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D&C update: where I almost died

So on Friday my 12 week scan showed that the pregnancy had stopped progressing at 8-9 weeks, which was obviously hard, but I was handling things ok. My MW said she'd refer me to the early pregnancy unit on Monday and that they'd be in touch to assess me and create a management plan, unless I started bleeding heavily in which case to go up to the hospital.

So Saturday evening, I started bleeding a lot. Rang my mw who let the hospital know I was coming in. DH dropped me at emergency doors while he went to park the car. As I stepped out of the car blood gushed to my ankles. So I walked into the ED trailing blood and clots, and weeping. They took me straight through to a room, got me cleaned up a bit, gave me fluids and were monitoring me.

Everything was stable and although I'd feel dizzy from time to time, they'd give me flui, tilt my bed upside down, and all seemed ok. The obstetrician decided I needed to go up to theatre, so we were just all patiently waiting for theatre to be ready, and the new OB to come on shift, and them to feel safe about when I last ate.

Then there was more bleeding, and I went into shock, my blood pressure dropped to 54/something, they wheeled me into resus, my arms seized up and I started shaking. They started giving me blood and oxygen and as soon as I was stable they got me up to theatre.

So I was that person being wheeled into a room, signing bits of paper, while they were hooking me up to things, and I could hear the surgeon scrubbing up. They had 3 anaesthetists there for me, apparently so one could put his hand on my throat to stop food coming up.

Procedure went well, and I'm back home now, but wow it got really scary really quickly. I did ask one nurse at the time if I was going to die, and she hesitated for way too long. The OB said it was completely abnormal to bleed so much, but as soon as they cleared the remains of the pregnancy the bleeding stopped almost immediately.

Fortunately DH was able to stay with me all the way up until theatre, so that helped me to feel like things weren't completely at the end, but still frightening none the less.

Anyway, just needed to get that out there. Hasn't been the best mother's day :) but clearly could have been a lot worse.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old

Re: D&C update: where I almost died

  • tlc35tlc35 member
    That is really scary, I'm glad you are doing OK now.
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  • Oh sweetheart. I'm so sorry that you had to experience that on top of your heartache. 

    Get some rest and enjoy the rest of Mother's Day with your daughters. I hope you feel as close to normal as possible soon. We're here for you when you need an ear.


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  • I'm so sorry for your loss and scary/terrible experience. It's good to hear things have stabilized and you sound like you're doing ok physically. ((Hugs)) for you and take it easy.
  • ksgsmuksgsmu member
    I am so so sorry!!!!  Get lot's of rest and let others take care of you!  (hugs)
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  • Oh my how scary!! I am sorry that happened to you. Rest up and take care...

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  • So sorry:) take care of you! Good luck!
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    Geez. That's so awful I can't even figure out what to say. I'm so glad you're (relatively) okay.
  • I am so sorry for your experience. I am glad you are doing better physically. What a scary event!
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds like a scary situation, glad you are better.
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  • Oh my gosh, that's terrifying.  Sorry sorry that happened to you.  Hope you are feeling better, both physically and emotionally.

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  • What a story. I'm glad you got to the hospital when you did. Please take care of yourself this week. My prayers are with you.

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  • That sounds hellacious. I'm so sorry you had such a traumatic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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  • I am so sorry things went as they did..  Glad to hear you are healing physically and I hope that continues and ts and ps for emotional healing as well.
  • That sounds so scary.  I'm so sorry you had to go through it.  Best wishes for continued physical and emotional healing--please be kind to yourself!
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  • Wow, I'm so glad you were able to get to the hospital and have them care for you. That must have been really scary. I'm glad to hear that you're home, resting and getting better!
  • Oh wow. Thanks for sharing this. I am so glad you're OK.
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  • I am so sorry to hear this - how scary!  I hope you are able to take the time to grieve as you recover.  Please take it easy as you continue to rest and heal.
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  • mindaamindaa member
    So scary... prayer for continued healing 
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  • You poor thing! What a horrible thing to go through. I'm so glad you're okay!!
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  • Wow, can't believe that happened to you.  So happy you made it through safely, though.  I hope you are doing better and sending lots of ((hugs)) to you, especially on your recent loss.

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  • That sounds very scary. I'm so sorry and I hope you can start the healing process and feel better soon. 
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  • Oh that's just horrible!!! I'm so sorry it was awful. Glad you are on the mend.

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  • sidey1sidey1 member
    More Hugs for you, try getting some iron rich foods the next few days and rest..

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  • Oh my goodness! I'm so glad you are ok. So scary!
  • KateLouiseKateLouise member
    edited May 2014
    Thank you ladies for all the kind support and thoughts.
    I'm definitely having ups and downs. Most on my mind at the moment is the idea of whether to TTC again or not. Part of me is really sad at the idea of not having more children, but the other part is really frightened of ever facing what I went through on Saturday again, even though all the Drs said, that there's no reason to think it should happen like that again.

    At the moment, my focus is just getting well because I'm just really weak, and putting away dishes is a bit much.

    @MrsMcIrish I've been hoping to see an update from you about your babies, how is everything going with you? Hope you're having a fabulous pregnancy and keeping well!!
    Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old

  • Im so so sorry. Hugs and healing to you. 
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  • lcwedlcwed member
    I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Thank goodness you got to the hospital in time and got the care you needed. Prayers for you and your family.
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  • Wow. I am so sorry. I haven't been online in several weeks, and I'm so sorry to return to this news. I hope you are healing well.

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  • Wow this is so sad & scary. Sry bout the m/c ((((hugs)))))
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