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huzzahuzza

Is anyone else with a baby born close to this time in a little (and I mean very small) bit of mourning? This Mother's Day weekend will never truly be about me. There will never be a Mother's Day without cleaning and prep work and cooking because I share this weekend with my son. And yes, I realize I wouldn't be a mother without him but I'm so exhausted after the last couple days it feels like I can't enjoy today the way I would like to... does anyone else feel this way or am I theonly selfish one?

bumpuser3155624

I didn'tv have the weekend you two ladies did but I took a day of OT yesterday so onlyb1real weekend day today. Spent doing laundry and grocery shopping. And dh got time to workout and a break. I'm tje one with a half marathon comimg up in 3 weeks.....ugh! So much for mothers day. Guess this is my future.....

emmy236

Yup pretty much had an awful Mother's Day here too. I mean I don't know what I expected. I do everything for everyone, so why did I think anyone would do something for me? Guess I'm still super bitter.

blush64

None of my kids are born today but I agree with @linegirl313‌ Mother's day is never very relaxing. It is never really all about me but I am ok with that.

Edit I don't think it is selfish to feel disappointed that the day will always be a rush.

bhjones1980

I'm sorry, that is sort of a bummer with that timing.

My Mother's Day will never be about me since my MIL thinks that only one mother can be celebrated at a time and she thinks that should be her! We spend the day making her feel special, special dinner, cards, flowers etc.

Sort of weird since me and my sister in laws are mother's too and that seems to never get mentioned.

coffeeandbooks

I understand where you are coming from...I really enjoyed my mother's day though because I was very explicit with DH about what I expected so I told him exactly what I wanted.  I have to be specific with him down to telling him to make sure he told me Happy Mother's Day when I woke up but that is what it takes and I think we are both better off because of it.
The whole mourning thing though I get in general because motherhood really does mean the end of one kind of life and the beginning of a new one.
I had a hard time letting my old life go with all its freedoms and have just slowly been making peace  with and really enjoying my new life.
edit - grammar

Boo0512

I spent Mother's Day with my mom and dad and my brother and SIL + kids. It was good to see them and I had fun.

However, it made me a little sad that my H did absolutely nothing for me. He said Happy Mother's Day and that was it. I tried not to have any expectations because he is not very good about things like this but a part of me was still disappointed. I have a feeling I'm not going to receive any acknowledgement until E is old enough to do something on her own.

emmy236

@Boo0512‌ I know exactly what you mean. All I wanted for Mother's Day was a relaxing day with my family and a picture taken of myself and R. DH cannot handle any day or holiday that isn't about him so he made sure he ruined both things. I ended up going into R's room after he was sleeping, successfully got him out and took a selfie of the two us in the rocker while he slept. I wanted something to remind me of my first Mothers Day.

aintnoyuppiemom

LO's Birthday was Mothers day this year and I was really looking forward to it. And then the in-laws Hi-jacked it. I wanted to see everyone for like a half hour each and then just be with my little family. We were supposed to do dinner just the three of us. Nope had to go out with the in-laws (once again leaving my family out) I didn't get home until after 8 and it was to late to give DS a cupcake. I was so upset.