Can any STM's relate?

EricaOO

Hi ladies, I'm looking at this forum again after being away for some time.  I have a 5 month old daughter and am a full time working mom.  Caring for my daughter, working, spending time with my DH, and taking care of a home keeps me busy.  However, for SOME strange reason, i have baby fever already....I feel like a freak!  I HAVE a baby, a wonderful, beautiful, healthy baby.

I don't know if I really am ready for another (which would mean having babies just over a year apart) or if I just miss the excitment of pregnancy and the new addition to the family.

Not even sure if I'm directing this to the appropriate audience but your experiences are appreciated!

ashiscute

I actually think it's pretty normal because things tend to get a bit better around 5 mos and your baby is no longer a newborn.  You start feeling like a real human again and your showering and putting on makeup again (at least for me).  

Honestly, I'd give it a couple more months before you start trying again.  In the next few months your LO will master sitting independently, begin self feeding a bit, and start crawling.  There's a lot to focus on and keep you busy.  Mine are 19.5 mos apart and that has worked great for us.  But I'm not sure I could have handled much closer than that.  

ashiscute

Nicb13 said:

I felt like I was barely coming back to the world of the living when DS was 5 months old but I still did NOT want another kid yet. I think what you are feeling is pretty normal though for some people.

I personally wanted to have more one on one time with DS before being exhausted from pregnancy, insane from having a newborn and couldn't spend as much time with him as I used to. There's no perfect time to have a second kid but they go through so many cool things in the first 2 years (from what I've experienced) and I'm glad I could just focus on DS for those things.

Hell, I'm barely ready for this baby now!

HIJACK!

Congratulations!  I just saw your ticker!  It's so awesome having one of each!

EricaOO

ashiscute said:

I actually think it's pretty normal because things tend to get a bit better around 5 mos and your baby is no longer a newborn.  You start feeling like a real human again and your showering and putting on makeup again (at least for me).  

Honestly, I'd give it a couple more months before you start trying again.  In the next few months your LO will master sitting independently, begin self feeding a bit, and start crawling.  There's a lot to focus on and keep you busy.  Mine are 19.5 mos apart and that has worked great for us.  But I'm not sure I could have handled much closer than that.  

I think this is spot on.  And I agree with a PP - there's still a lot to focus on with DD now.  I need to keep reminding myself of that.  I  never imagined having kids that close in age.

normandyn7

I was the same way! I had major baby fever from the time my son was 2 months. He is 8 months now and baby fever went away about 2 months ago. I think once my hormones calmed down it went away. Now that I'm thinking rationally I know we aren't ready for another baby just yet. I'm really enjoying my son right now too since he is learning so much. I still get a pang of jealousy when I see a pregnant woman, but not as bad as I used to.

smg2302

I felt that way, and I agree, I think it's a side effect of feeling human again. When they start moving it gets a little different, you can't cuddle all the time anymore.  I still have bad baby fever because I miss cuddling.

blush64

I think it is completely normal. I wanted aother almost inmediately. A is almost 1 now and I love to be pregnant already but it just isn't the right time for us to try. If it helps talk to your husband and see if you can decide on a timeline. Something to look forward to is nice.

sweetpea2003

I am currently expecting #3, but my first two are only 16 months apart. I don't think it's crazy to have baby fever or to want children with a small amount of time between them. I can't tell you how awesome having them that close together has been. The first year after #2 was born was hard work, but now, I wouldn't change it for the world. They are two peas in a pod. My first child was IVF/ICSI after almost two years of TTC. So we didn't go back to birth control after my daughter was born and I found out I was pregnant when she was about 8 months old. I didn't really have "baby fever" because I truly thought I would have to go back to the RE for #2. However, when it happened the way it did we were thrilled. It worked out perfectly. We've had some trouble trying to have #3 (miscarriage, cycle craziness, etc) and I'm actually bummed at the big age gap. I wasn't ready for #3 when DS was 8 months old (noooo way) but I would have been happy to have had a third baby 18 months ago.