Intro

stellasoo · May 2014

Hi everyone,

I've been lurking for a couple months and want to finally introduce myself.

I'm 39, DH is 41 and we've been married for almost 8 years, TTC since September. About a year and a half ago, I put 100% into losing weight, getting healthy and tracking my cycles. I have a short luteal phase so my doctor referred me to a RE and I started acupuncture shortly after that. The RE seemed to be more concerned about giving me diet and exercise advice than answering fertility related questions and giving us some direction on that front. We switched to a new RE a couple weeks ago and now we've got a plan to move on to IUI. I had my baseline ultrasound today and everything looked good. I have an HSG test scheduled for Monday (first RE said it wasn't necessary!) and I am completely and utterly freaked out about it. I'm starting Clomid tonight and hoping the HSG results are good so we can continue with IUI.

I never wanted to have kids but that changed when my niece was born a few years ago. It's funny that I went from being adamant that I would never have children to putting so much effort into TTC. I have hypothyroidism and the doctor who diagnosed me told me I probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant and if I did, the baby and I could have a lot of health complications. Because of that, DH and I actually considered adoption first. While we were looking into adoption, I switched to a new primary doctor who was shocked by what the first doctor told me. She encouraged me to focus on my health for a bit and then TTC. I was convinced it would happen just by getting healthier, losing weight, eliminating a lot of stress, etc. I still feel like it could happen naturally but let's be honest, at 39, time is not on my side. I was really excited for IUI but now my emotions are all over the place. I'm excited, terrified and everything in between. On good days, I am positive and convinced this will be the month. On bad days, I question whether I really want a child, if I'm meant to be a mother and how I will ever go through labor if I'm such a mess about the HSG and IUI. I don't really have anyone in real life to talk to other than DH so I'm feeling a bit isolated with all these new emotions.

I'm happy to have a place like this were other people are in a similar situation. I hope we all get our BFP's sooner rather than later!

Davie813 · May 2014

Welcome, and good luck! I'm sorry about some of the weird medical advice you've gotten in the past, and glad you're on the right track now! I think the anxieties you describe are very common (that probably doesn't make them easier to deal with, though!)

Why are you starting the clomid before your HSG, if you don't mind my asking?

lcwed · May 2014

Welcome and Good Luck! I'm glad you are with doctors that you like and trust. Sometimes that can make all the difference.

tlc35 · May 2014

Welcome to the board and good luck! I'm glad you found a new RE.

Lesliem0901 · May 2014

Best of luck and welcome to the board! Your emotions are completely normal. I felt like that at first too.

stellasoo · May 2014

Thanks for the welcome.

Davie - The new RE said he routinely starts Clomid in the same month that an HSG is done if all the other lab work has been normal, particularly for someone my age. He said if my tubes are blocked or there's something else going on, we won't do the trigger shot or insemination. My acupuncturist works mostly with fertility patients so I asked her what she thought. She said many of her patients have started clomid before the HSG and haven't had issues. This particular RE has an excellent reputation and is consistently voted to a list of top doctors in the area so I feel okay with it. I would be more concerned if he was willing to do the actual insemination before the HSG. I hope my gut feeling on this is right.

Lesliem0901 · May 2014

@stellasoo - My RE had me do the same thing.

Davie813 · May 2014

stellasoo said:

Thanks for the welcome.

Davie - The new RE said he routinely starts Clomid in the same month that an HSG is done if all the other lab work has been normal, particularly for someone my age. He said if my tubes are blocked or there's something else going on, we won't do the trigger shot or insemination. My acupuncturist works mostly with fertility patients so I asked her what she thought. She said many of her patients have started clomid before the HSG and haven't had issues. This particular RE has an excellent reputation and is consistently voted to a list of top doctors in the area so I feel okay with it. I would be more concerned if he was willing to do the actual insemination before the HSG. I hope my gut feeling on this is right.

That makes sense. I hope the HSG and IUI go smoothly!

thirtyninetoforty · May 2014

Welcome!

BeckyP005 · May 2014

Hello and welcome

kelley72 · May 2014

Welcome and I hope your journey goes smoothly and happily!

latershrader · May 2014

Hello! Welcome to the board! I'll keep my fingers crossed for your IUI!! HSG isn't too terrible. I popped 2 advil before going in and I was fine. My cycle was weird after that but otherwise no side affects. Good luck!

stellasoo · May 2014

soontobeshrader said:

Hello! Welcome to the board! I'll keep my fingers crossed for your IUI!! HSG isn't too terrible. I popped 2 advil before going in and I was fine. My cycle was weird after that but otherwise no side affects. Good luck!

Thank you - I made the mistake of googling it last week and came across way too many horror stories so it's good to know it's not always awful. The nurse I saw yesterday gave me a valium to take before the test (in addition to the ibuprofin) so hopefully that will calm my nerves a bit.

TAT2MAMI · May 2014

Welcome and best of luck!

Samuelismomma · May 2014

Welcome..hope your stay is short and sweet...hsg is tolerable but us girls on here with tilted uterus discovered it is more painful for us.. If you got Valium and Advil your golden:) good luck!