to get over it, but I don't.  I kind of just pushed myself into thinking "You can NOT jinx yourself.  There are no jinxes." 

LifeofCat

(((hugs))) I'm at 23 weeks and I still feel this; the day I set up the nursery, which I continue to delay even though we have pretty much all we need, will be a meltdown day. 

We PGALers can't help it, even if it defies all logic. I won't feel 100% "ok" until she is healthy pink and crying in my arms. 

All we can do is continue to support each other be easy on yourself, and try to find some mantras or something that fills you with hope and joy for your little one!

2redtulips

I understand. It's not as bad now that I am a bit further along, but I have had a few moments recently after buying new things for the baby. When we set up the nursery, I know I will also feel a bit that way. 

I say be gentle with yourself on this one. Take a deep breath, tell yourself that jinxes aren't real, but don't beat yourself up for that flutter of fear. It's totally normal. 

Hugs for your loss milestone as well. I know that doesn't help.

mmhusted

Totally get it! I have made my family and friends aware that no baby things will be brought into the house until there is a baby. I just cant bare to have to pack all that up again.  I am allowing husband to put some stuff in the garage but that is as far as it can go until.  Mostly everyone is supportive. 

SandSunBliss

I'm not a good person to ask. I didn't buy baby anything until about 20 weeks. It was a stroller toy and it was a big step for me. I initiated it. DH gave me lots of space about buying/planning. Of course he knows how OCD I am, so as soon as I let myself become excited, I was a planning/buying machine!

Now I find myself afraid again. Once we passé our milestones, my #1 fear has been a cord accident. I safely blocked this out the majority of the pregnancy, but as we unpack out last few items, I have found myself gripped with fear of driving home in a decked out babymobile(shades and all) to a house full of baby things with no baby. DH reminds me that we can't plan fr that though. We can only hope for the best and prepare for our sweet one. He is wise.

I hope you are able to find your optimism and joy to purchase the onesie, but if you don't, don't beat yourself up. You will get there, dear friend! And vigorous baby will be clothed, I am sure!