Third-Party Reproduction

Maybe an intro?

Hello everyone!  I've been stalking you all for awhile now (sounds so creepy), but really I enjoy reading your stories and I've learned SO much about the process of TPR. To introduce myself I am happily married with 2 wonderful girls (5 & 2).  For awhile (about a year), I've been considering being a GC. I just can't get it out of my head. I am completely retired from having my own little ones but the thought of giving someone the gift of life is so amazing! My husband however has not been on board, until last night!  We had a very good discussion about his concerns with it. After we talked, I learned he was really just nervous about how I would deal with it emotionally. So last night we decided I would submit my information to an agency and go from there.  I can't lie when I say I am pretty darn excited!  But I worry: What if they don't pick me? What if I am not a good candidate? So here I wait, for my someone to contact me from the agency.  So I hope you don't mind if I wait with you guys.  And I wanted to introduce myself so you know who is lurking about :)

Re: Maybe an intro?

  • liz4pawsliz4paws member
    edited May 2014

    Aww, I love how excited you are. And you are giving one of the most amazing gifts there is! So on behalf of your future IPs, THANK YOU for that gift and for your selflessness. I'll keep everything crossed that the process is smooth for you and your IPs, can have all of these dreams made true.


    ************ Signature/Ticker Warning ************
    Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
    Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
    DH: Severe MFI

    12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)

    My ovaries are just for decoration

    12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
    2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
    2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
    3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

    6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
    9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
    9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
    11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
    Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522  Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373 
    6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!

    Snowflake baby is a girl! 
    Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!   
    My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
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  • Welcome to the Group!!!

    As far as being a good candidate its hard to say with out know your med history.

    Best Of Luck!!!

    I am a 2x Surro nice to see another Surro on here :)
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  • lincoln79lincoln79 member
    edited May 2014
    *******Pregnancy and Loss Mentioned*********

    Welcome! You are offering a wonderful gift! We are IP for a LO due in November.
    One of the screenings you will have to do is a psychological screening. It will discuss emotional issues like the ones you mentioned and is very helpful!

    I will mention that our GC (gestational carrier) is a co-worker of mh. She offered after our first loss and we revisited the issue a year later after our third loss. We worked through the medical, legal, and psych independent of an agency, so there can be many paths to being a GC.

    This board is a great resource!!!
    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

    Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!


  • Welcome and good luck.  There are plenty of agencies and plenty of IP's, so don't worry if someone doesn't like you, you can't please everyone.  I've been turned down by agencies because I won't agree to terminate or reduce for ANY reason other than my life being in IMMEDIATE danger.  IP's have turned me down for similar reasons and I've turned IP's down for various reasons.  Try not to stress, it's a LONG, SLOW process.  Everyone says the slogan for surrogacy is "Hurry up and wait", I think they're right other than the "hurry up" part.  Are you on any surrogacy boards?  I would highly suggest you read as many surrogacy forums as possible, it's a very in-depth topic and you want to make sure you have a general idea of what's going on when it comes to matching and even choosing an agency.

    GSx1 - 05/13/2013
    GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!

  • Thank you ladies for the welcome!  From what I've seen you are all such a supportive group and I hope to add some of that for you.  A little more background (my name is Natasha), I don't actually have any bad medical history, I have had two c-sections but first one was due to previa and the 2nd one was my choice since I had one previously.  Otherwise I've been in great health.  So hoping that works in my favor.  I did check make the box "not willing to reduce" so it sounds like (as PP said) that may not work in my favor.  I'm still waiting for a consultation with the agency I chose, I keep checking my phone :)
  • :) That's so wonderful and selfless of you. I'm wishing you lots of luck! And welcome!!
    TTC since March 2012
    Dx: Unexplained IF, Arcuate Uterus, Minimal Endometriosis, Poor Embryo Quality
    Tx History: 1 Injects+TI, 5 IUIs, 3 IVFs, 1 FET = all BFN and full of heartbreak
    Plan: Waiting to see if our potential donor is a match for DE IVF #1

    Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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