2nd baby on the brain

silvie25mar

my DD is now almost 27 months (hard to believe) and to make the past two years long story short I had a perfect pregnancy, difficutl labor/ emerg C- post partum eclampsia/hypertension and then a late onset (or late admittance) of Post Partum Anxiety. This resulted in a major strain to my relationship most in the last year. During that time I swore I did not want another baby for a LONG time and could not see it happening. Through lots and lots of communication and ups and downs and possibly "the end" my husband and I seemed to have made it through to the other side and have been in a much better place over the past 5 months thanks to me getting therapy and us both admitting our faults. I am now in a place where as more time passes, the more I think about having another baby. Both because I want to and because I would love for DD to have a sibling close to her in age. The both of us have danced around the idea very very lightly and in passing with comments like " when we have another" but I am covered with so many emotions like we just got into a good place... what if it all happens again, there is no way our relationship can go through that again- we will no doubt be over if it does. Actually, the ending of Greys last night fit us perfectly which is why i'm posting this. LOL. I'm terrified that I and we are in such a better place that to go back to that would be devastating. What if I can't handle it again, what if I get overwhelmed, what kind of toll will it take on my relationship. AM I READY? Just looking for some friendly and REAL advice. Hard facts. thanks.

mrskait13

You are getting the help that you need. which is amazing! I would continue with the therapy for a little while longer personally. 5 months is awesome. but I think you need to come to a place where you are no longer doubting "regression" (just my personal opinion. I am by no means a therapist). I think when you choose to have a child, you will be prepared for all the ups & downs again because they come with every child. (you have an adjustment period after all!) 

If you do get pregnant soon, keep with the therapy during and after your pregnancy!

ImJessesGirl

I think only you know if you're ready to have another baby or not. I think if you're questioning it, the answer is no you're not ready!