Thinking of all of you today.

ball.and.chain

I'm not a huge fan of Mother's Day.  It's been a hard day since my mom died over 10 years ago, and was especially difficult during the last two Mother's Days, when I was also struggling to become a mother myself.  I expect it will always be a little complicated for me.  It's a well-meaning holiday, and in most cases well-deserved.  I respect mothers, I think they tend to be some of the hardest-working, most selfless people in the world, and we owe them at LEAST one day a year.  I hope all the mothers and mothers-to-be on this board are enjoying themselves and their families today.

But I also know how heartbreaking it can be: for those who have lost a mother, who have lost a child, who have struggled without success to be a mother.  And I know there are quite a few of you in this boat on this board.  I'm not the type to say, "your time will come," because it's not true for everyone.  Just know you are in my thoughts today, even more than usual.

ETA: Someday I will write down all of my thoughts on Mother's Day.  Until then, I like what Anne Lamott has to say (even though I do not, technically, "hate" Mother'sr Day):
https://www.salon.com/2010/05/08/hate_mothers_day_anne_lamott/

Manada

Hugs. I read your post this morning. I am not a huge fan of mothers' day or the Hallmark holidays myself, but I don't mind going out for brunch with the fam so much.

H. and I have both talked about parents days being an opportunity for family time rather than cards, presents and treats.... And I think we will probably continue that.... But I definitely feel uncomfortable with any holiday that features alot of pressure to perform....

Infertility has really make me
Skeptical about the cult of motherhood.... Or at least aware of how strong it is. Being pregnant has made us "members" in ways we aren't entirely comfortable with.... We are still figuring out how to navigate that and not let those who are struggling, or choosing not to parent, believe they're forgotten on these days...